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  • Jul 6 '15

    I had White Swan for last year's clinicals and they pilled up so bad I threw them away on my last clinical day. This year I bought Dickies and Baby Phat. I also tried on Landau, Cherokee, Peaches, etc. Those non-see through workpants were just too thick for me; it was worse than wearing jeans. I couldn't imagine trying to help someone shower in their 90 degree bathroom wearing those thick pants. I also tried wearing undershirts to clinicals; halfway through I got so hot I had to take them off.

    I guess the point I'm trying to make is....I'm done worrying about what can be seen through my white scrubs. If my school wants me in white scrubs so bad, they can just deal with the outline of my white bra in the back and the pink of my skin peeking through.

  • Jul 1 '15

    Quote from Rhody34
    Never once said you shouldn't be excited. This is a very exciting time for you... but you are naive and you need to take this opportunity to listen and learn. There are many experienced nurses here who can teach you a lot. I wish you the best of luck. Try not to be so defensive.
    I'm not. It's kind of upsetting, however, when someone comes at you that "blunt", especially if you are newer. I will most assuredly listen to those that don't talk down to me. I understand I'm newer, and that definitely doesn't make me superior, but that also doesn't make me inferior.

  • Jul 1 '15

    Okay and so what. You're using my time of being a new nurse to try and make your point. When I know great nurses with my mentality. Again, I feel sorry for those under your care.

  • Jul 1 '15

    Quote from Dranger
    Lol, I keep them alive, healthy and in good order (clean and organized). That's my job. What's yours?

    Feelings aren't a job.
    Being a nurse is a privilege. And a calling. If your feelings aren't in it at all, what kind of nurse can you be? If I am going to be a great nurse, I want to be able to put myself in their shoes and give them the best care they deserve, the kind that I would want. There once was a day where nurses were kind, considerate, empathetic, caring, and felt compassionate for the ones they cared for. I didn't get into this profession to just keep people alive. I entered this profession because I care a great deal about people.

  • Jul 1 '15

    Quote from Dranger
    So not long. Less than 6 months? All I need to know.
    I would hate to have you as my nurse. I feel for your patients.

  • Jan 7 '14

    Quote from Sunny0308
    First of all, talk to your Supervisor. You have to have some common sense here. Document everything. Look up your policies and procedures in human resources, and follow the guidelines. If you have any proof, and people who are willing to stand by whatever gossip they have shared with you, then arrange a meeting with your Supervisor and the person allegedly slandering you, and talk. And bear in mind you may be drug tested at any time. Good luck.

    I agree with Sunny. Do go to your supervisor or HR. Tell them what is going on. This nurse may very well have a reputation for this kind of behavior, and they are just waiting to get the goods on her. Tell them who told you so they can interview them. This happened at my facility recently. It had been happening to others, but they would not come forward with details. The more they ignored her, the more she bullied. The gal who finally had enough said two words to myself, HR, and the administrator, "Hostile environment'. The bullying was substantiated and the bully was threatened with suspension and possible termination if it did not stop at once. It stopped....hostile environment is something administration never wants to hear.

  • Sep 24 '13

    Since you did not see her take the medication, unfortunately you have no proof to report her; if reported, she may pass the suspicion to YOU.

    I think you handled the situation appropriately from the conversation. At this point, unless you have proof, is best to continue with another preceptor and keep honing your nursing practice; you know what to do...and you have an idea on how to handle the gray areas of nursing from this experience; pick your battles.

  • May 19 '12

    It's perfectly understandable that you're angry, but don't leave w/o giving adequate notice--you don't ever want to burn bridges. Hold your head up, count the days and be as gracious as you can possibly be. Hope you get the new job. But, even at a new workplace it's likely you'll run into other gossips or young-eaters'; you need to learn how to effectively deal with them. Good luck!!!

  • May 19 '12

    But...I probably DID just roll out of bed. Have you seen me at 5:30am? It ain't pretty.

  • May 19 '12
  • May 19 '12

    This indeed is very serious, and I can see why you are very scared. Personally, I would inform my nurse ward manager of the allegations and why I am concerned. Then, I would write a polite letter to the director of nursing explaining it is causing problems. The point of this would be so they would see another side. Unfortunately this does not resolve the problem however... I'm not a very confrontational person so personally I wouldn't "front-up" to the offender.
    I am sure, by law, they couldn't fire you based on "suspicions" of taking drugs when you are actually not. They need evidence, and they simply can't get evidence if you aren't doing it.

  • May 19 '12

    Quote from DroogieRN
    I think you don't necessarily have to prove a loss with a slander/defamation charge; there is also "defamation per se," which I think basically means the rumors have huge potential to cause you big problems, not that they already have.
    That would probably be something like where a person posts thing on Facebook or otherwise puts info out there against you that you can show the judge in court. You can't just say, "Hey, so and so said she was saying bad things about me at work." It has to be proven, in writing and/or co-workers showing up on your behalf telling what they heard in person. Then you could use that proof, and explain how nursing is such a close group, that this rumor could affect your future employment. Love to watch the court shows! Whether or not I actually learn anything that can be of use someday, who knows What I have learned from basically every show is you have to show evidence, evidence, evidence!

  • May 16 '12

    I think you don't necessarily have to prove a loss with a slander/defamation charge; there is also "defamation per se," which I think basically means the rumors have huge potential to cause you big problems, not that they already have.

  • May 15 '12

    If she is flat out saying that you are stealing narcs and using drugs, I don't think this can be totally ignored. You are not going to lose you license because she is running her mouth about this, but, on the other hand, she is defaming you by making these statements. If it is as easy and getting another job and moving on (yes, I know it can be very tough to get a new job in this economy), they go for that. If a new job is not easily had, then get some good legal advice on how to handle this--she may have a right to free speech, but she does not have the right to knowingly make false statements about you.

  • May 15 '12

    Lawyers create adversarial relationships; this isn't what you want to do. This isn't an easy situation, but it's not one where you want to pit an employee or groups of employees against each other. Nor do you want to have your manager feel you are going over her head or to the 'outside' for remedy before giving her the opportunity.

    People spout off all kinds of legal advice that sounds perfectly reasonable--until you consider the practicalities, ramifications, or the legalities of doing so. First, in order for there to be slander there must be a loss--a loss is quantifiable in financial terms, only. The first questions a lawyer is going to ask are, "Did you lose your job?" "Did you lose income by demotion?" Even if you answered yes to either or both, now he (and you) must prove your financial loss was the direct result of that person defaming you. This is next to impossible to accomplish--unless your supervisor admits to firing you over hearsay comments.

    As far as a 'cease and desist' letter, it has the value of toilet paper. The woman doing the talking will figure out (after she speaks to her own attorney) that this is an empty threat. There will be no federal inquest or FBI interviews into who said what, when they said it, and who they said it to. This might be one of the worst things you can do as far as escalating the situation: you will create more of an 'us and them' atmosphere, the gossiping woman will feel empowered that you pulled out a worthless cap gun and probably ridicule you for it, and your director will feel you went beyond her and she will believe that you see her as ineffective and impotent. (And, a lawyer will tell you that it's a great strategy because he's going to charge you $500 to write the letter. There goes your $500 and your credibility.)

    Yes, this woman is making your life miserable and these people exist everywhere from junior high school cafeterias to kindergarten playgrounds to professional workplaces. It seems the 7th grade bully is now a nurse on your floor and you have to deal with her.

    I stand by my previous comment that you consult your director and ask for her support and advice.