My NM is too young!!!!

[greenscrubrn]

Hi all, I am a new nurse who works in very busy hospital . This is my 1st nursing job.

I don`t get along with my NM very well. I don`t feel like we are communicating each other at all. Everytime she talks to me, she puts me down. I had a meeting with her, she just critisized my mistake(minor med-error), and it did sounds like she was accusing me about the issue. She is mid-20s and this is her first NM position. She was a nurse on the unit before, so there is too much click and favortism. I feel that this is not fair.

Just because this is her first NM job and she doen`t have enough experiences, why she has to be so hard on me? she should know how to talk to people. She should not talks down people. She never gave me compliments or never told me how well I am doing. She doesn`t know how to approach things.

I work hard, and never late to work. Two other nurses said it just her personality. Some nurses on the unit feel the same as I feel, they start doubting her NM skill also. Is it worth staying in this unit? I don`t trust her and I can`t count on her as NM. All I think is she is too young to be a NM and she doesn`t stand up for the nurses. I don`t want to quit my first job, because I like the hospital and my area of nursing, but I am so hopeless.

I just can`t talk to her anymore because I know she will not do anything to help me when I have problems. What should I do?

[love-d-OR]

My NM is 29 years old and she is a great manager! Are you concerned about her age or her management skills??? Are you saying that if she had treated you with the same disrespect but was 55 years old, you would have tolerated it?

Yes, age makes you wiser. Yes, with age you are exposed to more life challenges and experiences, but don't use her age to justify her behavior. Plus, I wonder if you unknowingly projecting your feelings (kinda negative) during your meeting affected her communication style

[Ruby Vee, BSN]

hi all, i am a new nurse who works in very busy hospital . this is my 1st nursing job.

i don`t get along with my nm very well. i don`t feel like we are communicating each other at all. everytime she talks to me, she puts me down. i had a meeting with her, she just critisized my mistake(minor med-error), and it did sounds like she was accusing me about the issue. she is mid-20s and this is her first nm position. she was a nurse on the unit before, so there is too much click and favortism. i feel that this is not fair.

just because this is her first nm job and she doen`t have enough experiences, why she has to be so hard on me? she should know how to talk to people. she should not talks down people. she never gave me compliments or never told me how well i am doing. she doesn`t know how to approach things.

i work hard, and never late to work. two other nurses said it just her personality. some nurses on the unit feel the same as i feel, they start doubting her nm skill also. is it worth staying in this unit? i don`t trust her and i can`t count on her as nm. all i think is she is too young to be a nm and she doesn`t stand up for the nurses. i don`t want to quit my first job, because i like the hospital and my area of nursing, but i am so hopeless.

i just can`t talk to her anymore because i know she will not do anything to help me when i have problems. what should i do?

what should you do? obviously you should try harder to get along with your nurse manager. she may not have enough experience, she may be new in her job, and she may not know how to approach things. on the other hand, your mistake may not be minor, and perhaps she doesn't compliment you or tell you how well you're doing because you aren't doing well. perhaps she was promoted out of a clique and it may not be fair. but the thing is, she's the manager and you're just a new nurse. the onus is on you. grow up and deal with it.

[SuesquatchRN, BSN, RN]

My current boss is young enough to be my daughter and I would follow her to the ends of the hospital earth.