I have relatives that always put me down

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Everytime I talk to one of my relatives, all I hear is that they are dissapointed in me because I haven't finished anything in school or that I don't have a real job. They always compare me to my cousins who are either in LVN programs or the ones that passed the NCLEX. I'm 24 years old, I finally finished my prerequisites and just applied for next fall admissions. I got married at 19, so I didn't go straight to college to pursue nursing full time. They don't understand what I've been going through. It makes me feel depressed and offended that they would even say negative things about me.

Everytime the holidays come up, I try to avoid them just to avoid the criticism. :(

Specializes in Psychiatry.
I'm so not a fan of being around toxic people even if their blood line is similar to mine. You sound like a smart cookie, do not let anyone make you feel bad about your path. If you will surround yourself with only positive, kind and successful people your life will be much more pleasant. Hugs, Jules

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I agree 110%

I am 45, married with 2 boys (9 and 8 yrs old). I started working on my pre-reqs 2 1/2 yrs ago, and finished them last month. I made the dean's list at my community college and am so proud of that. This March, I'll apply to the nursing program - I've wanted this my whole life. Way, way back in high school, my guidance counselor looked at me while I was asking questions about nursing school. He smiled and (I SWEAR) he said, "you're so pretty, don't you want to get married and have children?" I didn't know if he was asking me to marry him or telling me I wasn't smart enough for school. I believed the later. Please DO NOT LET ANYONE DISCOURAGE YOU! My mother-in-law gave me an attitude when I started school. I got the old "who do you think you are...". Well, it took 20+ years and some bumps in the road to realize that I am worthy of wanting and achieving my lifelong dream. I've worked my tail off at school, at home, as a mother, and a wife. But, I promised myself, no one would stop me this time. It is not by any means easy, but it's my promise to me, and I'm keeping it. There are some days that I'm surprised my underwear isn't on over my clothes, but I'm where I want to be in my life. Thank God, I have a great husband and wonderful boys. We all work together as a team. For some people, the words "good luck, I'm so happy for you, and congratulations" don't come out that easy. If you quit, you'll give them what they want. Reward yourself and give yourself what you want -- a better life. I'm sure you deserve it. By the way, Good Luck, I'm so Happy for You and CONGRATULATIONS! Go get 'em!

Thanks everyone for the encouraging words and support! I feel a lot better coming here talking about my own family issues. I get wonderful people to remind me that I'm doing the right thing and that my life choices are just part of the journey.

I really don't understand why my own relatives are the way they are. It could be insecurity to see someone else succeed. I will definitely keep on working hard to complete my goals. I want to say thank you everyone. :loveya:

Specializes in ICU.

Just think, you probably spent your adult life doing things for others, well this is for you.

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