I started an ADN nursing program over a year ago and graduate in May. I have the highest average in class, and I really seem to be doing well. However; I hate everything nursing, I really only started the program because I was bored, and now I feel to far invested to quite. I have to keep telling myself that this is a great job, but in reallity this job holds a lot of responsibility, "crappy responsibility." In addition I feel tremendous pressure from my family, my husband, and my husbands family to finish and work. It's not like I don't already have a BSN from another university, and my husband makes an excellent salary, I don't have to work. I keep hoping that all the pretentious people in class with their over enthusiastic "I love nursing" attitude will be non-existent in the workplace. This is me just venting, but if you have any productive advice or have felt this way I would love a response. However; if you are just wanting to tell me how terrible I am, please keep it to yourself.
Frankly, I really can't believe anyone would find anything beneficial about advising you to quit when you are only months from graduation! As MANY have already said, there are multiple avenues one can take with a BSN license. Not to mention, all those who are complaining about you "taking up a spot" for someone who would be possibly more "passionate" about nursing, quitting now is not going to open up any spots, it will just completely WASTE IT.
Furthermore, it bothers me immensely that experienced nurses who are obviously passionate about their jobs can, in the same post, write monologues about having compassion, caring and sympathy for patients while they have absolutely no compassion, caring or sympathy for you - are nurses not also human beings? I don't understand how anyone can judge so immediately or even have a genuine "feel" for your attitude, personality, or your long-term mindset based on a post that probably took five minutes to type up. It's shocking and disturbing that no one took the time to even consider that perhaps the post could of been written during a moment of weakness or that the "strong language" that everyone deemed so offensive was an outpouring of gutteral emotion. I'm not even a nurse yet, and I can always find time to take my own personal ego out of the picture and remember that there are reasons people "lash out" in moments of vulnerability that may not seem appropriate. We all have a CHOICE whether or not to take it personally, yet there are many experienced "professionals" in this forum that either cannot or will not do that. I think the only thing worse than a patient putting up with an apathetic nurse is tolerating a nurse that they have to walk on eggshells with to make sure they don't offend her or "get on her bad side". C'mon, now.
I cannot personally attest to it, but from friends who are in an ADN program, it can extremely demanding, exhausting and difficult; there is a possibility that the emotional toll of a fast-paced program has simply burned you out to the point of not being able to enjoy nursing....yet.
Your only mistake is possibly posting this in a public arena to strangers rather than venting to people who know you best.
Finish your degree. If you find that after giving nursing a chance that you still dislike it, then I certainly would hope you would find something else because I agree apathetic coworkers are toxic in the workplace, no matter what your field is. I wish you the best of luck and love sorting out your life path! :heartbeat
I agree with some of the other responders to your post as far as finding something that you love to do, however, in nursing, what is it exactly that you don't like? I am in school, but am not close to finishing (just got done with first semester). I don't like certain aspects of the bedside, so I have decided that I would like to do something else-get further degrees and be able to manage. The wonderful thing about nursing is that once you have your license and if you have the drive to make moves that will benefit yourself, then you can basically do ANYTHING-teaching, health promotion, research, anesthesia, the list goes on. I know that my program focuses on the bedside, and if that is the underlying issue, just know that once you finish and go on to other degrees, you won't have to do that if you don't want to. Just keep that in mind and don't quit! Being a nurse does not equate to just giving bedbaths, meds, and toileting, but it can if that is what you want to do-stay flexible and don't just dwell on what aspects you don't like!!:heartbeat:up:
Specializes in psychiatric, UR analyst, fraud, DME,MedB.
I hope you decide to finish and see whats out there. There are many different types of jobs out there that require a nurse and not all of them are direct patient contact.
Although you don't have to work now because your husband makes enough, please don't believe that will last forever. I've never been legally married, but have been with my man for 14 years. Just a couple of months ago, I was told he had been seeing someone else for the last few years. I confronted him and found it to be true. I had no idea. Honestly, none! He wants to work things out, but I can't bare to look at him let alone work anything out. I too believed that I didn't need to work because he makes enough. Now, I'm looking at life with our two children much differently. Thank God I graduate in May and can make it on my own.
