Hi! I am a nursing school student who just got into nursing school this semester.
I am the only Asian in my cohort, and I have been trying to make friends my cohort ever since I have been to nursing school...
The situation started when I talked to the people on my table. (They were all black except me)
It was when Trump became a president. I was trying to be mutual because there must be someone who voted for Trump in our cohort, but when I said "Trump became a president." They started laughing and said "how you say is like you support him." So I said no, I was just being mutual. And then, they started talking about other things, and I did not hear the conversation because I was on phone, and later like 3-5 minutes later I heard someone next to me saying even black guys hate black girls. So I thought they were talking about dating so I said "all races hate asians. I might be able to complain, you guys cannot." I was joking (maybe I should not have said that), but they left the classroom for like 20 minutes and came back crying... They came back to the seat, and one of the black girls started yelling at me and saying "Do you know what is like to be in LGBTQ communities? Have you ever called N word?" I was so baffled because I never said that and I was never talking about LGBTQ people. The people in my cohort started at me and do not even wanna talk to me because they think I said N word to them and they think I am such a rude person. After this occasion, they pick up everything I do and every mistake I make and say I can never be a nurse. This is really hard for me. I am also worried that they might spread false rumor about me. Do you think it will affect my future career?
*I want to be honest. It looks like they did not like me even before this. Regardless, after this happened, they constantly accuse me and saying that I know what I did and criticize me.
I need advise. What would you do and how would you react?
Hi, I certainly can relate to being misunderstood by other students in school, when we are of different ethnicity. Often, the best thing for me was to be rather neutral about everything. Since, that seems to be too late for you, unfortunately, I would have to weigh my options. How much more time do you have to go in the program? If it's just a little bit I would just grin and bear it. If it's a lot more time left in the program I would strongly consider, changing semesters/ classmates. I do wish you all the best either way. (Yes, I'm Asian)
Then quit if you want to quit. The world moves on. Not sure if you are looking for validation? Yes people have different perspectives and beliefs. Politics at work (which I consider school work) I would never ever discuss.
Thank you guys so much for the advice. I learned from this mistake and I am not trying to make any arguments here or anything. I wanted to delete this post but I guess the website did not let me. Please stop the argument here cuz that was NOT the reason I posted my story here. I genuinely wanted an advice. Thank you.
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Hi, I certainly can relate to being misunderstood by other students in school, when we are of different ethnicity. Often, the best thing for me was to be rather neutral about everything. Since, that seems to be too late for you, unfortunately, I would have to weigh my options. How much more time do you have to go in the program? If it's just a little bit I would just grin and bear it. If it's a lot more time left in the program I would strongly consider, changing semesters/ classmates. I do wish you all the best either way. (Yes, I'm Asian)