3 months into my first job and don't know if I should stay

[rnwheretogo]

Hi all thanks for taking the time to read this. So I just graduated and after doing a year as an extern on a med surg floor I had the oppertunity to go into ob after school which I knew would be a challenge but wanted to take the oppertunity. Here I am now at the end of 10 weeks of orientation with my manager hinting I should quit or that I will be fired. I don't know what to do. The biggest problem is that they feel some of my responses have been defensive. I had no idea that anyone felt like that. I have tired to implement suggestions from my manager, but she keeps bringing up more examples of this behavior. The last one was a situation where my reaction was oh sorry I didn't know that u wanted it that way or said I had never been shown that was a potential location for the item in question. I was told that I shouldn't say it that way that I should say thank you for pointing that out I wasn't aware of that, because it places blame on my educators. That was not my intention at all. My intention was to let my preceptor know that I had no idea this was possibly in another location. I feel like I am begin held responsible for knowledge I just didn't have. I constantly apologize now trying to make things better. Some of this is probably the fact that I get some social aniexity and tend to assume I am a bother to others. This leads me to be quiet and when confronted I get anxious and just start babbling whatever comes to mind. That has gotten better some. But I feel like my manager is just out to get me now, and that I won't be able to change her perception of me no matter what I do. It's worth mentioning that she is new to unit and did not hire me. Which I wonder makes her dislike me from the get go. She also is making a lot of changes on the unit that have upset several of the other nurses and a few have left already. So should I quit and start over or try to hang on and work this out?

[Ben_Dover]

Saying this kindly and nicely, but your post alone sounds you are defensive.

The answer is don't resign, not as a new grad. at least. Give yourself an "oppertunity" and hear and listen to what they are telling you.

If you do decide to resign, good luck finding a job after!

[cleback]

I'm sorry this is happening to you. With just the details given, honestly, it sounds like they have a personality conflict with you, and a petty one at that. I mean really... they were offended by your response to go get a supply? That's why they're hinting that you should resign? I'd be more concerned about whether you're safe to practice on your own. It does not sound like they have any interest in nurturing your competence as a new nurse.

You'll be walking on eggshells now until the manager and/or staff leaves. It's not worth the anxiety. You'll have plenty else to be anxious about your first year of nursing... this should not be one. It sucks but look for another job.

[Been there,done that, ASN, RN]

Shake this off. Show up .. do your best and apply for another position. 10 weeks of orientation is not enough for newby toxic manager to mess up YOUR career. I would discuss these issues with nursing education. They can CY your A.

Deep breaths... you are just starting out. I can see you have so much potential.

[ItsThatJenGirl, CNA]

Try not to use "I" statements when you're corrected - it will make you sound defensive, even if you don't mean to be. Say things like "thanks for showing me how to do that" instead of "I didn't know that" or "I've never been shown that".

I'd change the way I respond and stick it out. Things might get better.

Best of luck to you.