So, so true from the above comments....I lived it. I was married , do not have to work, he gave me a porsche to drive , big diamond on my finger......but then oted that the world is akways turning.....my mama told me this and it stuck in my mind and brain, " I am so happy for you rightn now 'cause you are on top of the world....but are you prepared on your own if your top world turns upside down?" I was thinking , what is she talking about...my status is not going to change. Well, lifes lessons teaches you harder when you do not pay attention... to make it short, my ex was fooling around not just once , but more. You know , my eyes was opened, mama's words became real ......and you know I slowly took the pre requisites, one subject , semester by semester, until I was ready to apply for the nursing program in our community...........he tried to sabotage it in every way he can so he can control me again w/ gifts , promises etc........
I looked at the future , and I did not want to see an ex married woman with a child that depends on alimony and child support.
It is amazing when you can see a clear picture because once you set those goals, nobody can stop you,nobody or nothing can stop you, 'cause you know deep inside that only you can and will determine your fate, and not in another persons hands. :redpinkhe
Please do everyone a favor and find a differant area of work. You are obviously not nurse material. Good luck in your future non nursing endeavors.
This is a rather harsh response! The poster is venting. That is what this thread is for. Don't be so judgemental. I have a couple of friends who are really good nurses who were told that they "weren't nurse material!" Not true. There have been some good creative suggestions for her on this thread, but leaving is not good, nor creative. BTW, if she decides it is best for her to leave she will I am sure. She will do much better to finish her degree and use it in an area that makes her feel good.
Specializes in psychiatric, UR analyst, fraud, DME,MedB.
Please do everyone a favor and find a differant area of work. You are obviously not nurse material. Good luck in your future non nursing endeavors.
See this? You get this kind of response from just a few. In a way, as crude and blatant as debrnccdn is , she could be right , but it sure could be delivered in a more subtle way. I am surprised she works in a developmental specialty ???? Your negative energy back to you 10 times!
I understand a lot of what you are feeling. I went into nursing after a former girlfriend of mine told me that I would be a great nurse. I graduated in May 2008 with a BSN and passed my N-CLEX exam the month after. After spending 6 months working as an RN (An operating room nurse and a public health nurse), I realized that I wasn't the right kind of person for the nursing profession, a big part of that due to my introverted personality. I just wasn't into all of the stress, I wasn't good at small talk with patients and their families, didn't get along well with physicians and figured out that I am much better working independently in a job that has a certain level of routine and autonomy. I was going through the motions all throughout nursing school, hated all my clinical rotations, but never quit due to the pressure from my family and classmates. I even graduated Summa Cum Laude! Fortunately for me I worked as a quality assurance technician for a food company while working on my BSN and minored in chemistry. I adjusted my resume to focus on my success in the science-based courses (A+P, chemistry, pathophysiology, microbiology) and was able to get hired as a techician in a clinical laboratory setting. The job comes with a routine work schedule and autonomy. My point is this: don't feel as if you wasted time going to school for nursing. Nursing school helps build your resume if you focus on what non-acute care skills you can learn. These include learning how to work in a group environment, learning to work with people from a variety of cultural backgrounds, increased problem-solving skills, learning how to do research, and ability to give presentations. Skills like these are useful for any kind of profession you work in. Just remember, the only one who knows what career/profession is right for you is you. I understand what you are going through. If your family loves you they should support what ever decision you make (you may need to remind them of that). Your career is such a HUGE part of your life and it isn't worth it to do something that your heart is not into. I wish you the best of luck with whatever you decide to do. I hope this helped.
No, you are not a terrible person. Not everyone is a nurse. I am one of those nurses you hate right now. I love being a nurse and I knew I was a nurse from the time I was small. I would not be anything else. However, I went to school with two women who sounded just like you. They completed the program due to pressure from loved ones. Neither of them has ever worked as a nurse. They are both RN's. The thing that stumped me was why anyone would finish nursing school hating it so much. They were both in the top of the class and could have succeeded at anything, so why do something you hate. I guess I just couldn't relate to the kind of pressure that would lock me into something I hated. You are not a nurse but that does not make you a bad person. Now go do something you love. It's YOUR life.
