in need of a pep talk...

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I love my classes and am doing excellent grade wise however we have a very small class and a few girls are making it pretty unbearable for me. I did something nice for one of them and it has come back to bite me due to the person being ungrateful. I feel as if I am back in high school being pushed as an outcast and having to hear negative comments when I walk by. I have been doing my best to ignore it and be the more mature/bigger person but it is really now starting for effect my mood and my desire to do anything including studying. I keep telling myself it is only a year but when your in such as small class it is hard. any advise? I do have one person in my class that has stuck by my side which I am grateful for. I just need advise on how to get out of the rut and back to my old self. ugh.

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I love my classes and am doing excellent grade wise however we have a very small class and a few girls are making it pretty unbearable for me. I did something nice for one of them and it has come back to bite me due to the person being ungrateful. I feel as if I am back in high school being pushed as an outcast and having to hear negative comments when I walk by. I have been doing my best to ignore it and be the more mature/bigger person but it is really now starting for effect my mood and my desire to do anything including studying. I keep telling myself it is only a year but when your in such as small class it is hard. any advise? I do have one person in my class that has stuck by my side which I am grateful for. I just need advise on how to get out of the rut and back to my old self. ugh.

Ignore is the key...just do your best to outshine them.....the old saying misery loves company is the truth. When I was in school for medical assistant I went through the same thing. Just ignore them and keep you head high!!!

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Do something for yourself! Take a day off and have a spa day! Invite your friend along to. A day away from school and homework and with people who have stuck by you will reinforce that not all people are rude and ungrateful for nice people like your self!

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Wow is all I can say...that sounds so juvenile. Things like that did not happen in my program everyone was very helpful to each other and friends. Just keep your head in the game and do what you have to do to get through the program. They must not be studying enough if they are spending so much time trying to bother you. Dont let them get in the way of your dream of becoming a NURSE! They want to see you fail....Dont give them that satisfaction. Keep it movin' hun! You got this!

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I've had that happen too unfortunately :(

After a few awkward days, something clicked in my head. Those first days that I walked through those doors I knew NO ONE, everyone was a stranger. Was that what I walked through those doors for? HECK NO! I am there to become a nurse!

Remind yourself what you are there for, you are there for YOU, for your future, for your dream.

My advice: Have your pity party, morn...whatever you need to do to get it out of your system. THEN, focus on what it is that you want, how are you going to get there? Then get back in the saddle with your head held high, and look forward into the future seeing yourself as a nurse.

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You are not alone!! I am dealing with this also. I am the youngest and these women are very childish, petty and they love to gossip. And I am talking about 30 year olds that are married with children. It is ridiculous! When I am in class I feel like I am back in high school. I put my game face on, ignore and tune out as much of the drama as possible. I am here for one reason only, and that is not to be anybody's bestie. I am not the type of person who needs a large group of friends around; I am happy with the two that I have in class though. They make my day go by. Just focus on YOU.

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Ignore them physically and mentally, no eye contact, just block them totally out, stay away from them if you can. Then when u do have to encounter them treat them with sincere kindness. The blocking out and ignoring is to protect yourself and your feeling, and concentration, treating them with kindness puts it back on them, like a mirror. maybe they will see they are ignorant. And show you are worth knowing as a person. Let your instructor know this in private, and leave it in her hands. This is a MAJOR learning lesson for you, because YOU WILL encounter worse co-workers, bosses, Doctors, Supervisors then this in the medical field. And age does not matter from young nurses to old nurse there are just some who are miserable people. So try to learn from this experience. Associate with the ones who are mature and are their to learn also Focus!

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thank you everyone for the advise I really do appreciate it. I used the kind words this morning before class which help get through the day and actually had motivation to study this evening. Time to get back on track, I know I can do this! thank you all!!

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I have no plan B I need to get through the next 18 months of PN school. No matter what is happening in my class I focus on what I need to do to get through. Just concentrate on your own self, get your work done, and don't let anything look like it bothers you. You can do this.

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