How do nurses last?

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A nurse who has become a close friend of mine in my chemistry class is taking a few classes over to start her NP degree. She has really poor time management in which I have told her on occasion because she doesn't study for lecture at all and has already missed a few class because of her full time job as a an RN. She works the night shift and is always tired when she gets to class in the morning.

She always seems constantly stressed out and tells me all these horror stories that a nurse has to go through when dealing with patients in the ER (such as having constant codes and rape victims) and how she is treated by management and needs more pay. This basically scares me because I'm only 19 and she's about 25 years older than me but yet I see myself in her as a future nurse and hating my career. I just got accepted into nursing school but now I'm doubting that this career is not all that it seems and I'm going to be fairly disappointed as a nurse and wanting to get out of it like she's trying to.

So basically my question is: how do the nurses with more than 2+ years of experience last in this profession with the constant stress that is put on them, and how do you manage your social life and time when your working night shifts?

FWIW, their horror stories could one day be your dream job. It's all about perspective and finding one's niche.

THIS!! In nursing school, I was terrified of psych nursing. My professor told us all the horror stories she encountered in 28 years of psych RN and NP experience. I told myself that I would never, never, NEVER go into psych nursing. Yet I somehow ended up in psych and I love it!! :woot:

Specializes in critical care, ER,ICU, CVSURG, CCU.

Some of us are just critical care junkies, 45 years this coming Junr

Some of us are just critical care junkies, 45 years this coming June

That's awesome! Congrats in advance! :woot:

Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
A nurse who has become a close friend of mine in my chemistry class is taking a few classes over to start her NP degree. She has really poor time management in which I have told her on occasion because she doesn't study for lecture at all and has already missed a few class because of her full time job as a an RN. She works the night shift and is always tired when she gets to class in the morning.

She always seems constantly stressed out and tells me all these horror stories that a nurse has to go through when dealing with patients in the ER (such as having constant codes and rape victims) and how she is treated by management and needs more pay. This basically scares me because I'm only 19 and she's about 25 years older than me but yet I see myself in her as a future nurse and hating my career. I just got accepted into nursing school but now I'm doubting that this career is not all that it seems and I'm going to be fairly disappointed as a nurse and wanting to get out of it like she's trying to.

So basically my question is: how do the nurses with more than 2+ years of experience last in this profession with the constant stress that is put on them, and how do you manage your social life and time when your working night shifts?

You are correct in that your friend has poor time management skills, but it's worse than you know. If she's working nights and going to school in the day time, when is she sleeping? If you work nights, you sleep during the day -- 8 hours or 6 hours or 10 hours, or however much sleep you, as an individual, need. People cannot survive on naps now and then. You have to carve out a 6-10 hour block of time for sleeping and then USE IT FOR SLEEPING! It's difficult to learn anything in class if you haven't slept, and it's sheer craziness to work a night shift without adequate sleep. You may be making extremely bad decisions, failing to connect obvious dots and not even realize you're impaired.

As far as "constantly stressed out" -- lack of sleep would explain that as well. After four decades in nursing, I can confidently state that I've been stressed out from time to time, but not "constantly". (Except in my first year of nursing, but that's another topic altogether.) Your friend is in ER, which is commonly regarded as a stressful specialty. There are myriad other job opportunities out there, some of which will stress you out more than others. Lots of new nurses want to take care of mothers and babies, a specialty that would stress me out to no end. Therefore, I've avoided it in favor of ICU, a specialty I find interesting and challenging but would stress out some people.

How you are treated by management is a function of your relationship with management; it's worthwhile to put effort into being well-regarded by management. As far as "needs more pay" -- nursing brings you a steady paycheck, health insurance and other benefits and if you live within your means it affords you a nice lifestyle. Don't let one person's experiences scare you off. Figure out what you want to do and decide if the benefits are worth it. Then make your own decisions.

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