My biggest fear come true...

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:crying2: Today was a bad day. So I just started at this nursing home, I've only been there a couple weeks and I work part time. Most of the nurses.... well ALL of the nurses in the nursing home are older than me... and most of the CNAs too. I'm and LPN, age 22. And my fear was that no one would take me seriously cause I was new and young and cause they've been there forever and are experienced. So far I've been able to assert myself (in a nice way) but sometimes I feel like a student nurse all over again! I try to help the CNAs whenever I have time but sometimes I AM BUSY and I can't and it seems like they are upset... but they always come to ME for help, I'm not the only nurse there! I think that I have been handeling myself well so far... BUT today, this nurse yelled at me, and she had no right to (at least I don't think so), I did nothing wrong. One of HER patients had a dressing and they were begging for it to be changed before lunch, and it definitely looked like it NEEDED to be changed, so.... I did it, I signed the treatment book, and told her. She went to look at the dressing then came back and yelled at me saying "If you don't know how to change dressings then don't do it! It's all wrong!" I KNOW it was NOT wrong, it was a basic dressing change, very simple, and I'd changed it before (but she didn't know that). I KNOW IT WAS RIGHT. I feel like she doesn't like me for whatever reason but I've been nothing but nice to everyone. I guess I'm just being a baby... sorry. :uhoh21:

~Crystal

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Today, she apologized. She said that she shouldn't have yelled at me and that she appreciated the help. We had a long talk, apparently she's going through some personal issues and took it out on her coworkers...

So TIM, what do u think about that?

ANYWAYS, thanks everyone for the kind words, I feel so much better and you were all right. YOU GUYS ARE ABSOLUTELY GREAT!

I think, like I said, I agree she was wrong.

But so were you. And you should apologize to her, too.

~faith,

Timothy.

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I think, like I said, I agree she was wrong.

But so were you. And you should apologize to her, too.

~faith,

Timothy.

Well I would apologize if I DID do something wrong, but I didn't. SHE even said I didn't. So, why do you think I should?

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Well I would apologize if I DID do something wrong, but I didn't. SHE even said I didn't. So, why do you think I should?

but you did.

and until you understand this, you've learned nothing from the event.

~faith,

Timothy.

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To the Original Poster: Wishing you well in your career. Never be afraid to assert yourself in your job; this issue is likely to come up again and again, unless you change how you react. I have good references/books on assertiveness training if you need them-----we all need to learn at some point, we are NOBODY's DOORMAT! Be well.

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