New Nurse BULLIED/UNDERMINED/DRIVEN OUT

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:o Hi, I am new to this forum. I am a 37 yr old mother of three who worked in the Ultrasound field for eons...before making the "smart" move to go back to school for nursing. I was in the hospital since I was 20, know the politics, made many friends and many enemies. I am an outspoken, honest,"say it like it is" person who believes in team work and NON backstabbing. I was recently terminated from a position as a staff nurse at a local hospital in M---- County Pennsylvania. I was in this program that would supposedly take me from med-surg all the way up to ICU/CCU. That's what I wanted. Ever since I had started at this institution I have encountered nothing but negative feedback. I am a new nurse, six month's into the GAME. I have been pulled into the nursing office about three times,confronted by two nurse managers that they feel I was just not getting it. That was the first meeting, when I was there on the floor as a new nurse for only 6 days. Then second meeting they told me that I wasn't filling out my I/O sheets (O.K) that "other nurses" were complaining that I was unaproachable, defensive, unfocused, and that patients were complaining too. I said, O.K, can you give me some examples so I know what to work on. They said that they didn't have it ALL written down but there were numerous complaints. I also supposedly talked about alot of the nurses to other nurses. ( At this point I am thinking am I in high school?) So I left that meeting solum and beaten....vowing to not say a peep to anyone. I have three children here to feed and a marriage on the rocks. But unfortunately I have a personality that loves to laugh, talk, help others, and really want to make a difference in patients and my coworkers lives. So that didn't last. I was told I was on probation again....after 5 months on the floor and that I was not ready to be trained on the telemetry floor. ( My background is Cardiology...Echo, holter scanning, etc.) The very next week they ( nursing office) decide to pull me to the telemetry floor, by myself, no preceptor or co-assign for 12 hrs. (Humph!) They( nursing office) call me about 3pm and ask me to stay to 7pm, there on telemtry. I opened my big 'ol mouth and said "Isn't it funny how I am not ready to be trained in telemtry but you can put me here for twelve hours." I stayed. The next week they pull me to the Oncology floor, which is a hospice floor also. I did a two week rotation there in December. I recieved 5 patients....One was dying...and did die on me, a psych patient with medical issues, a drug seeker, a normal medical case, and last but certainly not the least, a OPT coming in for blood that spoke only Russian. Well, my day was hell, so one of the other nurses "started" the ball rolling as far as my patient that had to recieve blood. She did the assessment and "got them ready for me". I was left with the IV stick and getting the blood. I did this all after sticking this poor woman three times because of rolly veins and I proceeded with it when the clerk told me the blood was ready. Appartently there were med's to give prior to the blood that I did not know about. I assumed (how wrong I was) the other nurse would have let me know this. She wrote the nursing progress notes on the patient and it was a mistake I will never make again. Anyhow, this woman's vein infiltrated, I took it out, iced it, then went to pull a seasoned nurse to restick here again. When the first unit of blood was done, I took her vitals and let the oncoming nurse that she had to get lasix folling the unit and after the second unit. This fact was told to me. Patients vitals all within normal parameters, I finished all the rest of my paperwork, and lastly checked if the oncoming nurse needed anything before I left. She said no. Off the next day, then went to work the day after, pulled in the office and was shown an order that stated Tylenol 650mg P.O, Benadryl 25mg, P.O, and Hydrocortosone (don't know the amount...blurry now) and that these meds were never given, now this patient was admitted with reactions and she is in CHF. I looked at the order and it had no time or when to give (premedicate or only PRN)So I am at fault but there were more than one pair of hands in this pot along with a badly written order. I was terminated. I was told that I didn't follow through. Then they said that I didn't even sign the progress note and that's when I told them that I did not write that. They said"oh...." I never receieved any written warnings nor had to sign for anything and I feel that I did not practice at 100% but it was a floor out of my realm. I hope all that reads this do not think that I think I am infallable. I am not. I just feel that this hospital had no intention of keeping me and were waiting to see me fall. I am a "6 month old nurse" in desperate need of a job and I need good references. I was going to stay at this one place until I hit my year mark. It does not look right when you go from place to place. I need some guidance here, if any body would be so kind. Thank you. Bindy :o

Bindy,

Thank you for sharing your post. I'm a new RN grad and have a lot of the same difficulties, although I was too frightened to go into acute care.

