Monday June 20 2022

Tweety, BSN, RN · Jun 20, 2022

Good morning!

Joe hope you have a good day.

My father is 88 and I can hardly believe it myself. My mother is admitted into the hospital. Sounds like she had orthostatic hypotension and passed out at home. Also seems she has arrhythmia and dad says she's too weak to even get up to the bathroom. Not sure what the plan is going to be. Not much I can do so far away.

I was mowing my lawn and the mower quit halfway through. It's a few years old and cheap so better to just get a new one. It's always something.

Ado Annie, ASN, RN · Jun 20, 2022

Happy Monday, all!

Joe, chilaquiles sound good. We got a Hello Fresh box this week (I forgot to skip it) and one of the meals was "fully loaded pork taquitos" so I made those yesterday and they were good.

Tweety, it *is* always something, isn't it? Mower repairs have been on Hubs' plate lately, along with keeping all the old cars running and mechanically sound. Need to replace the kitchen faucet as there's only one specific position where it doesn't leak. He says there's a plumbing issue in the main bathroom that needs attention first.

Stars, I need some of your drive. I suppose I did wash 4 loads of laundry yesterday but 2 of them still sit in the washer and dryer. ?. it probably is a good idea to go the next doctor's appointment if you can.

I did not get called in to work. However, the analyzer in the lab that is used to run CBCs went down so I was on call to drive samples to "the city" if necessary. Fortunately didn't have to do that, either, and the lab manager got it working again last night. The nurse manager did make one trip with blood samples yesterday around noon. There were about 20 ER patients through the day so I don't know how they made it all work.

J22, glad you were able to enjoy the baseball game, even though the Mariners lost.

Hubs and I escaped for a few minutes and got some ice cream then drove to the city lake and watched the sunset. Time outdoors like that feeds my soul. Yesterday we woke at 0700 to his mom yelling at Twin B as he tried to get her to go back to bed.

Stepson does have mental health issues. It just seems that he wants to blame everyone and everything for his problems. He's delusional about some things. Insists he left Chicago back in 2011 because he was needed in Indiana because no one else was taking care of Gma and GPA. That he left a great job where he was about to "make it". This is a serious distortion of what actually occurred (he had a psychotic break and *that's* why he left Chicago. Hubs absolutely was taking care of his parents while trying to get our house ready to sell so that he could join me in Oklahoma). Stepson's coworkers were unhappy with him because he didn't have the skills to do that job. That stress may have played a part in his psychotic break. He won't do anything about getting someone he trusts to be an emergency guardian for the next time he goes off the deep end so I know it will go badly. Again. This time, he'll lose his grandparents' house that he bought last year, because he won't be making payments. And Hubs actually gave him the equity in the house that would have been Hubs'. I can see all this and I can't. do. anything. about. it. He posts stuff on facebook about how he knew "from a very young age" that he wouldn't get the support he needed in life. I ignore it. I'm not going to change his mind. But it's really a false narrative.

Ah, on to happier thoughts. My book club is meeting this evening. In NW OKC so it's a bit of a drive for me. I didn't read the book. I started it but just couldn't get into it. And was more interested in rereading Harry Potter.

No Stars In My Eyes · Jun 20, 2022

Ado, I'm sad to say that my 'drive' has gone off the road again...as in, I don't have the oomph to get started with the rest of things today. Maybe tomorrow, who knows? // Sorry to hear about the stepson's downward spirals; it does make things difficult. My step-dgt hasn't had an actual breakdown, per se, but she does lack emotional maturity. She'll call her dad, crying and crying, so he gets good and upset that he can't do anything to help her. He wants to go up to visit with her, but realizes 1.) He really dislikes staying at her house, because they go to bed at, like, 7:30 PM, and their big dog is always all over him, and, 2.) He says he'll get a motel room, but then decides it's too expensive. So, all he does is worry, but then a day or two later, when he speaks with her, everything is hunkie-dorie. He loves her, but she can be very irritating the way she treats him. She has only come down here twice in all the years we've been here, and each time, went back home the same day. Never EVER has offered to help watch Nannie so we could have a day or two's break. But oh well, that's on her. His brother and sis-in-law are just as useless.

I told Tweety at the end of yesterday's thread that hubby did have an appt today (Monday) for an ultrasound, but he said they didn't send him a reminder. If I had known, it would've been written on the calendar. Kind of makes me p.o'd that he missed it. It's like I said, he may be reluctant to know anything because if he doesn't know it, he doesn't have to KNOW it, and maybe it will go away. He is trying to blame things like: "maybe it was the pizza" (or booze, or chili and beans, and, or, and, or...) I want REAL answers, not maybes!!

Nannie is happy because we are watching an afternoon baseball game....it's a rerun of the one we saw yesterday! She doesn't remember it, so it's like a new game to her. And there IS a ballgame being played tonight, so she'll be happily occupied with the TV which she "JUST LOVES to watch." I don't know how many times per ballgame she remarks about how much she LOVES this TV.

My sister sent us (her sibs) five old photos of my dad, one from a young age (ie WITH hair). I have one of the photos, but had not seen the other ones. In the earliest one, you can see a resemblance to my younger brother, with a longish, thinner face. She found a large envelope which my mom had put together when she was getting ready to move out of the house in Mass.and downsize into an apartment in Maine (near where my sister lives). Mom said she sat with 4 paper grocery bags in front of her, each labeled with our names, and she just divided the pictures up so we each had some of them.

Game is over, next one, (ie TODAY'S game) will be on at 7:20 PM. Hubby has gone out to get our supper, though he says he doesn't know if what he's going to get for himself will 'sit well' in his stomach. GADS.

Welp. I have to go upstairs to get Nannie's meds and a drink for her. If we don't give her her PM meds EARLY she will stay up forever. Even at that hubby and I have started going upstairs earlier so she will go to bed, because she hangs on like a tick if we stay in the den.

May be back here later....

nursej22, MSN, RN · Jun 20, 2022

Hey ho. Weather has actually been dry all day! Rain to return Wednesday. After a little run this morning I drove to the computer store to find out why I couldn’t log on to my new computer. They somehow thought I would know the password was “password “. Hmmm. Anyway, when I did a couple of upgrades on the old ‘puter I some how generated 2 more accounts. So I left the new ‘puter there so they can merge those accounts, just in case there are some files, mainly photos, that I want to save. I grabbed a few sad garden flowers at the farm store and plunked them my newly weeded bed for some color. And I have some clothes to fold too.

Ado, that is tragic about your step-son, quite a burden for your hubby, and you. I’m glad you got out to enjoy the sunset.
I should look for a book club…

Stars, that must be so frustrating about your hubby and appointments. Mine has a tendency to mess his up too. I think he has a pre-colonoscopy televisit coming up. Not looking forward to listening to him about how rough the prep is. Dude, I’ve done it 3 times!

Tweety, we got a new battery powered mower last year and I love how quiet and light weight it is.

Joe, it sounds like you had a nice Sunday. I think I had chilaquiles at a restaurant once. They sound delicious.
Nearly time for me to start dinner. Not sure what, something from Hello Fresh.