Humble Nurses Do This

[SweetBabyJames]

On 5/24/2019 at 8:21 AM, panurse9999 said:

Yet, having these self actualization abilities that sharpen over time never seems to change the outcome, does it? Ie, .. the profession itself (damned if you do, damned if you don't phenomenon) , or how/ why nurses continue to be abused, shorted, shouted down, shut down, reprimanded, set up for failure, fired and destroyed, and robbed of one's sanity and confidence.

ie...you can do everything right, and things still go wrong. And exactly the opposite happens as well. We know its not about skill, education, self actualization, humility, #bebest, the blame game, getting out on time, perfect charting, imperfect charting. None of it matters. You work at the subjective whim of whomever had the connections to get into a management position.

WOW!, really well articulated. A tough pill to swallow. It's hard accepting the fact that your job is at the mercy of your management.

[TriciaJ, RN]

On 5/25/2019 at 10:25 PM, thoughtful21 said:

Sometimes people with humility tend to get steamrolled by the more confident people though, don't they? Aren't they looked down on and made to look worse than others, because they are asking questions, admitting mistakes, accepting criticism, and listening more than talking?

Possibly. But much harder to knock them off a pedestal when they aren't on one. These are the people who smile grimly to themselves and go on about their business when it inevitably happens to someone who was due.

[bbyRN, BSN, RN]

On 5/23/2019 at 11:44 AM, bbyRN said:

If your 4 year old is waiting for you to pick him up or your mom is depending on you at a certain time, maybe you can't help. Maybe, you need to look selfish. That takes a lot of humility to perform one's duty and look "bad."

I should have added: Easier said than done.

It is so hard to have commitments to multiple parties, circumstances.

I've worked in corporations before becoming a nurse.  The mantra was always "Do more with less".  How convenient!  ZDoggMD talked about this.  He talked about "moral fatigue" (I think that's what he called it on his Youtube channel.)  Not burnout but "moral fatigue".  The awful feeling of wanting to provide excellent care, but the staffing does not allow it.

And that excellent care includes not only our patients and LTC residents.  It includes each other and our families and friends.  How many fewer mental health cases, suicides, and poor health could be avoided.  Yes, there are always people who take advantage of the system.  They might be able to be weeded out if there is enough staff to take their places reasonably.

How many nurses and doctors and allied health care workers are actually not trying to pull their weight?  Maybe they need to be helped to work in a more appropriate area - not a punishment but to help all of us and our 'systems' work well.  These people have training and desire, and not everybody can be a great HCW.

 

[SmilingBluEyes]

I have lived long enough and had enough adversity to learn humility the  hard way.