How to say "no, thanks"

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A senior colleague who is also my reference and my role model wants me to live in an apartment where her daughter lives. It is an expensive apartment, and I do not think I am financially ready for it. Also, it is 12 miles from where i work. How do I say "no. Thank you" to her?

If I say "no", will that break the relationship between us? How to say it appropriately?

Any input will be appreciated.

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I would just be honest and polite. Say it sounds like a good idea, however I am not really interested in living that far from work etc. If she decides to break the relationship over that, then I am not sure I would want her as a reference anyway.

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Thank you, Tait.

It' a tricky situation.

She does not think 12 miles is a problem and financially I cannot afford an expensive apartment anymore.

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"Thank you for thinking of me. Unfortunately, living there wouldn't work with my budget."

Does she want you to be her daughter's roommate, or to live in a different apartment at the same location?

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"Thank you for the tip; however I do not think that is the right place for me."

Does this person want you to live WITH her daughter or was she just tipping you off to the availability of apartments in the building? I do not see at all why your not wanting to live there should affect the relationship.

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Thank you all for the tips! you are awesome!!

She wants her daughter to get the referral fee if I agree to move in the apt. where her daughter lives. i totally understand this, but I cannot afford the apt. like that anymore. She knows that I used to live in an expensive apt., but she does not know I am broken after living a place like that.

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