No, you are not a terrible person. Not everyone is a nurse. I am one of those nurses you hate right now. I love being a nurse and I knew I was a nurse from the time I was small. I would not be anything else. However, I went to school with two women who sounded just like you. They completed the program due to pressure from loved ones. Neither of them has ever worked as a nurse. They are both RN's. The thing that stumped me was why anyone would finish nursing school hating it so much. They were both in the top of the class and could have succeeded at anything, so why do something you hate. I guess I just couldn't relate to the kind of pressure that would lock me into something I hated. You are not a nurse but that does not make you a bad person. Now go do something you love. It's YOUR life.
That's all and fine, but are YOU going to support her for the rest of her life? HMMMM?
If she makes the grades and gets the promotions, no matter what she may say, it means a whole lot more to employers than a self-righteous judgmental comment from someone who may be jealous and may not be as well qualified. High-Need Achievers do not come in one dull flavor and vary widely. If you cannot appreciate the spice of life of the usually gifted blowing off steam, then it may not be them who should give up nursing for more than one reason alone.
That's all and fine, but are YOU going to support her for the rest of her life? HMMMM?
If she makes the grades and gets the promotions, no matter what she may say, it means a whole lot more to employers than a self-righteous judgmental comment from someone who may be jealous and may not be as well qualified. High-Need Achievers do not come in one dull flavor and vary widely. If you cannot appreciate the spice of life of the usually gifted blowing off steam, then it may not be them who should give up nursing for more than one reason alone.
In all of my years of nursing I have encountere several nurses who hated the field and did not want to be a nurse and it really showed in the quality of care that they gave. It is unhealthy for someone to continue in any field of work that they really hate. No disrepect meant but patients have a difficult enough time when they are ill the last thing that they need is a nurse whose heart isn't in it.
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Frankly, I really can't believe anyone would find anything beneficial about advising you to quit when you are only months from graduation! As MANY have already said, there are multiple avenues one can take with a BSN license. Not to mention, all those who are complaining about you "taking up a spot" for someone who would be possibly more "passionate" about nursing, quitting now is not going to open up any spots, it will just completely WASTE IT.
Furthermore, it bothers me immensely that experienced nurses who are obviously passionate about their jobs can, in the same post, write monologues about having compassion, caring and sympathy for patients while they have absolutely no compassion, caring or sympathy for you - are nurses not also human beings? I don't understand how anyone can judge so immediately or even have a genuine "feel" for your attitude, personality, or your long-term mindset based on a post that probably took five minutes to type up. It's shocking and disturbing that no one took the time to even consider that perhaps the post could of been written during a moment of weakness or that the "strong language" that everyone deemed so offensive was an outpouring of gutteral emotion. I'm not even a nurse yet, and I can always find time to take my own personal ego out of the picture and remember that there are reasons people "lash out" in moments of vulnerability that may not seem appropriate. We all have a CHOICE whether or not to take it personally, yet there are many experienced "professionals" in this forum that either cannot or will not do that. I think the only thing worse than a patient putting up with an apathetic nurse is tolerating a nurse that they have to walk on eggshells with to make sure they don't offend her or "get on her bad side". C'mon, now.
I cannot personally attest to it, but from friends who are in an ADN program, it can extremely demanding, exhausting and difficult; there is a possibility that the emotional toll of a fast-paced program has simply burned you out to the point of not being able to enjoy nursing....yet.
Your only mistake is possibly posting this in a public arena to strangers rather than venting to people who know you best.
Finish your degree. If you find that after giving nursing a chance that you still dislike it, then I certainly would hope you would find something else because I agree apathetic coworkers are toxic in the workplace, no matter what your field is. I wish you the best of luck and love sorting out your life path! :heartbeat