Help-my Hubby's Jealous Of allnurses.com

leslie :-D · Sep 6, 2008

my kids don't mind at all...

actually i think they're grateful that i'm talking to someone, anyone...since i tend to be a loner, unsocial and a downright hermit.:)

my husband does get jealous, but given that i've been a member x 8 yrs, he only rolls his eyes now.

but if you want to be a loving wife and reassure your husband, gently remind him that, "life sucks then you die". :rotfl:

whatever works.

and welcome to our gang!:balloons:

leslie

CaLLaCoDe, BSN, RN · Sep 6, 2008

My opinion is you tell them that you're addicted for all the right reasons. Your mental health being chief among them. For you really can't explain to hubby and kids the exasperation you felt when your patient suddenly became unresponsive and full coded and expired. How you had to explain to the family why he/she died; the angry family, whose guilt and mourning you could cut with a knife. Whose bitter crying and carrying on left you saddened and full of questions; wondering at night did you do all you could have done? And you turn to this site for it helps you weather the storms. For we've all been there. We're here for each other. All of us.

And don't forget the celebration of life when you return to work and you have the utter joy of sending your patient who was struggling so the day before home (the real world). There are those times too. Share them with us.

And about the etiquette...just be kind. That's all. Just be kind.

BinkieRN, BSN, RN · Sep 6, 2008

I said would you rather I drink, have an affair, develop a shopping addiction, go gambling or surf allnurses? Case Closed! :nurse:

mpccrn, BSN, RN · Sep 6, 2008

just ask them ........shall i talk shop with you or to them? i've been married 28 years, although he listened sort of, he's much happier he no longer has to grunt and hope they happen to be in the appropriate places in my stories of the day. :smokin:

cheshirecat · Sep 6, 2008

My husband calls it Whinging Nurses.com. He is a little jealous I think. He also hates mumsnet (great site).

PianoGirl20 · Sep 7, 2008

Just one of the reasons why I love being a single 20 year old nursing student...no one really knows/cares when I while away minutes (okay, sometimes more than that) on allnurses.com instead of doing homework, errands, etc. :yeah:

But anyways, as long as you're not holed up in front of your computer for 24 hours straight and your children aren't on the brink of starvation (lol), I think it's a pretty harmless and good hobby. Even though I'm still a student, I learn a lot (and feel comforted and encouraged sometimes) just by "wasting" time on allnurses. :-)

twistedpupchaser · Sep 7, 2008

just ask them ........shall i talk shop with you or to them? i've been married 28 years, although he listened sort of, he's much happier he no longer has to grunt and hope they happen to be in the appropriate places in my stories of the day.

Thats what I did, I then went into a conversation into some of the gross(er) things I saw at work that day, The Missus quickly decided that there are some things I am better telling you guys about!

clairebearrn · Sep 7, 2008

My boyfriend is the same way!!! Ha...he always complains that I soend too much time on my phone surfing the allnurses mobile site. I explain to him that its my outlet for learning and venting. I can relate with others ifrom my profession who understand instead of unloading and stressing him, which I still do...hehe!

icunurse42066 · Sep 7, 2008

hI ALL - Just want to say hi and thank you all for of your views and opinions. I have in just a few days become quite "fond" (ok - addicted) to allnurses.com. It is so cool to communicate with all of you awesome nurses . . . HOWEVER, in the meantime my hubbie is getting a bit annoyed at my new hobby as are my kids, dog, and cats. Hmmmm maybe its my new escape! :wink2: Would like to know from you all if you have any ideas, etc on keeping life manageable while staying in touch. Also, any ideas on proper "blog" etiquette wd be great as well. Im totally new to this. thanks:loveya:

No flack from the wifey here, as long as the laundry's done, the dishes are washed, the house is spotless, and something else.......oh yeah, the kids are fed!!:roll:rotfl::roll

UM Review RN, ASN, RN · Sep 7, 2008

Mine is only a tad jealous when he feels neglected. Or if he feels that my online friends know more about our marriage than he does. It's all about respect, really. Respect for each other and respect for the union that you two have.

Make sure you find some time for your marriage, don't share stuff with online strangers that you can't share with him, and he'll probably straighten up.