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Countless first-semester and first-quarter nursing students worriedly exclaim, "I haven't made any friends in nursing school!"
Over the years I've made a few curious observations about the nursing students who express the most concern about having made no friends. They typically fall into the traditional college-age range of 18 to 24 years old. Also, they generally enjoyed very active social lives during their high school years and continued socializing well into early adulthood.
On the other hand, the pupils who seem the least concerned about making friends in school tend to be people whom we'd refer to as the adult learners, also known as nontraditional students or reentry adults. According to the Indiana University of Pennsylvania (2012), nontraditional adult student learners are loosely defined as those undergraduate students who are 25 years of age or older. A key characteristic distinguishing reentry adults from other college students is the high likelihood that they are juggling other life roles while attending school, including those of worker, spouse or partner, parent, caregiver, and community member (Ross-Gordon, 2011).
Why do some students obsess over not making new friends while others are unconcerned about meeting people? A number of reasons can explain the gap in priorities.
First of all, let's briefly discuss identity formation, which is a maturity process whereby a person constructs a sense of self. Even though most developmental theories indicate that peoples' identities should fully take shape by the late teens, in real life the process of developing a sense of self takes much longer for many individuals. Thus, a 21-year-old whose identity has not completely formed is still going to place a far greater emphasis on her circle of friends and peer group than the 30-year-old who already has a solid sense of self.
Finally, most nontraditional-aged students have fully launched into adulthood and, therefore, deal with adult obligations such as full-time employment, marriage, child-rearing, household bills, and other duties that leave little time for sustaining new friendships. While a number of traditional college-age students have taken on these same adult responsibilities, many in this age range still do not have these commitments, so they have more time for bonding with new friends.
In summary, don't get too worked up over not making friends in your nursing program. You will look back at this experience many years from now and it will be water under the bridge. While forming positive bonds with classmates is always a good thing, remember that you aren't there to make friends. You're there to learn how to become a competent nurse and earn your degree or diploma, and you can achieve these goals with or without friends in your nursing program.
The truth is that right now the only things I do are attend school, study, complete projects, work, sleep, and eat (when I remember). The only people I see are instructors, other students, coworkers, clinical staff, and patients. My bf lives a thousand miles away and is in the middle of an equally (or perhaps even more) difficult program of study. It's helpful, in its way, because I'm afraid I'd have very little time for him if he was here right now. We actually schedule our phone calls because otherwise, we'd never connect.
My son is in college in another state, and of course I'm always there for him. But he's got a pretty full schedule as well and we don't talk as much as I'd like.
I probably spend the most time with other students right now because all of my focus is needed for this program.
Just curious what different hospitals, clinics, organizations etc are giving their staff over the holidays this year. As a nurse I've never gotten more than a couple hundred bucks as a Christmas bonus but it's always appreciated when employers give a little extra. What are you getting this year? Cash? Coffee mug? Please share!
The local hospice has a big yellow cat that owns the place. He visits everyone and keeps them all company prn. Yes, he seems to know when someone is about to die, and spends special time with them then. Gotta love it.
I was owner and handler of a licensed therapy dog for 12 years. He was a big, brindled, boxer/hound mix. He passed away in 2009 after many years of service to SNF residents & kids with cancer. He was SO calm and SO quiet, one of my friends nicknamed him "Coma." He often fell asleep in patient's beds or on top of their feet. Nothing fazed him - seizures, call lights, code alarms, children trying to ride him or pull his tail, demented residents yelling, med carts rolling. He was absolutely calm and affectionate, always, and happy to lick away tears or put a paw on a shaky leg. Losing him soured me on owning another dog for a long time. Thank you for writing this. It's raining on my face.
As always, such comments fill me with humble gratitude and quiet the rioting voices....for now.
Only someone impossibly out of touch with every aspect of the real world would ever think having nurses make thank you cards for patients is a good idea. The fact that someone, somewhere is paid good money to come up with such ideas is mind boggling. Take all these waste-of-oxygen people and put them to work doing something useful. I know a lot of potholes need to be filled and a lot of freeways need to be cleaned....
Powdered gloves? I had no idea they still made those! How horrible!
Wow - communication is really the key. First of all, clinical instructors must make sure that their students clearly understand all the 'rules'; when does the instructor have to be there? when can the RN act as a supervisor? what is needed to 'check off' a skill? if the skill is 'checked off', can the student perform it without the instructor?. . . etc.
