My boss is out of control!

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She calls me constantly for every little thing. I love my job in Assisted Living and the patients adore me as well...but my boss is out of control. On every single day that I have off, she calls and marks the messages "Urgent" even though they're far from it. She'll call me for an order that she didn't understand, a list of things she is going to leave for me to do, a list of things she's done already, etc... She complains constantly about everything that isn't done perfectly. What should I do?

1) Leave

2) Not call her back and begin ignoring her charades

3) ???

I'll never meet up to her standards. Noone has so far. She is meddling in my personal life far too much... I never have a day off where she doesn't call.

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You need to find another job. Goodness... tell her to get a life!!!

She calls me constantly for every little thing. I love my job in Assisted Living and the patients adore me as well...but my boss is out of control. On every single day that I have off, she calls and marks the messages "Urgent" even though they're far from it. She'll call me for an order that she didn't understand, a list of things she is going to leave for me to do, a list of things she's done already, etc... She complains constantly about everything that isn't done perfectly. What should I do?

1) Leave

2) Not call her back and begin ignoring her charades

3) ???

I'll never meet up to her standards. Noone has so far. She is meddling in my personal life far too much... I never have a day off where she doesn't call.

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bill for the overtime! That should put a stop to it. Or before you go on your days off tell her to keep a list of things she wants to discuss with you and that you will check in with her at start of shift on your first day back to work. Also if she keeps asking you to clarify orders be very, very specific when you write orders.

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She calls me constantly for every little thing. I love my job in Assisted Living and the patients adore me as well...but my boss is out of control. On every single day that I have off, she calls and marks the messages "Urgent" even though they're far from it. She'll call me for an order that she didn't understand, a list of things she is going to leave for me to do, a list of things she's done already, etc... She complains constantly about everything that isn't done perfectly. What should I do?

1) Leave

2) Not call her back and begin ignoring her charades

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I vote for #2. If you are on your day off- do not respond to calls. Do not listen to the messages- Hit erase as soon as you hear her voice.

You could also do what a lot of us do. Get a cell phone- use that as your contact number. However, you do not answer that phone on your day off.

If she says anything about you not returning phone calls- your response should be , "sorry, I wasn't available. I just checked my messages (which of course you will do about 10 minutes before the start of your scheduled shift :p . It keeps your personal life private and uninterrupted.

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I would suggest that you ask her if she could talk with you about all these things once you're back on the clock, politely, of course. Also add that you are focussed on family issues or whatever issues and would rather not discuss work when you're off. If she continues, go to her boss. Believe me, she has one.

She calls me constantly for every little thing. I love my job in Assisted Living and the patients adore me as well...but my boss is out of control. On every single day that I have off, she calls and marks the messages "Urgent" even though they're far from it. She'll call me for an order that she didn't understand, a list of things she is going to leave for me to do, a list of things she's done already, etc... She complains constantly about everything that isn't done perfectly. What should I do?

1) Leave

2) Not call her back and begin ignoring her charades

3) ???

I'll never meet up to her standards. Noone has so far. She is meddling in my personal life far too much... I never have a day off where she doesn't call.

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Talk with her and tell her you do not like to be called on your days off. Be honest and kind but tell her how it bothers you. She is doing it because she does not know any better. You need to talk with her and tell her to stop. That simple.

If that doesn't work, I agree with supermom, move up the chain of command. It is there for a reason.

By the way...welcome supermom!

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The truth is that old habits die hard. I won't change my boss and neither will she change me...so I'm going to change positions to limit my contact with her. It's my fault if I continue to let her be abusive toward me. I'm not happy right now and I need to do something to change that.

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The truth is that old habits die hard. I won't change my boss and neither will she change me...so I'm going to change positions to limit my contact with her. It's my fault if I continue to let her be abusive toward me. I'm not happy right now and I need to do something to change that.

Good for youuuu! best of luck to ya :)

It amazes me that some people that that your job is your WHOLE life...if I'm OFF, leaveeee meeee aloneeee...lol ;)

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Your boss is suppose to be a MANAGER. She/he should be able to manage situations, understand and respect employees opinions, allow for open communication, and a LIFE outside of work!

Why would anyone feel compelled to leave a job you love because you're afraid you can't discuss this with your boss? You're right about one thing- you're boss won't change. Especially if you don't give her an opportunity to understand why she/he needs to. It's all in your approach when you discuss it.

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bill for the overtime! That should put a stop to it. Also if she keeps asking you to clarify orders be very, very specific when you write orders.

Yeah, I'd bill for overtime, because she's treating you as if you're still at work when you're not. Once mgmt. or hr gets wind of it, they'll probably talk with her too. My supervisor called me this week with something silly, but I am on maternity leave, so deal with it. I am pretending I didn't get the message. My personal time is my personal time, not time for you to bug me.

and that's my story............

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