Need some encouragement....

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HI!! I am a first semester nursing student ...I am having trouble transitioning from being a SAHM (stay at home mom) to being a student...We are in a great position for me to go to school now because my DH is at home on long term disability and he will be paid to stay at home at least until I graduate..the problem is this I feel sooooo guilty about being away from my children their ages are 5 years 3 years and 18 months..I am so used to doing everything and DH feels so awkward doing my mommy duites (although he never complains)...I have great support from him but my heart breaks everytime I have to leave them...I am doing very well in school academically my test scores thus far are 93 and 100 so no problem there just this nagging feeling that I am trading them in for a career..KWIM?? I also want another baby and wondering when I would fit that in too...I am so torn..all of you nursing student momma's does the transition get any easier?? I want to quit one day and the next I don't..I know that I really feel called to be a nurse I just hope the next 19 months fly by!!

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Specializes in Urgent Care.

I hope it will get easier for you. In my program, almost all of us are mothers. I had a study session at my house this past weekend and many brought their kids so we could practice assessments on each other. It was nice not to have to worry about who will watch your kids so you can meet with a study group. It all works out somehow. best of luck to you! :)

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Speaking from experience, it does get better. I finally feel confident and comfortable leaving everything in Daddy's hands. Don't get me wrong, I'm in my last semester and I still check my cell phone (on silent of course) every 30 minutes to make sure the school or 911 haven't been called, but it does get better. (Trust me, I'm a control freak!)

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Specializes in Rural Health.

The guilt will never ever go away, but it will ease after time. Just think about what you are doing for your family by your education and not focus so much on the guilt side.

My husband works from home, therefore he takes care of the home stuff and honestly, that is fine with me but it took almost 3 years before it was fine with me. My son has developed an awesome relationship with his dad because of this. While it doesn't make it easy when I have class and have to work and I seem to miss out on so much, I also know that I'm giving my husband a chance to be a parent too and enjoy this stuff with him.

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It's great for dads to have a chance to take care of their children. It doesn't have to be the mom that stays home. My husband is the primary child care giver, and he loves it. He and my daughter have a great relationship.

Nursing school is doable with kids, but I think you need a lot of support and encouragement. Think of the great role model you're being for your kids by going to school to earn a degree. :nurse:

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Specializes in LDRP.

I feel guilty as well, though my kids are now 6 and 8...I guess I also figure I have been home for 8 years-not a lot of the moms I know can say that. I homeschooled this last year while out of school, and I love being with my kids, yet I do need to do some things for myself. One of those things is finishing my degree. BUT my kids ALWAYS come first. I will drop nursing in a second if I see they are suffering or have a need.

Take care! You can make it all work... you are not alone. Find some mommy friends at school and lean on them.

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