Hindsight is always 20-20. In retrospect, there should have been a serious sit-down meeting between the OP & the clinical instructor after the first serious incident. If that had occurred, with rules & ongoing communication established, would there have been a different outcome? I know that most 19 yo's are still in the "you're not the boss of me" stage as they struggle to establish independence. Sometimes it is very difficult to realize that no matter how far you go in life, someone is always your "boss" and they get to make the rules.
When most of the residents in the LTC
need a hoyer or sit to stand...
and there is demented exit seeking man who could run circles around most of us,
in addition to a scabies out break...
we were told that when the residents or their families complain about the things not getting done due to short staffing (minimal scheduled plus a call in) that we were to smile and tell them "We are doing things a different way today"
Yup that was to be our mantra....trying to brainwash us/them? I'm not sure...all from an admininistrator who has never taken physical care of patients before....
Yup, we sure do things differently that what is promised when they pay ginormous amounts of $$ to enter this Residential/LTC facility.......
"The hospital always errs on the employee's side"... A lie told to me by management attempting to explain why I wouldn't be getting paid for the extra hour I worked on the fall back night in 2011.
Aaaaaaand that little "must do" would effectively spell the end of CheesePotato's nursing career. Really. Because my mind immediately went to the following chestnut:
"Dear Gentleman of 513B--
That we stand here on the cusp of your release from the hospital to long term intensive care, I would like to take this time to reflect on our time together and offer heartfelt thanks.
Thank you so much for not only drinking and driving but going that extra mile for excellence and bringing it all home with a well placed, "LOL U no it buddyz" text that effectively helped you flip your car across a four lane expressway. I mean, I really didn't need sleep anyway, so getting called out at two AM to flood you with blood products, realign your pelvis, both femurs, your tibia, ulna, place a couple chest tubes and rex open a bit of your skull was exactly what I needed. Let us not forget the vomit and blood on my shoes and scrubs to the point it saturated my undergarments. I had been meaning to swap them out anyway.
Oh, and those other two that suffered from your awesomeness? Yeah, that just made my night way fantastic.
Ah yes, memories.
Thank you. Truly. Thank you.
Love and snuggles,
Can you say terminated?
For the life of me, I will never understand management. Last year they wanted us to start verbally thanking patients for "allowing us to participate in their care". Really? You flipped your ATV while high as a kite. This is not really a highlight in my world right now, thank you.
But, may I suggest writing out a few quick fill form letters and having them placed on rubber stamps? Think of the time you will save while meeting your quota of thank you letters!
A certain Lemur mentioned something about a Thank You note meme and after I got done coughing my gum back up out of my lung, I decided that was a splendid idea. Give me a day to get it all ironed out, but it will be a sister blog to my current one *see my profile for details. All credit goes to Lemur for something that is pure hilarity and genius. ::salutes::
Contact your program. I'm 100% certain there's a procedure in place for this circumstance. There was in my program. You will probably have to fill out a form outlining why you didn't get the vaccine, and it will probably require a doctor's signature.
My best, big picture advice to you is to learn how to stop "freaking out." The people that freak out in nursing school don't do as well, and frankly, the nurses who freak out burn out. Panic doesn't make you an effective learner or decision maker. There is usually a solution to any circumstance, and most of what nursing school aims to teach each of us is how to be critical thinkers. You will have challenges on the path to nursing school; do yourself a favor and remember that each of these are learning opportunities, not judgments on your character or intellect.
We have decorated trees in various areas of the building, with empty gift-wrapped boxes beneath each one. Some of those decorative wrapped boxes are taken by various unidentified persons each year.
I should make up some new (replacement) boxes, each containing a card that reads, "Here's Your Sign!"
We put up a fake Xmas tree up in the office, hang ornaments precisely the height of our boss to annoy him as he walks into them, and bomb the rest of the space with lights, ribbons and wrapping paper. Even the fridge door got decorated with sleigh bells.
We bring in cookies and goodies to indulge in, as this is the one time of the year we're all not fussing over training or diets.
I have several practical jokes planned to 'wrap up' the working space of a coworker who is notoriously grumpy for no good reason,
and some awesome Secret Santa gifts planned. I even like the awful fruitcake that the boss's ex-wife sends to us every year.
I <3 the holidays!
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