Im keeping quiet on my decision

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Except here of course lol!

I only told my daughter today about my going to the lpn course and that's because she is balanced and honest. I am not letting much of my family know due to the negativity or the interfering telling me how to do it factor and such... I know for sure at least one will say "you are too old" "so and so couldn't make it it will be too hard on you" etc..another will want to know my gpa so they can compare their gpas from a totally different field of study. I realize I will be pushed to limits I never have been before but by those who know what they are talking about and that makes sense and I expect that. So to deflect negativity as much as possible I am keeping it quiet!

sometimes I know I get over the top on my excitement so I will try to tone that a bit lol!

Anyone else having to limit who they tell? How do you deflect negativity from people you care about?

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I also do not plan on telling my family about my decision on going to LPN school. I have only told my boyfriend and his 100% behind me. I also plan to leave my full-time job and only work part-time and per diem at my other jobs.

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I understand not wanting negative influence while your trying to better your life circumstance, but are you sure it would be negative? I just graduated at 37, with 3 kids and honestly, I don't think I would have made it without the support of my family. It was defiantly a hardship that affected everyone, but we all see the bigger picture, with me being able to provide a better life for my family. If your family is truly not supportive, make sure to surround yourself with another support system. You will need them to help you through! Good luck!

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There isn't anything to be ashamed of. Becoming a nurse at any age, regardless, is an accomplishment to be proud of. Congratulations :)

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Oh of course nothing to be ashamed of! My daughter definitely knows and has always been a great support system. I will conect with others for support as well. Thanks!

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As far as knowing I will hear the "you are too old" bit is because I've heard the same people say it about others and I like to remain positive.

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hi peaq,

when i work in the hospital with mostly rns and when they found out i was going for my lpn first i got nothing but negativity. like its a waste of time go straight to ur rn, or we soon there will be no lpns, soon on and so forth but i just kept going because it worked best for me. now i am done and found out i passed my nclex on mothers day yay!!!!! and my nurse manager hired me on as an lpn. it worked for my current situation so i went for it. don't let any one bring you down because only you can live your life!!! good luck!!! i did it with three kids under 5 years old. don't let ANYTHING set back ur goals!!!

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Specializes in Peds/outpatient FP,derm,allergy/private duty.

I think you are demonstrating a skill that will serve you well no matter what the specifics of your family situation. You are protecting yourself so you can give your all to this new endeavor that will test you for sure. You need to create a bubble around yourself if you know people who will try to drag you down for their own reasons. Coming out victorious on the other side is sweet and I wish you the best!

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peaq, I'm in a similar boat. I'm not yet in nursing school (I'm gearing up to apply this summer) and I haven't told anyone aside from my husband and a couple close friends. I've been quietly working on my pre-reqs over the past couple years. Nursing will be a career change for me and I do anticipate a bit of negativity from family. I tend to take criticism from them especially personal and I don't want to have that distraction. Several members of my family are nurses (RNs) and they look down on LPNs so that's something I'm going to have to deal with. Also, nursing programs in my city are very competitive. Even though I have good grades and feel confident about doing well on TEAS, I don't want to not get in to any programs and then have to deal with telling people.

And you're not too old for nursing. :) I work at a college and I see students of all ages - from 16 year olds in dual enrollment to 80 year olds working on their goal of getting a college degree. I think there's something to be said for "older" students. I'm in the non-traditional age group myself, and I feel so much more prepared and confident than I did when I was in college first time around from age 18-22. I know the value of an education and I'm much more driven than I was in my younger years. I assume it's similar for other older students.

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I told my family I was going to school for accounting. Not going to tell them until I am about to graduate. I totally understand. This is my second time around and I am grateful for the second chance. I am ready to work my behind off this time. Working a part time job, single and two kids... I must look at the bigger picture or else I will quit. Good luck to you and I wish you all the best.

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I think you are demonstrating a skill that will serve you well no matter what the specifics of your family situation. You are protecting yourself so you can give your all to this new endeavor that will test you for sure. You need to create a bubble around yourself if you know people who will try to drag you down for their own reasons. Coming out victorious on the other side is sweet and I wish you the best!

thank you! Being my family lives a good distance it also won't be hard to keep it under lock and key. I like a bubble so to speak when it comes to certain people because the less they know the better off I am lol!

Thanks again everyone!

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I told my family I was going to school for accounting. Not going to tell them until I am about to graduate. I totally understand. This is my second time around and I am grateful for the second chance. I am ready to work my behind off this time. Working a part time job, single and two kids... I must look at the bigger picture or else I will quit. Good luck to you and I wish you all the best.

thank you! And wishing you all the best as well.

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