My Patiet Said He LOVES me...

Katnip, RN · Sep 8, 2005

Set firm limits. Tell him this is a professional relationship only. If it gets too bad, then tell your superviser about it and refuse to take him as a patient.

Rohan · Sep 8, 2005

Talk to your supervisor. He can't force you to be his nurse.

**RosesrReder, BSN, MSN, RN** · Sep 8, 2005

better nip in the butt now. Talk to your supervisor now, so that if anything should happen they would have already known. I agree with the poster to set the limits and make that the relationship is nothing more than professional. Good luck. :)

llg, PhD, RN · Sep 8, 2005

I agree with the above posters. You cannot let the situation continue. Talk to your supervisors and get their help in nipping the problem in the bud. I would request not to be his caregiver until the problem is resolved to your satisfaction. If he doesn't let the other staff members care for him, someone should tell him that his choice will be respected and his needs will go unmet.

No if's, and's, or but's on this question. Set limits: be firm: report it to your supervisor: stay as far away as possible for a while.

llg

Haunted · Sep 8, 2005

That is a howl! I had a young guy, quadraplegic with multiple health issues so he was in the hospital for a while. On his information board in his room he has a section titled "BOOBS" with hash marks. He tells me that for every woman, including the nursing staff that flashes him he puts a notch on the board.

He requested that I accomodate his wishes by flashing my beloved 34 C store bought boobs for him and I laughed so hard I nearly wet my pants! I told him that if I had a nickle for every time someone asked to see my boobs I would have a dime, mostly from my mammography technician!

You probably are a lovely person and it is natural for a patient to develope feelings for you as a caregiver. These feelings are not based in reality, however and it is important for you to seperate those emotions from what you are being paid to do. There is also a very strong manipulative component that is evident here, this patient has learned how to use that skill effectively in causing you to question your ethics.

Cute_CNA, CNA · Sep 8, 2005

That is a howl! I had a young guy, quadraplegic with multiple health issues so he was in the hospital for a while. On his information board in his room he has a section titled "BOOBS" with hash marks. He tells me that for every woman, including the nursing staff that flashes him he puts a notch on the board.
He requested that I accomodate his wishes by flashing my beloved 34 C store bought boobs for him and I laughed so hard I nearly wet my pants! I told him that if I had a nickle for every time someone asked to see my boobs I would have a dime, mostly from my mammography technician!
You probably are a lovely person and it is natural for a patient to develope feelings for you as a caregiver. These feelings are not based in reality, however and it is important for you to seperate those emotions from what you are being paid to do. There is also a very strong manipulative component that is evident here, this patient has learned how to use that skill effectively in causing you to question your ethics.

Man, I would have had a very difficult time NOT telling him where to go.

I agree that this patient is being manipulative; it almost sounds like he is trying to make you his slave. He needs to be told in no uncertain terms that your relationship with him will ONLY be professional, and that there is no reason that he should not accept the help of other staff. It is an unreasonable request.

I have had many patients get crushes on me (I'm 25, and they tell me I'm attractive). It gets VERY annoying sometimes to have people ask your marital status, and if you have kids. It's none of their darn business! Don't be afraid to be a bit stern. If I have a patient that continually talks to me about my personal attributes, I refuse to speak with them, and if they need something, I refer them to another staff member.

I'm feelin' ya! It's aggravating.

loquacity · Sep 8, 2005

I've just started nursing school this week, but for the alst 2 summers, i had a summer job workign with recreation at a LTC/lodge facilty. being only 16/17 at the time, many old ladies got confused, and were very umm... embaressing. I've had offers to spoon with people, one lady is incredibly insistent to get me to lay in her bed with her, iv had offers to go out on dates from lots of residents. lol. Its very amusing in many ways, and all the other staff really got a kick out of it.

Oh and then there were the nevere let go hand holders, they'd shake your ahdn to greet you, or just grab it when you were doing something else, and nevere wanted to let go. It was a very amusing job. Althouig soemtimes i hurt theri feeligns when i said no But if it did go any furtehr id do the things everyone else on teh board ahs said to do.

NurCrystal22 · Sep 9, 2005

Thanks for the advice. I told me supervisor and I said I would no longer take care of him, but if other nurses go in his room he throws a fit. It's nuts. But today I switched floors until he leaves, which should be in another week. It's been crazy! THANKS EVERYONE.

~Crystal