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I'm comming on here not hear from ppl what I did wrong, or how they are able to manage school with kids. No I don't have kids, not having kids doesn't mean I have more time to study for an exam. Yes, I know I should have studied more. Yes, before this exam, I was getting very good grades. Yes, I got overly confident and underestimated how hard the exam would be. Yes, it seems like the stuff I focused on wasn't so much on the exam and the stuff she told us wasn't going to be so much in the exam was. Did I feel confident, no. Did I know I was going to fail, I hate saying it, yes. Am I a negative thinker.....yes. Am I still passing yeah, but bearly passing. If I want to have a high "C" going into the final. I have to make a 92. Have I made above this? Yeah. Was it hard? Yes, VERY! What was the difference then and now? Amt of time studied and confidence. :crying2:.....Do I feel defeated? Yes....Has this been a wake up call on how much I want this?....VErY much SO!....Do I want it badly? Yes!....How do I believe I can do it and get out of this defeated mentality? How do I have faith when all seems lost? Please, help.

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You shouldn't feel defeated. Throw a pitty party for 5 minutes and then move on:). Learn from your mistakes...for your next test study more, do not be overly confident, and study those things your teacher says won't be on the exam (you just can't trust some teachers). Focus your efforts on things you can control (instead of negative thinking), so you can do better on the next test.

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Thanks!.....Now that I've slept on it, I feel a little better. I feel like there is still hope!...I haven't gotten my "official" grade for this exam yet, so I have to wait and see before I fret. I just thought how in the past I thought I failed an exam and still ended up passing it. If that happened last time, there is no reason why it can't happen again. Yes, I was confused last time about it, but it felt very good! :lol2: I'm sure one way or another I'll get a higher grade than what I think I got. If not it's not like I'm failing, I just have to press harder.....We will see how all of this turns out.

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Attitude in life is largely a matter of choice. You decide how you react and you decide how much credence to give your negative emotions. This is not something you have no control over. It feels like you are helpless, but you aren't. Once you decide you are a victim of these negative emotions you have given away your power. Don't do it! If you are struggling, you think about what a confident person would do and then pretend you are that person until you feel it take over.

Watch your nutrition, try to get enough sleep, take excellent care of yourself until this is over and do what you need to do. There's not much else about it to say. Just do it. I am glad to hear you are sounding more confident. Good luck!

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Your still passing, so it's not over until it's over and you do have time to do things differently. It sounds like you are already feeling better about things and that will help a lot! Good Luck to you!

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Update. I got my official exam grade earlier today. Although it wasn't good, it wasn't as bad as I thought! :)...I'm no longer borderline passing! I know if I work really, really hard I can get a B! If I don't then I can still pass....By the way I found out I was NOT a lone in the grade that I got. I actually laughed about how I felt yesterday after today. Yes, I can still do it!!! :heartbeat

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One technique I read about in a math anxiety book, was to forcibly stop yourself whenever negative comments started running through your head. Say "stop!" out loud; stand up and do something physical or different; pull out index cards where you have written positive things you have done and remind yourself of them. It is supposed to break the cycle of negative thinking.

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you can not beat yourself up over this one mistake you must pick yourself up to do better. you are not defeated because you fall down, you are defeated because you fail to get back up

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