Incivility And The Workplace

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Hello Nurses,

I am trying to get advice on how to try and change bad behavior in the workplace.

I recently started a new job in the ER and I am so disgruntled with how all of the nurses

speak to each other. It's basically very rude and borderline disrespectful. I have already told

one person who spoke to me rudely to never speak to me like that. But since I am the new

nurse and still in orientation, I was looked at like I was the one with issues. Unfortunately, I was told by the supervisor that I shouldn't take offense to how I am spoken to because everyone tends to be very blunt with each other and that's just how it is. I find it so sad that the supervisor does not understand that it's her responsibility to change that culture in her workplace. The way I see it, she reminds me of an old nurse who is just set in her ways and does not like change. Would like to get thoughts from supervisors who accepts this behavior and why.

Specializes in Med/Surg/Tele/ER/PICC/Psychiatric nurse.

It would be difficult giving you examples. I do understand blunt and when some is just being a butt.

I served 20 years in the Army so I really do know the difference between being blunt and just being rude.

Nursing is a second career for me so I was expecting a different culture and mindset among co-workers.

I guess I maybe expecting to much from a profession that is suppose to be compassionate.

Specializes in PMHNP-BC.

I started work at a new facility as a manager and maybe because I was new or who knows why but staff told me about really abusive behavior coming from one nurse. I didn't rush to judge just paid attention. We were doing flu shots and her team was out late. I went to check on her, she was red in the face, ranting "f.. this place, if we do flu shots next year I am calling off." I found relief for her and asked her to take a break but the other nurses said this was not unusual, she was repeatedly abusive. I spoke with the DON who said "oh she is just a little blunt." I then asked the DON to call her with a question, during that conversation she threatened the DON, making her a believer. Long story short....they all knew her so didn't see anything wrong until there was an outside perspective. It was a gradual change and it turns out she had cancer with mets so the brain. That explained the behavior but not the blind eye everyone turned up to that point. Good luck, it was tough to get anyone to listen to me until they had to.

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