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oldsockventriloquist · Jun 23, 2016

This might help - Single Mother Success in College | College of Saint Mary . I know the webpage says single mothers, but you might be surprised by what they offer you. I think there might be contact information somewhere on that webpage and it would definitely be worth it to call up about childcare, child learning, and whatever else they offer.

imp3rfect_beauty · Jun 23, 2016

This might help - Single Mother Success in College | College of Saint Mary . I know the webpage says single mothers, but you might be surprised by what they offer you. I think there might be contact information somewhere on that webpage and it would definitely be worth it to call up about childcare, child learning, and whatever else they offer.

Thank you. I will look at this site. Luckily I do not have to worry about child care, my husband takes our son to and from daycare; before and after work. My main focus will be attending day classes, going to clinical AND working an evening job all while trying to find time to sleep, study and be a mom and wife.

imp3rfect_beauty · Jun 23, 2016

Thank you. I will look into the website. Luckily I do not have to worry about a daycare. My husband drops our son off before he goes to work and picks him up afterwards. What I need to figure out is a balance between attending classes and clinical during the days, working in the evenings and then finding time to sleep and be a mom and wife. Is this doable?

windsurfer8, BSN, RN · Jun 23, 2016

Balance will be relative. Meaning to actually achieve balance in this situation means more than likely having to spend more time on nursing school. It is just a fact that getting a BSN is a heck of a lot of work. Is it "doable"? Yes people are doing it as we speak. When I got my BSN there were single mothers in there and they hit it as hard as everyone else. One thing I think their kids actually learned the value of hard work when their mother is working hard to help them. Nothing is perfect in life, but even if they don't realize it now more than likely later they will know "mom" worked so hard so we could have a better life. I think it will turn out well for you and them.

imp3rfect_beauty · Jun 23, 2016

I am definitely nervous about spending more time on nursing school even outside of school for a total of 3 years. I know it is something I NEED to do and that it will all be worth it. I just fear for my husband. He will be taking care of the house and our son all by himself pretty much for 3 years. I have told him this and he told me he understands. I dont think he truly does.

NeoNurse2Be · Jun 24, 2016

I am currently separated with two kids, (ages 2 & 4), I work full-time and am in school for my BSN full-time. Finding the balance is key like the previous poster stated and having your husbands help and a good support system is also great. Any little bit of help will be greatly beneficial. No, your husband may not fully understand what nursing school entails, but accept whatever help you can get and keep the communication open. It was a little easier before my husband and I separated because I didn't have to work as much. Now my oldest is in school, the youngest is home with me, I still have to cook, clean, and take my daughter to and from school. I go to class in the evenings and work overnight. Also I volunteer at a children's hospital one day a week. Nursing school is what you make it. Don't make it any more stressful than it has to be. Schedule some down time for yourself regularly, so that you don't get burned out. Sorry for the essay, but don't stress, you can do this. Good Luck!

Oh and I forgot to mention, I have straight A's so be encouraged.

imp3rfect_beauty · Jun 24, 2016

Congrats on having all A's that is amazing, all while being a single mom.

I will keep all of this in mind. I tend to be a very anxious person. My mind tends to come up with so many scary possibilities and "what-ifs." So I keep on thinking that maybe it will become too much for my husband and he will end up leaving me. That maybe this is too much for me-nursing school and a full time evening job. Yet I have worked so hard for many years to finally be accepted into a nursing program. I cannot quit now. I believe all I can do is hope that my husband and I are strong enough for this. All I can do is hope that he truly understands and wants this as much as I do; wants this as much as he says he does.

NeoNurse2Be · Jun 24, 2016

I totally understand and to be perfectly honest, it can take a toll on relationships, but scheduling that time for your family and keeping the communication open will keep yall together. The hardest thing will be that he may feel you're not spending enough time with him since your nose will always be in the books. Many, many marriages have survived nursing school, I'm sure you guys will be fine. It's just nerves, but you'll see, it's not so bad.

imp3rfect_beauty · Jun 25, 2016

I need to find a way to turn my thoughts off. Now I am wondering how I will handle when my son is sick, needs to stay home and my husband cant take the day off..but I have classes that day and we arent allowed to miss. How in the world would I handle that?

andrea3434 · Jun 27, 2016

Hi! I get your fears a little bit. Only a little because I have three children but I do not work.

You need to find back up childcare. Find babysitter who is willing to take care of your kids if they get sick. You might have to pay extra for this. My nursing program requires a doctor's note when you are out sick (or out sick taking care of a child). Otherwise you take a point loss. I think it is ridiculous, but I guess it is more to prevent traditional students from skipping because they don't feel like going or are hungover or whatever.

Anyway, you can post on your local FB community page to ask for referrals for a sitter, you can check out care.com (we found a wonderful sitter this way).