Needing to Vent............

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Specializes in Med/Surge, Private Duty Peds.

i just need to vent! yesterday went with family for a f/u with doc. get home after the appt and both mom and day go take a 5 hr nap! i completely understand mom needing to nap cause she is up most nights with pt. but dad hasn't worked in 2 months ( fmla) and sleeps at nights and yet complains he needs his rest. for the first time i felt like a higher paid baby-sitter.

thanks so much needed to get it off my chest. for the most part i love my job but yesterday was just one of those days where i would have rather been someplace else!

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Specializes in med-surg, teaching, cardiac, priv. duty.

I feel your pain NurseHobbit! Vent all you want! I was actually thinking of venting too and saw your post!

I left hospital nursing over 4 years ago now, because of general nursing "burn-out". Private duty has served me very well the last 4 years. It is lower stress for sure! But now I think I am suffering from something a bit different - "compassion fatigue" I think. These families of long-term disabled loved ones can be so needy and clingy. They can take advantage. If you give an inch, they take a mile. Whether it is a family that backs away or is hyper vigilant, sometimes you just can't do enough for them. I am more of a independent person that needs space, and I think all the neediness is just getting to me. If this makes any sense?

Add to this the utter incompetence of my agency. I do not even want to go into it - but they have yet AGAIN totally screwed up the schedule. When you notify them of your schedule requirements (needing time off) they seem to literally "do nothing"....

I have a plan to leave nursing all together in the next 2 or 3 years. But now I feel I need a change sooner than that! I have been considering what other jobs I could do NOW....

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One thing I dislike is lack of integrity and the need to play games. Just say what you want or don't want and act like an adult. The need to make up stories and act in a condescending manner is not lost on the caregiver. Treating caregivers like they walked in off the street without proper working papers, so they have to jump before you say to do something, does not score points with the people relied upon to be there when you don't want to care for your family member yourself. Do it enough and you will be looking for a new agency. Go through enough agencies and you will be doing the care yourself. Just my:twocents:

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Specializes in Med/Surge, Private Duty Peds.

glad to know i am not alone. today was much better, except for the dad of pt. he is spoiled brat and a mama's boy.

for the most part, i really like my job and really look forward to taking care of this litte munchkin . after 8 months she has kinda grown on me.

thanks for listening guys! you all are the best!!

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Specializes in Med/Surge, Private Duty Peds.
i feel your pain nursehobbit! vent all you want! i was actually thinking of venting too and saw your post!

felt great to get it off my chest!

i left hospital nursing over 4 years ago now, because of general nursing "burn-out".been there done that! private duty has served me very well the last 4 years. it is lower stress for sure!

:yeah::yeah: but now i think i am suffering from something a bit different - "compassion fatigue" can so relate!i think. these families of long-term disabled loved ones can be so needy and clingy. they can take advantage. if you give an inch, they take a mile. whether it is a family that backs away or is hyper vigilant, sometimes you just can't do enough for them. i am more of a independent person that needs space, and i think all the neediness is just getting to me. if this makes any sense?

add to this the utter incompetence of my agency. i do not even want to go into it - but they have yet again totally screwed up the schedule.i have no complaints with my agency, except they can't get the 485 correct!

when you notify them of your schedule requirements (needing time off) they seem to literally "do nothing"....my guys understand and that really makes a difference too!

i have a plan to leave nursing all together in the next 2 or 3 years. but now i feel i need a change sooner than that! i have been considering what other jobs i could do now....

i am not to that point yet! already been a fast food manager, a us navy vet and i just about ready to stop working, except who is going to pay me bills matey!

nursing sure takes a toll on us doen't it! hope you have a great weekend and i'm sure i 'll be back to post soon!

remember it is 5:00 somewhere!

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It definitely makes a difference when you have compassionate recruiters and staffers. Find a good one and stick with them. Maxim Healthcare Services has been great for me the last 2 years. I would recommend going the extra mile and really taking the time to get to know your staffer. Remember, they have 50-150 nurses to work with, and you only work with 2 or 3 recruiters. If they know you on a personal level it makes a HUGE difference.

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