Moving out... on nothing?

kimpatrtan · Jul 15, 2010

I think it really depends where you're at. i'm in Los Angeles and doing what you'rw proposing would require at least 1500 to get a room in the first place, about 5000 for nursing school eventually and living expenses with a car and insurance would be about 400 a month. It's a daring venture. But if you can find a place to do it, you should try.

GM2RN · Jul 15, 2010

If you mean moving out with literally nothing, your chances of pulling it off are virtually zero. I doubt you can get a place of your own without a job. Landlords want to know you can pay the rent. Plus, you need a deposit and first months rent, deposits for utilities, plus a little extra until you have a regular paycheck. Best to land the job first, then save until you have the necessary dollars to get a place on your own.

blondielocks · Jul 15, 2010

when did you turn 24? That will determine if you get good financial aid or no, and by good, I mean whether or not they will take your mother's income (or fathers), in consideration to yours.

I left home at 18 after spending some time in college already (dual enrollment). I had a job lined up working full time, 12 bucks an hour in an office, M-F 6 am to 3 pm. I made it just fine and had an apartment with a friend. I also had some VERY HEAVY commuting costs (this was back in Seattle, WA where ferries are a primary means of transportation for a lot of people, but are very expensive, I think around $280 a month for a frequent rider pass).

You'll feel alone, most likely, and you'll wonder if you can make it. You'll have to dig deep within yourself to find that special little something that you need to make it. But you will, if you want it bad enough. Rent a room at first to save up some money. Then maybe get a little studio, or an apartment. Try to change your mindframe as much as possible, and think in of things in a positive light! Think about how when you are a nurse, you will get to look back on this time. It will help you power through.

And also, if you need to, do not be afraid to take a FT job and do pre-reqs part time at first. It might help give you a little bit better of an adjustment purpose. That's what I did, after losing my job, and I can say it's worked wonders for me.

To not go into too many details, at the beginning of this year, I drove 1600 miles away from my hometown in WA to Arizona, all alone. I was 21 at the time. I had transferred my job. I thought I had someone here waiting for me but I was wrong, and I had to make it all by myself in Phoenix, and then in Wickenburg, in a state I had never even been too, and I had never moved out of state or been away like this. It was really hard and I will tell you what, I felt so freakin' alone but I basically had to sink or swim...everything worked out for the better though :) but one thing I learned is this phrase: "My Own Favorite" - as in, figure out how to be your own favorite person, not to the extent to be rude or anything, but to be strong enough that you know that you're the only person you need and sometimes, you'll be the only person you have. :)

GM2RN · Jul 15, 2010

when did you turn 24? That will determine if you get good financial aid or no, and by good, I mean whether or not they will take your mother's income (or fathers), in consideration to yours.
I left home at 18 after spending some time in college already (dual enrollment). I had a job lined up working full time, 12 bucks an hour in an office, M-F 6 am to 3 pm. I made it just fine and had an apartment with a friend. I also had some VERY HEAVY commuting costs (this was back in Seattle, WA where ferries are a primary means of transportation for a lot of people, but are very expensive, I think around $280 a month for a frequent rider pass).
You'll feel alone, most likely, and you'll wonder if you can make it. You'll have to dig deep within yourself to find that special little something that you need to make it. But you will, if you want it bad enough. Rent a room at first to save up some money. Then maybe get a little studio, or an apartment. Try to change your mindframe as much as possible, and think in of things in a positive light! Think about how when you are a nurse, you will get to look back on this time. It will help you power through.
And also, if you need to, do not be afraid to take a FT job and do pre-reqs part time at first. It might help give you a little bit better of an adjustment purpose. That's what I did, after losing my job, and I can say it's worked wonders for me.
To not go into too many details, at the beginning of this year, I drove 1600 miles away from my hometown in WA to Arizona, all alone. I was 21 at the time. I had transferred my job. I thought I had someone here waiting for me but I was wrong, and I had to make it all by myself in Phoenix, and then in Wickenburg, in a state I had never even been too, and I had never moved out of state or been away like this. It was really hard and I will tell you what, I felt so freakin' alone but I basically had to sink or swim...everything worked out for the better though :) but one thing I learned is this phrase: "My Own Favorite" - as in, figure out how to be your own favorite person, not to the extent to be rude or anything, but to be strong enough that you know that you're the only person you need and sometimes, you'll be the only person you have. :)

OP--While this persons story is inspiring, please note that she had a job lined up before moving. Even when moving 1600 miles she had a job waiting. Don't let your emotions control the logic behind the financial aspect of your decision. Even if you are lucky enough to get someone to rent to you without already having a job, you will start out financially in the hole and may never catch up, forcing you to return home until you are financially stable. Get a job and your finances in order first. It shouldn't take long if you are wise about how you spend your money, and you will be moving forward from a position of strength.

MInurse.st · Jul 15, 2010

I have lived on my own as a young adult for 6 years now (moved out right after high school), but I have to tell you, if it were feasible for me to live at home -- I would! I would rather be miserable living with my mother rent-free than living on my own paying everything I do now. Especially if you plan to go to school, it would be SO much easier/less stressful if you didn't have to worry about rent, bills, groceries, etc.

If you really have to move out.. Definitely get a full-time job first, and even then take some time before you leave (to make sure you're going to stick with the job and to save up enough to pay a security deposit). Usually to rent an apartment you will need proof of income and a credit check. If you haven't signed a lease before, you might need a co-signer. This is a major decision, especially if you make a major commitment like signing a lease.. So just make sure that it's financially feasible for you... Best of luck!

iPink, BSN, RN · Jul 15, 2010

When I first moved out, I moved in with a roommate because rent up north is expensive!!! The experience was definitely memorable. She was a good friend, but not a great roommate. We had a 1 year lease, but found an apartment on my own 10 months later (waiting 2 more months was torture). Long story short, we're not good friends anymore, just cordial acquaintances.

Now, for you to move out, there are several factors to look into: cost of an apartment per month, utilities, what you bring in from your job. Apply for financial aid on FASFA, if you haven't already for school. Look into other government help too. I haven't read everyone's responses, but if living with mom is unbearable, then I guess then make the move if you can. I doubt she wants to see you in a homeless shelter though.