This is not really related to nursing, per-se, but I have just started a new job as a nurse. I mean, I have been at this job for 2 weeks tomorrow. I am already stressed to the max and questioning everything I do and feeling inadequate as expected for a new nurse, and suddenly I have another problem. Apparently I have a stalker, who also happens to be the night shift security guard. I work at a retirement community in the skilled nursing facility. According to the night shift nurse who relieves me, he comes in every night and asks about me. This has apparently been going on for a week. She just told me 2 nights ago. I pretty much blew it off thinking oh just a crush, and told her to let him know that I am married and have children. Well tonight she came in and told me that she let him know. Well according to her he came in the very next night asking more about me. So obviously that didn't detour him and she hasn't been very specific about what he has been asking about me, but she did mention he wanted to know what my last name was. I specifically told her not to tell him and not let him back into the nurses station (where he could find my name). Then RIGHT after this discussion, he waltzes in the unit, 3 hours before he is scheduled to be on duty and circled around the facility about 4 times. I jetted out before he reached the nurses station each time to avoid him. Really, he has no reason to be in our area of the facility unless called upon. Normally security just hangs out at the gatehouse.
Also what is interesting, this same person randomly contacted me on myspace about a year ago, I also told him then that I had a family he continued to try and talk to me, it was always friendly and never seemed questionable, but I decided to stop all conversation with him because it didn't seem right, obviously because I am married and he is some random person. So that was the end of that.
WELL, this person has been working at this facility for 3 months now but for whatever reason just took his orientation on the SAME DAY as mine. They have orientation quite often, about once a week. It is a very large facility. Could he have somehow known I would be going to orientation on that day???
Specializes in Community Health, Med-Surg, Home Health.
I would also feel uncomfortable if this guy came three hours before his own shift to ask questions about me. What I am curious about, though, is how do you suspect that you communicated with this person via MySpace.com?
I would follow my gut, by letting the Director of both, your department and his know that this clearly makes you uncomfortable. The bottom line of it is that you don't want this person inquiring about you. But, do not make this into a shouting match, do not make a scene to invoke anger or humilation...giving this man a reason to become upset and focus on revenge. And, truthfully, being new, if you are clearly uncomfortable, it may be better that you leave.
pagandeva2000, LPN
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I would also feel uncomfortable if this guy came three hours before his own shift to ask questions about me. What I am curious about, though, is how do you suspect that you communicated with this person via MySpace.com?
I would follow my gut, by letting the Director of both, your department and his know that this clearly makes you uncomfortable. The bottom line of it is that you don't want this person inquiring about you. But, do not make this into a shouting match, do not make a scene to invoke anger or humilation...giving this man a reason to become upset and focus on revenge. And, truthfully, being new, if you are clearly uncomfortable, it may be better that you leave.