I can't get over my failure...

[jead1]

Last semester I failed pharm. I know it's over and done with but it's like I can't get over it. Everyday I think of how I failed and it eats at me. Now I will have to graduate a year later and I hate it. I am going to take pharm again and I know I will do better because I've acknowledged where I went wrong and I've been studying everyday. However, I'm still sad. I know people view me as a failure because that's how I feel. I've never failed a class before so it's not a good feeling at all. Has anyone failed a class and went on to graduate without anymore setbacks? This sucks! I'm 20 & I hope to be a nurse before I'm 30!

[beshacohen]

Another way of saying this is:

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

The courage to change the things I can,

And the wisdom to know the difference.

You can't change the past. You can't change your situation. You can change your approach. You can change you. That's all you need to do to get through this. You've got this. You WILL reach your goals, in spite of any setbacks that get in your way, and you'll be a better nurse for it.

"Can't get over my failure," eh?

A very wise therapist once told me, "Don't say 'can't,' say 'won't.' " Puts a whole different spin on it, doesn't it?

[JBudd, MSN]

Hey Smooth, Grntea was quoting the OP's title of the thread!! Challenging her to change her perspective. What is harsh about that?

When someone is tormented by a thought or memory, it is time to change the perception, as I and Grntea and others have encouraged to be done.

OP: one stumble does not a career ruin, pick up and keep going :)

[Career2_BSN, BSN]

"A single defeat does not equal final defeat."

"Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will."

I have both of these quotes taped to my computer monitor. It's very easy to beat yourself up and some of us are better at this than others. We have to learn to let things go. We all stumble at some point. And that's what you did...you stumbled. I hope these quotes help you as they have helped me.

(((HUGS)))