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  • Apr 30 '13

    Quote from RN1023
    Since I was a little girl, I have always wanted to be a nurse. I wanted to help people. I wanted to heal. Now 4 years out of nursing school, I HATE nursing with a passion. I am a med/surg nurse with a BSN.

    Reasons I hate nurses (in no particular order)
    1. Most days I feel like a pill-pusher. I don't feel like I make a difference.
    2. Doctors feel they are perfect.
    3. Patient satisfaction scores.
    4. Patient sense of entitlement. (see #3)
    5. Family at the bedside dictating what they I am their personal servant. I have to comply (see #3).
    6. Lack of appreciation mized with how much more work can they give us.
    7. Nights, weekends, and holiday. I don't want to give everything I've got only to see no return in work satisfaction.

    I don't want to be a case manager. I don't want home health nursing. I really want to be outside of the hospital. Quite honestly, I want to be away from people. I would be quite content to work on a computer and have email interactions. Preferably work from home. Any suggestions?
    Bold. I feel ya. I'm about to get flamed, but since we're sharing our feelings here goes...

    I don't care about #4 so inherently I have little concern with #3. Unlike most other staff, I don't leave a room asking, "May I get you something" for I am not a servant. I've actually told patients that they were monopolizing my and my staff members' time. I generally say, "Ok, well, see ya later." Most people seem fine with this, and if they're not it's not going to hurt them to not get some juice or whatever ridiculous whim they want. I didn't know nursing involved this. If I had I assure you I wouldn't have done it. Unless a patient is unresponsive, I really don't address the random people milling around in the patient's room (#5) beyond saying "Hi, how are ya?" I'll tell them what's going on, sometimes what I'm doing, and I'm cordial, but I really don't care if the family member is hot, thirsty, wants a pillow, etc. I generally don't make a special trip for their desires. About now many of you are up in arms shouting revoke his license, fire him, lynch him!!

    There really is nothing about in-patient "care" that I care anything about. Someone has to do it, but I don't want to. Yeah, someone will chime in here with something absurd like "How can you not care for your patients?!" Well, friends, it's not that I don't care. I just don't have any desire to be their butler, waiter, etc. I didn't know beans about nurses when I got into it and was led to believe nursing was a physiological, medicine giving, assessment making, chart writing line of work, and I was ok with that. I'm interested in mental health, and after reading this many will gasp!

    Yes, I'm great with sitting down talking (like doing that) and doing the variety of things we are taught as mental health providers to do (I'm in a psych NP master's program), but I'm not at all interested in going back and forth between people laid up in bed defecating on themselves, giving them juice, talking them into swallowing some pills, and not pulling their IVs out particularly when I have other matters to tend to, i.e. assessing, documenting, getting the meds in, and "monitoring." Honestly, I wanted to be a mental health provider capable of doing mental health assessments, having a knowledge of the physical body, doing the therapy time/reimbursement/employer policy permitting (many psych NPs dont do this), and prescribing. Sans medical school, psych NP was the route to this so I got into "nursing" to be a mental health provider. The nursing indoctrination, traditions, theories, and history are great, but I don't personally and individually ascribe to them.

    So RN1023, you're not a lone. Many thousands of nurses are in your spot. I can name at least a dozen identical to you at my workplace. Many are obligated by whatever reason to work there. I wanted a job I could do while I was in school, however, I'm resigning (on good terms) soon to engage in other pursuits. This area of nursing isn't for you. Even the ER is starting to see #'s 3-5 take hold there also and that's probably the least nursey area from my experience. This job isn't for me either, and I recognize that so I'll be stepping aside to let someone inclined to enjoy and vigorously pursue these things as I shall not.

  • Jan 23 '13

    Hi everyone. I wasn't able to figure out how to delete my account yesterday so I finished up some errands I had since I'm off the rest of the week and thought I'd take a second look to see if I could figure it out. I had intended to go in under the radar.

    I see some more of you responded to my posts for which I'm grateful. I also see I generated a lot of disdain by some of you towards me. That's ok. I understand that, and clearly we're all entitled to our opinions. I walked in, vented, told you I didn't like being a nurse, and I sem-trampled perhaps on a profession dear to most of you.

    I thought I'd clear up some things because this seems to have become a popular topic. I mentioned I wasn't sure why I quit my previous career. I'm still not honestly, and if I had a reason well over time that reason has become transparent to me. I miss what I had. I can't go back because it'd be virtually impossible to have the position and rank, if you will, that I had. Sometimes you just can't go home again.

    Did I think I'd have to feign an interest in nursing from the outset? No. I thought I'd enjoy it, and there are elements to it, that are tolerable, i.e., ok, but the stuff I don't like overshadows that. My only experience with having nurses work on me is them asking some questions, taking a few notes, explaining a course of treatment, and passing some meds to me. I like to research what I'm up against so before embarking on nursing I did some research, looked at some syllabi from many nursing schools, looked over some nursing books, and felt like I knew enough to make an informed decision. Someone mentioned nursing and technical knowledge, and that was a major attraction for me. I find many of my coworkers and subordinates don't tend to draw on much of what was in the textbooks though. The syllabi, nursing school websites, and texts that I read touted science and management more than warm and fuzzy so I was able to identify with that.

    What I didn't know was the unwritten things that I've since become witness to, particularly as a charge nurse, and I don't like it. It's simply not me. Because I had a BSN and experience managing people and resources, which I got good evaluations with so I'm not entirely bad or anti-people as my posts and some of the replies made me out to be, I was appointed charge nurse of my unit once I was done with new hire training. Literally I went from the new guy, being trained, to a new shift, and told I was in charge. Good, bad, it's what I got.

    I see a few of you working nurses share a similar sentiment and maybe a few future nurses see a perspective not shared in the classroom. I'm all for realism and wake up calls even if you have to be hit with a pipe to achieve it. My post was a gloves off approach, and I told you exactly how I feel much of the time when I'm at work because I am not a nurturer. I feel (and know) there are some others I work with who bottle these feelings, but most people aren't willing to share their true feelings, and I did here.

    In summation, I'm sorry if I caused any ill feelings, stress, or lost sleep amongst you. For those of you with constructive criticism and/or suggestions - my sincerest thanks. For all of you, I wish you happy careers doing what you obviously love to be doing. I envy that you're happy with it.

  • Jan 23 '13

    I personally think people are being a little hard on the OP. Nursing schools do not exactly do the best job at teaching grads what the real world of nursing will be like. He is not the only nurse who has come to these forums and declared that he dislikes aspects of nursing.

    However, with the all the time and money invested in the career, leaving is not exactly the easiest thing to so. Like many others, he is looking for a way to salvage a difficult situation.

    There are many people like the OP who are in nursing but do not wish to nurture or develop intense interpersonal relationships with patients. Rather, these nurses do well with constant patient turnover. However, few of them are brave enough to reveal their true feelings because they know they'll be blasted by some of their peers.

    Many, many people are looking for an escape from bedside nursing. However, the mortgage, car payments, student loan debt, children's schooling, and other monetary obligations keep them there.

  • Jan 23 '13

    I think some of these observations are rather harsh. Many of the things the OP says he does not love I don't either. That doesn't make him or her a bad person, a selfish person or a bad nurse. The nature of bedside nursing is such that it would frustrate most people I think. He s looking for a better fit and is recognizing where bedside nursing is not an ideal one. Self insight. Good quality. OP, I hope you find your way. The struggle is part of the journey.