Is it just me?

CBsMommy · Feb 16, 2010

I don't really have friends in nursing school but it is a good thing to at least be friendly (it really helps in lab and clinical). I have a really strong personality and tend to turn people off so I don't really see any of these people being my friend after school. But that's okay. I've never really "hung out" with people that I work with. I have outside friends that I do things with instead that I consider my "real" friends.

As for study groups....I have a group of people that come over to my house one day a week and they are not really helping me (more like the other way around). The only way that I benefit from it is to teach out loud to people learning the same thing (so that if I screw up, they can catch me). Otherwise, I would just say no to study groups.

allnurses Guide · Feb 16, 2010

I agree that study groups are a personal decision that should be made based on how YOU best learn. And if your lack of social skills is getting in the way of you taking advantage of the way you learn best, you need to fix it.

As far as friends go, I am five weeks in and adore my fellow students. I didn't know anyone going in at all. Making friends was easy; everyone there is nervous, everyone there has a dream, everyone there wants to do well and be seen as smart, capable and competent. Imagine how you would like to be greeted and treated - then start treating others that way. The world will suddenly be full of positive interactions. Most people are so worried about what others are thinking of them that it doesn't occur to them you are worried about what they think of you. You are your own case in point. Become the person who is always willing and looking to help others on their way up. You will boost yourself in the process. Guaranteed.

maybe4 · Feb 16, 2010

I will graduate with my ADN in May and I haven't joined any study groups. As a matter of fact, I find study groups distracting (that is just me, and how I study). I read my assignments and take notes on my reading as study, and I read ALL of the assigned reading. That helps me the most.

Idontknowbetter · Feb 17, 2010

I studied alone. Professors TRIED to encourage group work but I was always distracted by the loud breathers, the stomach gurggles, and the talking. I work much better alone.

maybe4 · Feb 17, 2010

And the cursing, and the gossip, and the sharing of how much someone drank that last weekend. Maybe it is just tooooooo social for me. Or maybe it is that many of the students are still in that young, party, date, have fun, it is all about "me" period in their life, and I just don't have time for that now....