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Joined: Mar 3, '11; Posts: 119 (62% Liked) ; Likes: 290
R.N.; from US
Specialty: NICU, OB/GYN

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  • Sep 18 '13

    Quote from lub dub
    I spent over 20 years in adult critical care (ICU & CCU). That still doesn't give me the right to act in an unprofessional manner. No one single nurse is ever personally responsible for any patient's recovery. It is a collaborative effort.
    I appreciate your point of view. I disagree with it, but I'm glad you posted because it does add depth to this discussion.

  • Sep 2 '13

    Quote from Sweet_Wild_Rose

    So you're saying the lives of the pregnant nurse and her fetus are more valuable than the life of the non-pregnant nurses and that such justifies unfair workloads?
    I'm pretty sure unborn babies are at much higher risk for complications (you know, like death) from infections and harmful exposures from mom.

    We don't give our pregnant nurses XDR or TB patients and I think that's fair. We also don't give them to any of our nurses just coming back from having cancer treatment. I like the people I work with and would hate for any of them to take patients that put them at risk. I'm not pregnant and have a healthy immune system - I'll be happy to take that TB patient for a co-worker. I'll expect the same when/if I get pregnant.

  • Sep 2 '13

    It is sad to hear that some nurses do not have one ounce of compassion for a pregnant nurse, I hope their patients aren't suffering from their lack of it.

  • Mar 18 '13

    Quote from Calabria

    Generalizing quiet and respectful employees on night shift as "always sleeping" and "disoriented", like another poster did, (and presuming that being loud = being alert) is a dangerous and slippery slope.
    It's also just not true. Some of us can be awake and respectful.

  • Jan 17 '13

    Thank you for sharing this...just a few days ago I lost my first baby in the NICU...he was only on earth for 43 hours, but I was there with him for 31 of them. It's amazing the huge impact such a little person can have..I still see his face a lot too, especially when I'm sleeping. It's something no one can be truly prepared for, and I'll never forget my first little angel boy. RIP baby A.

  • Jan 14 '13

    While sadly not my first baby loss, we went through this very thing less than a week ago. It never gets easier, for me. Glad that your running helps you cope.

  • Jan 14 '13

    Thank you for your story. Just had an awful shift myself in the ICU. Coded a young mother with a child of about 8 and new baby twins all night. She did not make it. This was not my first code but one of the most sad

  • Jan 2 '13

    I'm assisting with hiring a new case manager RN and would like to vent about the HORRIBLE quality resumes I am seeing in the mile high stack we're reading through.

    #1 problem: basic spelling, grammar, punctuation and command of the English language. I don't really care if it's your first, second or ninth language. You will need to communicate with and document about our patients in clear, concise, correct and understandable English. Period. Yes, we toss resumes with ONE TYPO in the trash. That typo represents a typo you'd miss on a med list or MD order that could mean life or death.

    #2 problem: length! My goodness, people. We don't need a novel. Even RNs with 10+ years of experience should be able to sum it up in 2 pages or less. We're not interested in reading your past job descriptions. Just hit the highlights that pertain to the position you're applying for, and an accomplishment or two that will get our attention (chaired a committee, piloted a program, won an award). Also, as much as I admire family parenting/elder care, it's not job experience that belongs on a resume, no matter how "special needs" your family members were. (Honestly, I see so much of this on resumes. Inappropriate space filler). Talk about it in the interview!

    #3 problem: listing an "objective." We KNOW what you're applying for and why. The "objective" on a resume died a decade ago, please stop using it! And leave off your high school diploma, no one cares.

    Things we like to see right off the bat:

    Immediate list of 3 or 4 strengths specific to the position
    Bulleted list of licenses, certifications, with issue/expiration month/year
    Any significant continuing education accomplished or in progress (as in, a certification or degree)
    Any languages spoken fluently

    And please. Use a common font like Times New Roman in 12 point, through the WHOLE document. Keep bold/italics/underlining to a minimum. No color. No curlicues. No pictures. No logos. Send it as a PDF *and* Word attachment, embed it in the email AND send or fax a hard copy, that kind of effort gets our attention. So does following up with a thank you.

    Simple stuff. I can't believe the whining I hear from unemployed nurses, then see the back end of things where the majority of the job seekers reflect such poor attention to detail and minimal effort.

  • Dec 26 '12

    When my son got old enough that he would see other boys at a urinal or in a locker room (he's a hockey player), I explained what circumcision involved, and told him that I viewed it as something that was a personal choice rather than a medical necessity, and when he's 18yo if he wants to be circumcised, he can make that decision himself.

    His eyes got wide and he thanked me profusely for not cutting off part of his penis. He can't understand why anyone would ever WANT to do that if they didn't have to!

