I began working as a nurse faculty member at a small school approximately 9 months ago. Another nurse began at the same time and the two of us are to work as partners for the students in the beginning levels of the program. Things seemed to be going well at first, but my co-worker began to show signs of poor organization, lack of upholding standards of the school, and just an overall lack of insight and poor judgement. For example, the skills labs that she puts together are incredibly unorganized (students spend much of the time sitting on tables talking), she leaves clinical sites early because she "feels like it", and pretty much does what she wants as long as it benefits her in some way.
In addition, certain aspects of her personality began to show. She manipulates situations to make herself look like a model employee and she is impossible to communicate with. If she is asked a question or given a suggestion she responds as if she is being attacked.
Most recently she approached the director of the program and stated that me and the other faculty members in the office were bullying her. I am so completely appalled and disgusted at this behavior. This latest action has me at my wit's end.
I really don't want to quit but I don't see how I can work with this woman. She is quite possibly the most terrible human I have ever encountered.
I realize that this is very one-sided and it may be hard to look at the situation objectively. However, I have tried endlessly to make some headway with her. I took her out to lunch so we could talk. I have apologized for things I didn't even do to as to not rock the boat. Smearing my name with accusations of bullying, however, I will not tolerate.
Anyone been in a similar situation or have any suggestions? My boss is no help. She is completely caught up in this co-worker's lies and manipulation and has basically enabled this behavior.
Okay, this is a hard position to be in. I can say this though that I did have to deal with a coworker who is not very nice at all. However, I just ignored her and protected myself during the shift. I would do what I had to but I would not extend my hand to help out and not expect anything in return. She obviously knew I did not like her but I did not do anything specifically to her. However, she kept trying to make me look bad, but if you don't respond and do everything as supposed to be then you should be okay. Document in a personal journal of what she does and says so you have a record of everything and proof of her behavior. Your boss cannot just believe on hearsay so keeping yourself on good terms will help your case. Eventually it will come to light so be patient and don't let your emotions get to you about her. It won't do you any good with your emotions taking over.
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Okay, this is a hard position to be in. I can say this though that I did have to deal with a coworker who is not very nice at all. However, I just ignored her and protected myself during the shift. I would do what I had to but I would not extend my hand to help out and not expect anything in return. She obviously knew I did not like her but I did not do anything specifically to her. However, she kept trying to make me look bad, but if you don't respond and do everything as supposed to be then you should be okay. Document in a personal journal of what she does and says so you have a record of everything and proof of her behavior. Your boss cannot just believe on hearsay so keeping yourself on good terms will help your case. Eventually it will come to light so be patient and don't let your emotions get to you about her. It won't do you any good with your emotions taking over.