My long term care facility must hire from the same nurse pool as your last job! I've only been at this a little over a month, and have luckily been o.k. on my skills. My only problem is being pushed out on my own way too early, and losing my confidence. I was totally honest when brought in for a meeting (sent a resident out to dialysis without afternoon meds), and said I was overwhelmed and in middle of a morning med-pass. No calendar or 24-hr report mentioned this lady was to go for dialysis, and the nurse's aides just got her ready to go as usual. The ADON said somebody should definitely have been orienting me, and it was not all my fault. She thanked me for being honest, and put me on a closer-watched orientation. Problem is, the shift supervisors make comments like "If you haven't gotten it yet, you're not going to get it." Every day, they send me to a unit by myself. I start the morning med-pass, and then the ADON comes up and says, "They never should have done that. You're still on orientation. Please go to Unit so-and-so with nurse X who will help you."

-Thank goodness for this ADON. The other nurses say, "Well, how long is she going to be on orientation?" and the ADON and staff-development say, "Until she feels comfortable." That makes me feel guilty because usually I'm the last one to admit I'm comfortable. I'll settle for them sending me out when an honest nurse feels comfortable with me.

I wish all new nurses with similar experiences could band together to get better orientations. I still think there should be hospitals with lower ratios for new grads, even if it means a little less pay. It would be our choice to work there, just to get our feet wet.

:o Hi, I am new to this forum. I am a 37 yr old mother of three who worked in the Ultrasound field for eons...before making the "smart" move to go back to school for nursing. I was in the hospital since I was 20, know the politics, made many friends and many enemies. I am an outspoken, honest,"say it like it is" person who believes in team work and NON backstabbing. I was recently terminated from a position as a staff nurse at a local hospital in M---- County Pennsylvania. I was in this program that would supposedly take me from med-surg all the way up to ICU/CCU. That's what I wanted. Ever since I had started at this institution I have encountered nothing but negative feedback. I am a new nurse, six month's into the GAME. I have been pulled into the nursing office about three times,confronted by two nurse managers that they feel I was just not getting it. That was the first meeting, when I was there on the floor as a new nurse for only 6 days. Then second meeting they told me that I wasn't filling out my I/O sheets (O.K) that "other nurses" were complaining that I was unaproachable, defensive, unfocused, and that patients were complaining too. I said, O.K, can you give me some examples so I know what to work on. They said that they didn't have it ALL written down but there were numerous complaints. I also supposedly talked about alot of the nurses to other nurses. ( At this point I am thinking am I in high school?) So I left that meeting solum and beaten....vowing to not say a peep to anyone. I have three children here to feed and a marriage on the rocks. But unfortunately I have a personality that loves to laugh, talk, help others, and really want to make a difference in patients and my coworkers lives. So that didn't last. I was told I was on probation again....after 5 months on the floor and that I was not ready to be trained on the telemetry floor. ( My background is Cardiology...Echo, holter scanning, etc.) The very next week they ( nursing office) decide to pull me to the telemetry floor, by myself, no preceptor or co-assign for 12 hrs. (Humph!) They( nursing office) call me about 3pm and ask me to stay to 7pm, there on telemtry. I opened my big 'ol mouth and said "Isn't it funny how I am not ready to be trained in telemtry but you can put me here for twelve hours." I stayed. The next week they pull me to the Oncology floor, which is a hospice floor also. I did a two week rotation there in December. I recieved 5 patients....One was dying...and did die on me, a psych patient with medical issues, a drug seeker, a normal medical case, and last but certainly not the least, a OPT coming in for blood that spoke only Russian. Well, my day was hell, so one of the other nurses "started" the ball rolling as far as my patient that had to recieve blood. She did the assessment and "got them ready for me". I was left with the IV stick and getting the blood. I did this all after sticking this poor woman three times because of rolly veins and I proceeded with it when the clerk told me the blood was ready. Appartently there were med's to give prior to the blood that I did not know about. I assumed (how wrong I was) the other nurse would have let me know this. She wrote the nursing progress notes on the patient and it was a mistake I will never make again. Anyhow, this woman's vein infiltrated, I took it out, iced it, then went to pull a seasoned nurse to restick here again. When the first unit of blood was done, I took her vitals and let the oncoming nurse that she had to get lasix folling the unit and after the second unit. This fact was told to me. Patients vitals all within normal parameters, I finished all the rest of my paperwork, and lastly checked if the oncoming nurse needed anything before I left. She said no. Off the next day, then went to work the day after, pulled in the office and was shown an order that stated Tylenol 650mg P.O, Benadryl 25mg, P.O, and Hydrocortosone (don't know the amount...blurry now) and that these meds were never given, now this patient was admitted with reactions and she is in CHF. I looked at the order and it had no time or when to give (premedicate or only PRN)So I am at fault but there were more than one pair of hands in this pot along with a badly written order. I was terminated. I was told that I didn't follow through. Then they said that I didn't even sign the progress note and that's when I told them that I did not write that. They said"oh...." I never receieved any written warnings nor had to sign for anything and I feel that I did not practice at 100% but it was a floor out of my realm. I hope all that reads this do not think that I think I am infallable. I am not. I just feel that this hospital had no intention of keeping me and were waiting to see me fall. I am a "6 month old nurse" in desperate need of a job and I need good references. I was going to stay at this one place until I hit my year mark. It does not look right when you go from place to place. I need some guidance here, if any body would be so kind. Thank you. Bindy :o