    FWIW, I feel the same way about piercings. While I do think that a middle-school aged child (male or female) should be allowed to make a decision on conventional ear piercing without waiting until adulthood, other areas -- eyebrows / nose / lip / belly button -- and things like those "stretched out" earlobes (visible shudder!) should be off-limits until the age of majority has been reached.

    Regarding infant circumcision being preferable to the "possible need" to circumcise an adult, until we start prophylactically removing every newborn's appendix, I see it all as a cop-out. Because I have to tell you, getting your appendix out as a newborn who can't sit up, roll over, walk, etc., is WAY preferable to getting it removed as a teenager who loses out on a big part of the summer that could have been spent waterskiiing, or as an adult who ends up with weeks to months off work (and often without pay) while recuperating. So how come we don't remove every newborn appendix? Because we KNOW that a small number of them WILL need to have their appendix removed at some point in the future, so why not take them out at birth and avoid all the fuss later?

  • Dec 26 '12

    Quote from BostonTerrierLoverRN
    I am trying, but I can't remember if they numbed mine. (Maybe versed then?)

    Seriously though, I am so glad it was done as an infant without my consent. I would hate to have to deal with the pain and healing now! But, if he didn't use a block, I hope I peed on my doc too!!

    Remember the days when you walked in a department store to see them holding down a baby girl to pierce her ears- that was always barbaric to me
    Why are you glad to be missing a functional part of your penis? I never understood that. Knowing what I know about my "downstairs", I would be furious to know if I had 20,000 or so nerve endings, lubrication glands, etc taken away from me without my consent. I guess you can't miss what you don't remember having but why not look into it before saying you're glad about it. Chances are an intact man doesn't have to deal with the pain and healing process as an adult because it's rare for an intact man to medically need to be circumcised. Yes I do agree that piercing a baby's ears is barbaric but definitely not as barbaric as mutilating a baby's genitals.

  • Dec 26 '12

    My sons are intact because of barbarians like that doctor, but also because I don't believe infants need cosmetic procedures.

    Why do any baby boys ever have to live through this at all? I consider it a massive failure of this culture that we haven't moved past chopping off parts of our boys penises because "that's just what you do, isnt' it?"

  • Dec 26 '12

    The AAP also thinks my 14 year old should be able to get both birth control pills and an abortion without my either consenting or even being informed. So you'll forgive me if I am a bit dismissive of their opinions.

  • Dec 26 '12

    Quote from Twinmom06
    I worked in OB this summer and all the babies got the lidocaine block, PO Sweet-Eaze, and Tylenol...sometimes they scream because the betadine they are swabbed with is cold but once the lidocaine kicks in there was very little screaming (and a few thanked the doctor by peeing on him afterward LOL)...

    that is horrible...
    The betadine can be warmed. Not so hot as to burn, but enough to not be too cold.

    If I had known the barbaric way circumcisions are done (or were done way back when my sons were little), I'd have absolutely refused to have them circumcised.

    I really think the whole pushing of circ's for infants is based purely on $ concerns of the cutters, not the health of the infants. I know some religions do it for religious reasons - that's a little different. But only a little. I don't think any helpless infant should be tortured in the name of religion, in the name of "undeveloped neuro system", in the name of speed or doctors' preferences, or in the name of anything else. Leave nature intact, teach parents how to clean their babies properly, and teach the lads how to clean themselves when they're old enough for self-care.

    For OP - do ask some questions, do speak up, do learn as much as you can to protect these babies from being tortured.

  • Dec 26 '12

    Quote from *LadyJane*
    Uh, yeah.

    Nothing quite like an old fashioned circ to make you never want one of those on your kids, or babies of anyone you know, or for that matter, anyone. If the moms heard that baby's high-pitched screaming, she would have grabbed him back after the first hemostat was placed. Can you tell I think that they are barbaric? But that's just my opinion.

    They aren't so bad with anesthetic. But really, it's that human being's body. Let him make changes according to his desires.
    Yeah, right? If we do it to little girls, it's genital mutilation and psychologically damaging. For little boys, it's "cleaner"? I'm not a fan. And, since evidence based is where it's at, there isn't a lot of evidence to support it anymore and my last two jobs charged for it and billed it as a cosmetic procedure.

    To the OP: that sounds like very outdated practice indeed. Do you have an educator you could approach? A policy you could refer to?

  • Dec 26 '12

    Uh, yeah.

    Nothing quite like an old fashioned circ to make you never want one of those on your kids, or babies of anyone you know, or for that matter, anyone. If the moms heard that baby's high-pitched screaming, she would have grabbed him back after the first hemostat was placed. Can you tell I think that they are barbaric? But that's just my opinion.

    They aren't so bad with anesthetic. But really, it's that human being's body. Let him make changes according to his desires.