I feel so stupid

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I got laughed at last night, by a doctor and by the previous shift charge nurse. It was quite embarrassing. What happened is a patient's parent had spoken to her private MD via phone, and this MD had spoken to her about a course of action that had helped the patient in the past, and recommended that it could be something that could be done for the pt again. So pt's mom reports this conversation to me and requests that I speak to the hospital MD about it (most of our pts are under a group of hospitalists when they are admitted...). So, I go to the front and I don't know too many of the doctors yet, by name, although I am trying, and they still intimidate me quite a bit. I recognized this lady as one of the hospitalist group doctors so I come over to speak with her and begin describing what I've discussed with the mom. As I am talking with her, the previous shift charge nurse turns from her involved conversation to listen in on what I'm saying. As I finish, the doctor states quite firmly and kinda loudly that this treatment at this time is not anywhere close to a necessary or viable option, like it's absurd that I'd even bring it to her for consideration (which could well be my emotions talking), and the charge nurse who'd been listening in starts laughing as well that this would even be considered (not that she even knows the patient at all of course). I guess the laughing is what kinda got to me. There's no real point to this post, I just hate feeling stupid and felt like I should have known before asking that the treatment would not be appropriate; obviously it was obvious to the doctor and the charge nurse (just on of course overheard conversation on her part...) I usually consider myself kind of an intelligent person but so many things in my nursing so far seem to belie that. Well anyway, just really needed to vent; that was only a small part of a stressful night (but aren't they all now that it's RSV season??) Okay I am done rambling.

Specializes in Med Surg, Hospice, Home Health.

ok, other nurse laughing is inappropriate...you were conveying concerns from patients mom to doc, as the mom had requested...

whether or not it was a "viable option" was the doc just grandstanding...you did your job, conveyed concerns of pts mom to doc...YOU DID YOUR JOB/

your #1 job is PATIENT ADVOCATE!!!!!

some people are just jerks...

it's not you, it's them...

linda

Specializes in NICU/L&D, Hospice.
Don't feel bad. First of all the doctor shouldn't have acted that way, but they do...I don't know a nurse who hasn't been treated similarly by a doc. The charge nurse on the other hand needs to appologize. There is no call for that kind of behavior. I would tell her that and if you don't get results go to your supervisor. You are learning, and you were relaying a message from the primary.

This seems to validate a doctor being rude, because that is what we expect and put up with. What makes the nurse any different that "there is no call for that kind of behavior and SHE needs to appologize?" If you don't expect it from a doctor, than how can you demand it from a nurse? The way I read it, they both had the same response. If nothing changes, everything stays the same.

Woogy

Woogy you are right, we shouldn't have to put up with it. We had a nurse manager that told us that if a doc ever treated us like that to tell her and she would get right in that docs face. We really miss her.

This seems to validate a doctor being rude, because that is what we expect and put up with. What makes the nurse any different that "there is no call for that kind of behavior and SHE needs to appologize?" If you don't expect it from a doctor, than how can you demand it from a nurse? The way I read it, they both had the same response. If nothing changes, everything stays the same.

Woogy

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