I have worked shift work for 6 years in a small rural hospital.
I recently had a terrible appraisal that focused primarily on the negative me in my interpersonal professional staff relationship category. There were only a few passable mediocre one liners about my general performance.
I am a nervous, sensitive, caring person and I love nursing. Most of the team are lovely people and I do enjoy working with them.Yet there is a lot of bitchiness and unprofessional behaviour on our ward. The staff have a tendency to sit around backstabbing and gossiping when we're not busy. Sometimes the air is thick with unfriendliness and some mornings staff have turned their backs and refuse to reply to a cherry good morning.
I am still evolving at work from being bullied in the past by a couple of my colleagues. I get mixed messages from these people. I feel sometimes so threatened by these women. I become nervous around them.
My appraisal also accuses me of isolating myself from my colleagues and that the success of my duty depended on whom I was working with, wether I was having a good day or bad day and how much I participate. Participation is an interesting word when there are only three nurses per shift and two perfer to work together thereby declining your help. So I find myself excluded and am often in the sluice room or restocking and doing compulsory equipment checks during patient care. I also volunteer for the heaviest patient load or willingly do jobs some won't touch to try to get along with my colleagues. I don't mind been busy and am not resentful doing these duties but find it makes no difference.
It said I wasn’t a team player and that my nervousness has an unsettling effect on the team and affected patient care. In my defence because I regularly recieve feed back from appreciative patients, I was surprised by this comment.
I am feeling mixed up and downhearted. I don't think I could change the way my boss feels about me even if I were the perfect nurse. I realise I am powerless to change the way people feel about me though I know I can change the way I feel about myself....but it's not easy. I am trying to improve by being more positive, not complain and focus more on my work than worrying what they will cook up next to railroad me out.
I am not rich. Well paid jobs in rural towns are rare as hens teeth. I would like to stay and overcome these problems.
Are rural hospitals toxic enviroment for some new comers to the area? Why are some nurses who care for people be so nasty to their colleagues? Why are some team members unable to help themselves to scrutinise, convey and misconstrue every word and action you say and do and run with it to the boss?. Is this just small town rural hospital phenomenon or simply just 'WELCOME TO NURSING' ?
I would appreciate any tips or advice from anyone who has worked in a small town hospital and have overcome similar problems.