I started an ADN nursing program over a year ago and graduate in May. I have the highest average in class, and I really seem to be doing well. However; I hate everything nursing, I really only started the program because I was bored, and now I feel to far invested to quite. I have to keep telling myself that this is a great job, but in reallity this job holds a lot of responsibility, "crappy responsibility." In addition I feel tremendous pressure from my family, my husband, and my husbands family to finish and work. It's not like I don't already have a BSN from another university, and my husband makes an excellent salary, I don't have to work. I keep hoping that all the pretentious people in class with their over enthusiastic "I love nursing" attitude will be non-existent in the workplace. This is me just venting, but if you have any productive advice or have felt this way I would love a response. However; if you are just wanting to tell me how terrible I am, please keep it to yourself.
It is very possible that this path you have chosen may not be your calling. I am only just starting nursing school, after 5 years of changing majors, and I already have my doubts. I have read so many posts of people who say that their degrees in nursing were worthless because once they got into a real job, they totally despised it.
The pressure you feel from your family, is probably being magnified by your own conscious. Perhaps the worst thing you can do is fall under the pressure and disobey your own judgment. You have to decide for yourself what you want to do with your life. While we would like our loved ones to fully support sound and healthy decisions we make, we can't expect them to be perfect in understanding you and your feelings. I can almost imagine them observing you in the future should you work at a job you hate, bringing that negativity and disdain home to your family, and them not understanding why you have become so down on life.
You can however be proud of your education and grades. Who knows when one day the things you learned in nursing school may prove useful in their own time.
As you are so close to graduating. I'd encourage you to definitely try several nursing possessions and see how it is in action. You could find a niche in nursing that you really like, or that is tolerable enough to work in while you plan your next stage in life.
You might consider consulting a professional therapist. In addition to possibly helping you find some contentment with your current mind-set.. there is always the possibility that you have may have underlying problems, of which a professional may be able to identify and help you.
I'm really shocked at all the back biting hostility in this thread. I think its sad that someone is doubting themselves and worried about if they have made the right choice and instead of giving the benefit of the doubt and trying to be HELPFUL, half the posts here have the theme of "omg you took my spot!" Just because someone else's reasons and ambitions towards getting into school were different than yours does not mean they have any less of a right to be there than you do. Sorry but its the truth. I could say that all of those who failed out and came back did not deserve a spot a SECOND time b/c they could not get it right the first time, or all of those who sign up and then fail out b/c they did not give up their lives as much as I have... but really, I could care less what other people do. In the end, I just worry about myself, try to be helpful to others, and dont worry too much about the motivations of the rest of the world.
I apologize if this seems a bit acidic, but having been one who started nursing school "because I was bored" I can really understand it. I was a stay at home mom and really going crazy for lack of something of my own, some part of life seperate from just caring for my family, and I saw an advertisement for nursing classes at the local cc. In my case, in the process I found what my life was missing... and finally a way to make a difference in the lives of others.... It has been right for me, and i have worked very hard at it. Some days I wonder if I must have been crazy to chose this path, but then I have days like last week... where I practically killed myself providing care for a resident and he was swinging at me half the time, and once we had him fixed up and in a geri chair in the hallway... he said the first coherent thing he had said in my whole week of caring for him... he grabbed my hand and he said thank you....and it made me cry.
OP dont worry about what you want to do with your life. Just get through the day, and finish what you started. After that you can always figure out your next step once your head is clear.
I'm really shocked at all the back biting hostility in this thread. I think its sad that someone is doubting themselves and worried about if they have made the right choice and instead of giving the benefit of the doubt and trying to be HELPFUL, half the posts here have the theme of "omg you took my spot!" Just because someone else's reasons and ambitions towards getting into school were different than yours does not mean they have any less of a right to be there than you do. Sorry but its the truth. I could say that all of those who failed out and came back did not deserve a spot a SECOND time b/c they could not get it right the first time, or all of those who sign up and then fail out b/c they did not give up their lives as much as I have... but really, I could care less what other people do. In the end, I just worry about myself, try to be helpful to others, and dont worry too much about the motivations of the rest of the world.
I apologize if this seems a bit acidic, but having been one who started nursing school "because I was bored" I can really understand it. I was a stay at home mom and really going crazy for lack of something of my own, some part of life seperate from just caring for my family, and I saw an advertisement for nursing classes at the local cc. In my case, in the process I found what my life was missing... and finally a way to make a difference in the lives of others.... It has been right for me, and i have worked very hard at it. Some days I wonder if I must have been crazy to chose this path, but then I have days like last week... where I practically killed myself providing care for a resident and he was swinging at me half the time, and once we had him fixed up and in a geri chair in the hallway... he said the first coherent thing he had said in my whole week of caring for him... he grabbed my hand and he said thank you....and it made me cry.
OP dont worry about what you want to do with your life. Just get through the day, and finish what you started. After that you can always figure out your next step once your head is clear.
