I'm a nurse, not a babysitter!!!

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I sometimes don't understand how people get approved for skilled nursing care. A lot of parents seem to obtain services and think they got a free nanny. I had one client who needed someone to go to school with her just to keep herself from smacking herself in the head and to feed her and change her diapers. She easily could have done with a HHA. Plus there were 3 aides in the classroom who were there to handle those things anyway. There was only one med she took and the school nurse could have easily have given it to her. Another case, a 23 year old MR girl, the foster mother would do all the meds and start the tube feeds right there in front of me, turning down my offers to do the actual skilled nursing care, since that's why I was there. Nope, all I was there for is to play with her all day, just to entertain her with musical baby toys. Those were long days. Another client, a 12 year old MR girl, mom just needed someone to take her for a walk in her stroller and push her in her swing, but mom gives the meds. If the girl seized, mom would push me out of the way and care for her herself. I know some mothers are control freaks with care and meds, but I dislike feeling underutilized. I enjoy working w kids and don't mind doing these things, but I wish the nanny tasks were in addition to actual skilled nursing care. Straight babysitting is not what I worked so hard in school for.

Add security and secretary onto the list too...

Specializes in retired LTC.

And you're also not the 'driveway snow shoveler'!!!

I kid you NOT. This was something I remembered from an older similar post. Family wanted nurse to shovel out the driveway.

Specializes in Geriatric/Pediatric nurse.
On 3/23/2012 at 5:03 AM, CloudySue said:

I sometimes don't understand how people get approved for skilled nursing care. A lot of parents seem to obtain services and think they got a free nanny. I had one client who needed someone to go to school with her just to keep herself from smacking herself in the head and to feed her and change her diapers. She easily could have done with a HHA. Plus there were 3 aides in the classroom who were there to handle those things anyway. There was only one med she took and the school nurse could have easily have given it to her. Another case, a 23 year old MR girl, the foster mother would do all the meds and start the tube feeds right there in front of me, turning down my offers to do the actual skilled nursing care, since that's why I was there. Nope, all I was there for is to play with her all day, just to entertain her with musical baby toys. Those were long days. Another client, a 12 year old MR girl, mom just needed someone to take her for a walk in her stroller and push her in her swing, but mom gives the meds. If the girl seized, mom would push me out of the way and care for her herself. I know some mothers are control freaks with care and meds, but I dislike feeling underutilized. I enjoy working w kids and don't mind doing these things, but I wish the nanny tasks were in addition to actual skilled nursing care. Straight babysitting is not what I worked so hard in school for.

Yasss!! I agree!! I don’t feel like I worked so hard to be a glorified babysitter .

seriously considering going back into skilled nursing .

On 7/22/2019 at 3:35 PM, amoLucia said:

And you're also not the 'driveway snow shoveler'!!!

I kid you NOT. This was something I remembered from an older similar post. Family wanted nurse to shovel out the driveway.

I wouldn’t even know how I would react if I had a parent ask me to do that. Probably with ummm I don’t think so but nice try on that one .

Specializes in Pediatric Home Health LPN.

On the flip side of this, I don't think it's fair to have the nurse do every little thing for the child. I have one patient 5 yr old Female and the mom will heat up the breakfast and yell from the top of the stairs for me to come get it. Or she will wash the laundry but expect me to put it up. The mother wants nothing to do with her child for the entire 12 hours I'm there and my patient sees her family for maybe 20 minutes before bed. They don't share meals, they don't take her on the vacations they're always gone for. The mother thinks the nurses are fully her nanny and will expect us to do everything. I love hanging with my patient and sharing meal times and taking her to the park, but I feel as if I shouldn't be taking her to the appointments the mom has schedule. Anyone else with this issue? I have another patient who's mother just expects us to do the medical treatments so I was thrown at this new case LOL 

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