How can you tell?

[Lisa CCU RN, RN]

I am currently separated from my husband and I swear he has some kind of personality disorder.

I have been to two counselors, the first of which we went to see together. The first counselor advised we split up. The second one I went to by myself the first visit and she told me I should leave him because it sounded like he had antisocial disorder or borderline personality disorder.

I have to wholeheartedly agree. I was reading over different disorders, and the traits they have explains SO much.

What I'm confused on is the fact that ALL the disorders seem to fit him, including histrionic and narcissistic. So how can you tell?

The real problem is, how can such a compulsive liar, con artist, and manipulator raise children?

he has already called the children names and neglected them.

Once, he left them with his female roommate and disappeared for three days after threatening to commit suicide.

Another time, he asked to ride to the city where I was doing some volunteering and he proceeds to take the car, drop off the kids at his mom's, and then went to go have sex with another woman!!

He has NO conscience and he refuses to acknowledge that he has hurt me.

This is no where near the only things he had done to me and the kids.

Am I right for wanting the court to order supervised visits only or am I being paranoid?

[lisabeth]

I am currently separated from my husband and I swear he has some kind of personality disorder.

I have been to two counselors, the first of which we went to see together. The first counselor advised we split up. The second one I went to by myself the first visit and she told me I should leave him because it sounded like he had antisocial disorder or borderline personality disorder.

I have to wholeheartedly agree. I was reading over different disorders, and the traits they have explains SO much.

What I'm confused on is the fact that ALL the disorders seem to fit him, including histrionic and narcissistic. So how can you tell?

The real problem is, how can such a compulsive liar, con artist, and manipulator raise children?

he has already called the children names and neglected them.

Once, he left them with his female roommate and disappeared for three days after threatening to commit suicide.

Another time, he asked to ride to the city where I was doing some volunteering and he proceeds to take the car, drop off the kids at his mom's, and then went to go have sex with another woman!!

He has NO conscience and he refuses to acknowledge that he has hurt me.

This is no where near the only things he had done to me and the kids.

Am I right for wanting the court to order supervised visits only or am I being paranoid?

After working for a law firm, I would advise going to see a lawyer. Ask as many people as you can who is good. This kind of behaviour isnt good for any child to see. It is really hard to get all rights taken away, but maybe supervised visists by someone you know and trust. Good luck.