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[2018nurseandbeyond]

How would you feel if your unit manager tells other co-workers that you are doing things wrong so they tell YOU when you come up to said unit manager multiple times to ask how one is doing, but they continue to say your performance is fine?

I feel like I am being borderline bullied:

So far I've been told at work a lot of falsehoods:

1. Specific charting that is only supposed to be during days and evening shifts to finish up for nights, that if I did, would be fraud.

2. Told to sign off on receiving medications I did not receive and therefore reconcile because nights are the "easiest shift" ( I just write if the medication has been on unit from the rec-form or if we have the card, and no long sign it as my unit manager requests me to do as it would be fraud).

3. Told to put in consults from other MD as orders without the authorizing primary care provider's consent, being told it is "fine".

4. Have my nightly audits thrown out, things I am required to do for my workplace suddenly disappear.

5. Hear rumors that my unit manager told other workers I've "written them up" for things I had no idea about or even spoke about at all.

6. Told false protocols and things about our unit. Such as our private rooms can house TB patients ( false).

7. Scolded for not "picking up after myself" when day shift leaves pizza boxes and don't clean up after themselves. I don't feel obligated to clean up after other people's messes in the break room.

I don't know how to feel. I feel so frustrated. I've brought this up to my supervisor, albiet in the heat of moment. She thinks I am just in a personality conflict with the unit manager

[Wuzzie]

This isn’t borderline bullying. This isn’t the BS I’ve seen put forth on this site as bullying (eye rolls, failure to say good morning, not making small talk). This is true, honest to goodness actual bullying. It’s targeted, repeated, threatening behavior that is putting the OP’s job and license at risk. Unfortunately the only thing to stop it is to leave before any permanent damage is done. Don’t go to HR, they aren’t there for you. The supervisor has already communicated that it’s your problem. Obviously talking to the manager is only going to make things worse. Start looking for another job now. Seriously, take anything you can find but get the heck out of there ASAP! Trust me on this. If you stay it isn’t going to end well for you. They have all the cards. Don’t be fooled into thinking you can claim a “hostile work environment”. If you aren’t in a protected class or you are but can’t prove the behavior was directed at whatever makes you protected you have no case. Many of us here have been in your shoes. It’s awful. Get out.

[JKL33]

14 minutes ago, 2018nurseandbeyond said:

I don't know how to feel. I feel so frustrated. I've brought this up to my supervisor, albiet in the heat of moment. She thinks I am just in a personality conflict with the unit manager 

It sounds a bit like not choosing your battles wisely. There is way too much of the wrong kind of engagement in conversations and minor situations that are never going to end productively anyway.

1. Don't chart false information.

2. Do not sign off on medications not received.

3. I don't know exactly what you're talking about but if it involves lying or other dishonesty, don't do it.

4. This is actually a bad thing one would consider leaving over, if it can't be brought under control.

5. "I can't control what someone else chooses to say but I can assure you I did no such thing." Then walk away. Don't stand around listening to this crap. If you do, you are partially to blame. Don't feel anything about it. Just say your line and move on with your day.

6. So someone doesn't know what they're talking about. Accept that you can't trust that person as a resource and make sure to use more appropriate resources in the future.

7. Either walk away while the person is talking and go on with your work, or else state, "I have nothing to do with pizza boxes and I will not entertain this conversation" and then walk away.

You are not required to engage in a great deal of the types of things you have posted about. #4 is the only serious issue that requires some kind of action on your part. For all the rest, you have choices and one of the best ones is to refuse to engage on their level. When people want to make trouble, it is often difficult for them to do so without a willing participant. Defensiveness and an irrational sense of insult will get you sucked in every time. Imagine if they said, "Jane said that you wrote me up!" and you replied, "I did no such thing. It sounds like a problem between you and Jane" then walked away.