The reason she received so many negative responses is because she stated in the title of her thread as well as her first post that she hates nursing.If she was to rephrase her venting differently,for instance " I have doubts about nursing school,I dont know if I'm cut for it"But nowhere does she mentions it.You shouldnt be surprised at all by the feedback she is getting.Then she goes on how she dislike the enthusiasm of other people.And why shoudnt they be enthusiastic,maybe they are because they want to be there unlike the OP.Everyone has their doubts while training for their future proffesion but not to the extent the OP has.
I dont want to work with co-worker who will be angry at me that I like my job.More..I dont want to be her patient and I dont want her to care for my close ones.Harsh,yes maybe...but that is how I feel at this point.I like the OP,I just dont like the attitude she is exhibiting about her future job.
I think if you really feel that you hate everything nursing it might be a good idea to choose a different career path. If you feel too far invested then go ahead and finish, take the NCLEX, but maybe you should try to do something outside of patient care. I think you are probably a great person who just got into something you weren't sure about. With that in mind, I wouldn't want you caring for my patients because a distaste for your work will definitely reflect in day to day work. It wouldn't be fair to you, your future coworkers, or your patients for you to continue with a job that you hate! Continue to do the good work you are doing and then see how you feel about nursing! GOOD LUCK!
Goodness gracious.... You people act like it's a crime against humanity just because someone got into college for a career and decided that it wasn't what they thought it would be??? So are you saying that you are happy with every decision you've ever made? No? I didn't think so! Everyone has the right to make whatever choices they choose (with exceptions of those choices that harm others) regardless of whether you approve or not. As Scorpiostudent stated, how is she any worse off than the droves of people who fail because they decided to pay more attention to a boyfriend/girlfriend or go out drinking or whatever other decisions they made that caused them to fail and take up a spot in NS? I too decided to go to school because I was bored- not bored I have nothing to do but BORED I HAVE NOTHING TO CHALLENGE MY MIND! I have 3 kids a husband and many other responsibilities, I am by no means left with "nothing to do" which it seems that many posters have taken the word "bored" to mean.
I'm in NS, because I can make my own money if the need should arise, I like having variety in my day to day activities, I can still have time to spend with my kids once I graduate and countless other reasons, but mostly because I was bored and wanted something challenging. I love all my kids dearly but you can only spend so many days with no adult conversation without starting to lose your head:bugeyes:.
Lets just all take a deep breath and realize that anyone who is in Nursing School deserves to be there, because they worked and EARNED their spot. It's not our place to tell others they can't go to school because they don't meet our personal expectations of what "Nurse" means. Schools have strict standards and I don't know many people who would jump through hoops to get into school to learn how to do something they know they will hate! You can never really know what a job/career is like until your doing it!
I hate everything nursing, I really only started the program because I was bored, and now I feel to far invested to quite. I have to keep telling myself that this is a great job, but in reallity this job holds a lot of responsibility, "crappy responsibility." In addition I feel tremendous pressure from my family, my husband, and my husbands family to finish and work. It's not like I don't already have a BSN from another university, and my husband makes an excellent salary, I don't have to work. I keep hoping that all the pretentious people in class with their over enthusiastic "I love nursing" attitude will be non-existent in the workplace. This is me just venting, but if you have any productive advice or have felt this way I would love a response. However; if you are just wanting to tell me how terrible I am, please keep it to yourself.
OMG...I don't even know where to begin. I find it amusing that you find your enthusiastic classmates pretentious. Are you certain you weren't just looking in the mirror?
You started nursing because you were bored? BORED? When people are bored they typically take up a hobby...say, photography, flower arranging, ballroom dancing. The possibilities are endless. I've never heard of anyone "taking up nursing" as a strategy to relieve their boredom. Hint, hint....nursing isn't a hobby.
Run, don't walk, to the director of your nursing program and withdraw yourself from the program. You are occupying a much-sought after seat in a program for a profession you obviously hate.
Okay, I won't tell you how terrible you are, but nursing doesn't need people with your oppositional attitude entering its ranks.
You started nursing because you were bored? BORED? When people are bored they typically take up a hobby...say, photography, flower arranging, ballroom dancing. The possibilities are endless. I've never heard of anyone "taking up nursing" as a strategy to relieve their boredom. Hint, hint....nursing isn't a hobby.
:igtsyt: two responses in this thread (including my own) were from people who started nursing school due to boredom. Its not a crime. My husband makes great money too. I was supposed to stay home for another 4-5 years before going back to school, and my original intent was to finish my degree in Software Development.
In life, do what you love, and you will be successful. Saying "get a hobby" is just silly. How much fulfillment can you get from ballroom dancing?
Not everyone starts at the same point in their path through life. I really and truly don't get why you find it so hard to believe that someone started at such a point. But perhaps you've never felt the "boredom" that a stay at home mom feels, loving to take care of people, (her family), but starving for intellectual stimulation. What better job for someone like that than a job that pushes you intellectually and gives you countless learning opportunities while simultaneously feeding your desire to care for others?
As for the previous comment regarding the OP saying she hates nursing instead of some warm fuzzy middle ground comment... you've never had a day where you hated what you were doing? I don't care what I'm doing, there is going to be a day, sometimes a week or more, where I hate it, for whatever reason. More often than not, its just my response to stress and the specific situation, and not really the general phrase that I feel, but it takes stepping outside of the situation or getting some outside input, to see it clearly.