There are some real _itches out there. Use college references, and any nurse that you have workrd with. There is such a need for nurses someone will hire you. I have been where you are. Get busy looking for another job. Move on. You can do it! I did, and got a $3 hr raise as well! Goodluck!:)

Specializes in E.D and Tele.
There are some real _itches out there. Use college references, and any nurse that you have workrd with. There is such a need for nurses someone will hire you. I have been where you are. Get busy looking for another job. Move on. You can do it! I did, and got a $3 hr raise as well! Goodluck!:)

I was offered the ER position and I accepted it. Even though I am scared and intimidated, I realize that I have the will and determination to learn what needs to be learned to become a competent ER nurse. No one starts out knowing everything. I have my old BLS text that I will review from front to back and then I will review my lab numbers....mainly ABG's and such. It is a once in a lifetime chance to get to walk in ER as a new nurse. I feel blessed. I hope I am right. I did get a raise but unfortunately it will be eaten up by city wage and gas money. So I will end up making the same but have a way better opportunity in the long run. It is so funny how life unfolds.....we really don't know what each day entails. I guess that's what makes life so exciting at times. Thank you for your support,I have conversed with many RN friends and relatives about my matters. One nurse in my family is only 28 yrs old and she worked since she was 21, now she had her second child.....says she will never go back. I feel like it is a waste but she say's she's never been more serene. Ah, serenity.....what's that?! :rotfl: Have a good one. Bindy

Specializes in Trauma, Teaching.

Bindy, be ready to look at ER training for the long haul. Most places consider you inexperienced until you've been there for at least a year, before you are really comfortably in the groove. I'd been a nurse for a lot of years (okay, around 16) when I moved to ER. Its a strange experience to go from the "old hand, know it all resource type" to being the absolute newby. Sounds like your precepting and mentoring is all set! Go for it! Ask lots of questions, and never be afraid to admit there is something you need help with, better safe than sorry. We all help each other out, ER is definately team work.

Good luck and God Bless.

Specializes in Case Management.

