Losing the fight to continue.....

phoenix72 · Dec 5, 2006

I have the same type of stuff happen. I always get good grades and have a way of tapping into others and teaching them in a way so that they too learn. I'll turn around and invite them somewhere and then they flake on me. It hurts, I won't lie, but I don't think they mean to intentionally stand me up. I think that people often think we won't miss their presence because others will show up. They don't realise how much we really want them to attend and think we won't miss them if they don't show because we'll have a room full of people to distract us. What they don't realise is that the others are thinking the same thing. Before you know it, no one shows. Then again, there are the flakes of the world... Either way, it is rude. If we were friends and you invited me, I promise I'd show...:balloons:

IaCountryGirl · Dec 5, 2006

I hate it when people say they are going to show up and never do :angryfire

I think it's just flat out rude. I wasn't raised that way but notice others in my age group do it. First, I get busy schedules. I am not sitting around on my butt hoping for someone to come visit. But for petes sake, take a minute to call me to let me know that you can't make it!

Whenever I'm invited to something and I am not sure at the time if I can make it, I tell that person that I am not sure if I can make it. I don't lie and say "oh yeah, I'll be there".

ANother thing I notice is people never want to just get together and chat anymore. YOu always have to have something big planned or go do something. My old group of friends used to sit on the town square until the wee hours of the morning just chatting and I miss those days so much!

locolorenzo22, BSN, RN · Dec 5, 2006

Tell me about it IA. I used to sit outside at the drive in til 2AM with friends of mine, we'd shoot the breeze and just hang out until we had to go...then we'd end up in the Ace hardware parking lot. those were the days.

Moongirl, Hugs back at you! Thanks, needed that. I like you too, but I see where you coming from. I'm busy too, but what the heck, what's one lost weekend 2 weeks before finals? :beercuphe Seriously, though, take time to pee! You'd hate to become one of our nursing dxs: Functional urinary incontintence RT Stress AMB client studying textbook until bladder overflows. :nono:

Whaddya say, raise a beer for me the day after finals are over? Not til next R afternoon for me here! :cheers:

Brigi23, BSN · Dec 6, 2006

I don't know if it is our generation or not, but the fact of the matter is that people in my nursing class that I have really liked have thrown parties, and both times I did'nt make it, and neither did anybody else. I think in other areas of study, it is easy to just let go and party, hang out, enjoy yourself. In my experience so far with nursing, when I get a free moment, I am taking a deep breath and wanting nothing more than to sink under the covers and take a big long nap, or go see my family that thinks I died a year and a half ago in this nursing program. I would definately not take it personally. I know when I didn't go to those parties none of it was personal

survivor08 · Dec 6, 2006

Everyone is stressed right now and perhaps feeling a bit touchy and sensitive. I know I am. In my group people feel very comfortable coming to me for answers, notes and love to come to my home for study group but forget to ask me when it comes time to go out for lunch or go for drinks after tests. Maybe because I am older or married, most of them are in their 20's or early 30's single or fooling around on their spouses. I just get over it as I have to remind myself that it is a generational thing (being self absorbed, and yes, it is my generation that raised 'em) and I did not go to NS to make friends, although that would be nice and I have made a few. I do believe next semester I will have a different group of study partners that give a little and not just take. Please do not take it personally and next semester let them invite you or find another more mature group to spend time with.

moongirl · Dec 6, 2006

Tell me about it IA. I used to sit outside at the drive in til 2AM with friends of mine, we'd shoot the breeze and just hang out until we had to go...then we'd end up in the Ace hardware parking lot. those were the days.
Moongirl, Hugs back at you! Thanks, needed that. I like you too, but I see where you coming from. I'm busy too, but what the heck, what's one lost weekend 2 weeks before finals? :beercuphe Seriously, though, take time to pee! You'd hate to become one of our nursing dxs: Functional urinary incontintence RT Stress AMB client studying textbook until bladder overflows.
Whaddya say, raise a beer for me the day after finals are over? Not til next R afternoon for me here! :cheers:

will do- and you drink one for me, I am done on the 19th. Have a test, a presentation and a HESI all before then- see? absolutely no time to pee.. I may have to insert a foley...