Marriage distress

NJNursing, ASN, RN · Dec 14, 2005

I think it's more of the fact that after graduating with their RN, they are financially stable and able to stand on their own two feet to be able to get out of a bad marriage.

I, like many others, quit my job before I started nursing clinicals because one nursing class at a time is really taxing on time and trying to work through this (full time no less) would be difficult. And still the bills have to get paid. I'm basically still with my husband because the bills need to be paid and he's the only one working and it's not worth it to sacrifice my schooling right now to kick him to the curb any earlier. I'm waiting to get my degree, start working, pay off mutual debt (as I promised him) and then boot him out on his rear. I've got classmates doing the same thing. One classmate works one day a week (just to stay "in" with the hospital so she can lateral to an RN position - she's currently a unit secretary) and she's planning on getting divorced after graduation and it's not that she's got a rocky relationship is that she's just not in love anymore after 12 years and 3 children together. She says that they're more like roomates and good friends than husband and wife.

I hope this clarifies.

I think you are right that the divorces where already unhealthy mariages, although I dont think "the students are now equipped to take care of themselves with their RN in hand" that may be part of it
but I think the larger part is that unhealthy marriages are less likely to survive the stresses of school. ie you werent really taking care of the problems before, and school exacerbates the issues and makes them that much harder to deal with.
Thats what was true for me both times!