Bindy, I read your story and I feel so bad for you. I can relate. I work in the Pittsburgh area, I worked in a small community hospital west of the city several years ago. I paid my dues there and moved on to the Health Insurance arena. When I worked in the hospital I met another girl my age and we got along great. We worked steady nights together and became great friends. The other nurses on the telemetry unit where we worked seemed jealous of us, we both worked part time and socialized a lot outside of work. We both had young kids but sometimes we would go out together while our husbands babysat, and we always had some wild stories to tell of our experiences. We would spend our down time laughing and relating our latest story to our coworkers. The guys loved us but we knew that the female nurses were less than impresseed. They complained about everything about us, but they had nothing of substance to say; we were both good floor nurses, very detail oriented and completed our tasks well. We went above and beyond and we both stayed beyond the end of our shift if we needed to, to get the job done. We both ended up leaving the unit after some horrible rumors were spread about us which were terrible lies. We both went to work for health insurance companies in our area. I recently went back to work on site at that same hospital as a UM nurse reviewer for my insurance company. I work steady daylight weekends and holidays off, I wear pretty dresses and suits to work every day, and I see these same people still working on the same telemetry unit, and I smile to myself, because they did not defeat me. So keep your chin up, put in your time, learn everything you can, and someday if you want a change of pace, let me know. You are a good person, don't let anyone make you feel differently. And welcome to the city! It may be more of a drive, but it can be very exiting! :balloons:

Because I have been through a similar experience. I was terminated after 24 yrs as an rn in one hospital following nothing but above ave reviews and no incidents. You sound like you are familiar with the politics in hospitals and you probably know others this type of thing has happened to. In our hospital there were three pages of nurses terminated who were over 40 in the last 3-5 yrs.Everyone who I've told about my case say I was scapegoated or hazed. The unit director who fired me is young and this was her first management position and she had her title for less than three months when she terminated me. The clincher is that not only did they terminate me they filed a complaint with the State Board of Nursing and the charges are completely trumpted up and nearly complete lies. The investigator from the State Board was completely disgusted with my unit director and the hospital because they wouldn't cooperate with the interviewer and she went so far as to advise me to sue them and in turn report them to the board. So 6 months later and 7000.00 for a good Lawyer, I've just been told that in the state of Pa anyone can make any complaint against you to the Board and even if there's NO truth whatsoever to it you cannot use it to sue them AND even if vindicated by the State, it will stay on your record forever.I also know by now that unless you belong to a union ,you have no rights as an employee. they can fire you for not liking the way you look.What does that say about our profession and why so many nurses like us want no more to do what they once loved.

[ I cannot believe this....they are short of nurses???

Hard to believe when lots of us are getting the axe....

I was going to for the heck of it ...cal a nursing home and ask to do Nurses aide work....

seems there is lots of need for them and make more money than I am making now..

I am presently working in retail at a retail chain store...

and I love it...but the money sucks and then I think I should just try to get another job...

welll... luck to us all..

we know we did the best even when they wrote us up and terminated us..

We will go on through our lives knowing the people we all helped and they were appreciative.................

We know we werew all committed to our profession and kept it strong.......... heck we did better in the old days than they are doing now....and that is because the boss is usually not a nurse but a person who went to school with a business degree and knows how to run the numbers... who cares not for the profession not has the compassion we have....

so to every nurse who is out there ...hold your head high ...and be proud of the times you made a difference to another person...

Stay well...

QUOTE=hartmoon]Because I have been through a similar experience. I was terminated after 24 yrs as an rn in one hospital following nothing but above ave reviews and no incidents. You sound like you are familiar with the politics in hospitals and you probably know others this type of thing has happened to. In our hospital there were three pages of nurses terminated who were over 40 in the last 3-5 yrs.Everyone who I've told about my case say I was scapegoated or hazed. The unit director who fired me is young and this was her first management position and she had her title for less than three months when she terminated me. The clincher is that not only did they terminate me they filed a complaint with the State Board of Nursing and the charges are completely trumpted up and nearly complete lies. The investigator from the State Board was completely disgusted with my unit director and the hospital because they wouldn't cooperate with the interviewer and she went so far as to advise me to sue them and in turn report them to the board. So 6 months later and 7000.00 for a good Lawyer, I've just been told that in the state of Pa anyone can make any complaint against you to the Board and even if there's NO truth whatsoever to it you cannot use it to sue them AND even if vindicated by the State, it will stay on your record forever.I also know by now that unless you belong to a union ,you have no rights as an employee. they can fire you for not liking the way you look.What does that say about our profession and why so many nurses like us want no more to do what they once loved.

this thread may be dead by now but I would love to hear how things have faired for you Bindy.

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