I don't know if it is just me, but I have noticed a change in people's attitudes toward me at work since I have been accepted into nursing school. I work in a place where there are CNA's, Medical Office Assistants, LPN's, RN's, EVERYBODY. I have worked with these people for over five years and I thought I had their support, but ever sense I told them my good news, I have noticed a change. I have caught people giving dirty looks and some people aren't even speaking to me anymore. I do my best not to talk about it, because I think it gets under some people's skin. Now don't get me wrong, there are people who I know are really happy for me and want to see me succeed, but what's the deal with everyone else?? I start school in August, I am so ready to go!! Give me some feedback on how you think I should handle this situation. My feelings are so hurt because I thought these were people who really loved and cared about me.
It hasn't been a "work" thing for me!! It's been a friend thing for me in a couple cases! Idk if it's because I'm doing something that they couldn't/didn't think they could do or what!! You would think they would be excited! But, no!
Once again, this makes me grateful for the work environment that I have. So many of us are in school. What I see is, people building each other up, sharing what they've recently learned, and little to no one-upmanship.
The only time it is stressful is when scheduling becomes a burden- ie, classes getting in the way of work time, excessive time-off requests. It's a burden on your co-workers to work short because of your class, and to expect them to do so- and expect management to work around your classes- is really unfair.
Overall, though, we really have an environment that is supportive and respects education. I hope your co-workers will see that your learning will benefit them as well. "A rising tide lifts all boats."
It hasn't been a "work" thing for me!! It's been a friend thing for me in a couple cases! Idk if it's because I'm doing something that they couldn't/didn't think they could do or what!! You would think they would be excited! But, no!
I've had the same problem with a "friend." I was accepted into nursing school at the end of last year and my friend seemed happy for me because she knew how hard and long I had worked to finally get accepted. I never bragged about being accepted ( just mainly cried and constantly thanked God) but since I started in January she would say so many negative things about nursing like " I hear a lot of people don't make it out of nursing school" or "nursing is too flooded so it will be impossible to find a job." I take in what she has to say and never lash out at her, I'm bigger than that. I try to stay positive and optimistic about everything. I have no need to have to explain or defend my purpose in life. The crazy thing is, she always brings up the topic about nursing like asking me about school. Once SHE brings it up, I get so excited to tell her the new things that I have learned or how well I did on my hardest test. A few minutes into the conversation, she starts bashing nursing again : / I try to avoid the subject at all costs but I shouldn't have to feel bad for what is my passion. Time to let those go that want to bring me down, I guess
I've had the same problem with a "friend." I was accepted into nursing school at the end of last year and my friend seemed happy for me...but since I started in January she would say so many negative things about nursing like " I hear a lot of people don't make it out of nursing school" or "nursing is too flooded so it will be impossible to find a job." ...she always brings up the topic about nursing like asking me about school. .... Time to let those go that want to bring me down, I guess
NCstudentnurse, those are true statements that your friend is making. Perhaps she is trying to protect you or be honest, two things that I expect from a true friend. (Just a thought.)
Thank you hey_suz! I tried to consider that as I try to see everyone's intentions as good. I was really hoping that she was trying to protect me and be honest with me but this is not the first time. I think that the straw has broken the camel's back this time. I have worked in healthcare for almost 10 years (9 years as a cna, 6 as a CMA/Phlebotomist). Over those years, I worked hard to earn certifications and then college degrees to try to further my education in healthcare. Along, the way, she always had something negative to say about them all. I would try to brush it off. I know that nursing is one of the hardest and best things I have ever done. I wish I had of done it a long time ago instead of doubting myself. I left my fulltime job as a CMA to further my education in nursing and now working prn while my significant other supports our family. This is a HUGE sacrifice that I am putting 200% into. I also understand that is hard to find a job in nursing that's why I hope to transfer into an RN position when I finish school since I work for a hospital that my NS is affiliated with. She has seemed to "bash" several other mutual friends' chosen careers as well. I seem to be the only one that just tries to brush it off. Others don't even talk to her anymore because of her negativity. She did the same thing to her sister that has excelled in her career. I honestly think that the problem is that she is not happy with her career choice but finds problems with everyone else's and points them out.
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It hasn't been a "work" thing for me!! It's been a friend thing for me in a couple cases! Idk if it's because I'm doing something that they couldn't/didn't think they could do or what!! You would think they would be excited! But, no!