:igtsyt: two responses in this thread (including my own) were from people who started nursing school due to boredom. Its not a crime. My husband makes great money too. I was supposed to stay home for another 4-5 years before going back to school, and my original intent was to finish my degree in Software Development.
In life, do what you love, and you will be successful. Saying "get a hobby" is just silly. How much fulfillment can you get from ballroom dancing?
Not everyone starts at the same point in their path through life. I really and truly don't get why you find it so hard to believe that someone started at such a point. But perhaps you've never felt the "boredom" that a stay at home mom feels, loving to take care of people, (her family), but starving for intellectual stimulation. What better job for someone like that than a job that pushes you intellectually and gives you countless learning opportunities while simultaneously feeding your desire to care for others?
As for the previous comment regarding the OP saying she hates nursing instead of some warm fuzzy middle ground comment... you've never had a day where you hated what you were doing? I don't care what I'm doing, there is going to be a day, sometimes a week or more, where I hate it, for whatever reason. More often than not, its just my response to stress and the specific situation, and not really the general phrase that I feel, but it takes stepping outside of the situation or getting some outside input, to see it clearly.
Umm...I wasn't literally suggesting she take up a hobby. It was a suggestion full of sarcastic irony.
And I'm sorry...venturing off into a new career because you're "bored" and haven't bothered to research it and understand what it's about beforehand, and then kvetch about it because you hate it because others like it, or even love it...well, lets just say it's not the smartest choice in the world.
And, as Forest Gump said: "That's all I have to say about that"
:igtsyt: two responses in this thread (including my own) were from people who started nursing school due to boredom. Its not a crime. My husband makes great money too. I was supposed to stay home for another 4-5 years before going back to school, and my original intent was to finish my degree in Software Development.
In life, do what you love, and you will be successful. Saying "get a hobby" is just silly. How much fulfillment can you get from ballroom dancing?
Not everyone starts at the same point in their path through life. I really and truly don't get why you find it so hard to believe that someone started at such a point. But perhaps you've never felt the "boredom" that a stay at home mom feels, loving to take care of people, (her family), but starving for intellectual stimulation. What better job for someone like that than a job that pushes you intellectually and gives you countless learning opportunities while simultaneously feeding your desire to care for others?
As for the previous comment regarding the OP saying she hates nursing instead of some warm fuzzy middle ground comment... you've never had a day where you hated what you were doing? I don't care what I'm doing, there is going to be a day, sometimes a week or more, where I hate it, for whatever reason. More often than not, its just my response to stress and the specific situation, and not really the general phrase that I feel, but it takes stepping outside of the situation or getting some outside input, to see it clearly.
I can totally understand what he is saying and I must add I agree with him completely.How can one make a hobby out of saving patients lives.This is plainly ridiculous and somewhat selfish.The reason I'm saying this is that if the OP was bored why didnt she take up something less stressful like diagnostic imagining or something sort of that nature.I just dont understand how will she manage to surive in nursing if she hates it so much.
After watching and reading this thread (and holding my tongue until now) I had to chime in. I think the reason that there is so much hostility on this thread is because of the strong language the OP used. I mean come on--I hate nursing!?! Who would expect to get positive reinforcement for that statement on a nursing forum? Every time I see this thread and its title on the board it makes my blood boil. I love nursing!!! Just the thought of someone having this attitude toward something I love and have wanted to do for so long makes me mad. Being a nurse has been a dream of mine mine I graduated HS in 1996. My family needs the $ I will make as a RN. We are low income now, and I can't wait for the opportunity to make my life better as well as my patients lives better in a few years. So I am one of the fanatical SN's out there with a smile wiping poo and I will not apologize for that!!!
I think your choice of words don't reflect how you really feel. To say you "hate everything nursing" is hard to believe because you say you're the top in your class. You can be an entrupernuer or a housewife. Regardless, do what makes you happy.
DonMonsieur
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It is very possible that this path you have chosen may not be your calling. I am only just starting nursing school, after 5 years of changing majors, and I already have my doubts. I have read so many posts of people who say that their degrees in nursing were worthless because once they got into a real job, they totally despised it.
The pressure you feel from your family, is probably being magnified by your own conscious. Perhaps the worst thing you can do is fall under the pressure and disobey your own judgment. You have to decide for yourself what you want to do with your life. While we would like our loved ones to fully support sound and healthy decisions we make, we can't expect them to be perfect in understanding you and your feelings. I can almost imagine them observing you in the future should you work at a job you hate, bringing that negativity and disdain home to your family, and them not understanding why you have become so down on life.
You can however be proud of your education and grades. Who knows when one day the things you learned in nursing school may prove useful in their own time.
As you are so close to graduating. I'd encourage you to definitely try several nursing possessions and see how it is in action. You could find a niche in nursing that you really like, or that is tolerable enough to work in while you plan your next stage in life.
You might consider consulting a professional therapist. In addition to possibly helping you find some contentment with your current mind-set.. there is always the possibility that you have may have underlying problems, of which a professional may be able to identify and help you.