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If I'm not studying (and I need to be judging from my my last two test grades), then I feel guilty because I'm a bad student. If I am studying, then I feel like a bad mom because my 4 yr old and my 6 yr old are being ignored, and more often than not watching tv instead of engaging in frolicky fall stuff.

Any other student/moms feel this way?

:) No worries, it's all good :)

It probably would have helped you if I had spelled cannot correctly :smackingf

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Since you have just stated, yourself, that your 4 and 6 year old are being IGNORED, then maybe it would be best to put your schooling on hold so that you can be there in their most crucial years? They want their mommy so bad. People say well "you're just sacrificing a little for a lot later on". That's the view of a brainwashed liberalists mind. These people think that career is much more important than actually being there (bothing physically and mentally) for your OWN CHILDREN. Your children won't thank you later on in life for ignoring them so you could finish school and get a job and make more per hour than not. When children are little, they want their mother there for them. Trust me, putting off school and raising your children will be well worth it. You can NEVER go back and reraise your children when they are young. You can ALWAYS go back to school. Think about that.

The reason mothers of young children have guilt while they are in school is because they inherently know what they are doing is wrong. Young children physically NEED their mothers there for them. Children NEED their mothers. Please don't argue with me on this. Stop fighting it. BE THERE FOR YOUR CHILDREN, FOR THEM.

I cringed on the inside when one poster here said her baby played around her while she did school work. That is just so sad to me. Is being a nurse really worth this, people?

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Since you have just stated, yourself, that your 4 and 6 year old are being IGNORED, then maybe it would be best to put your schooling on hold so that you can be there in their most crucial years? They want their mommy so bad. People say well "you're just sacrificing a little for a lot later on". That's the view of a brainwashed liberalists mind. These people think that career is much more important than actually being there (bothing physically and mentally) for your OWN CHILDREN. Your children won't thank you later on in life for ignoring them so you could finish school and get a job and make more per hour than not. When children are little, they want their mother there for them. Trust me, putting off school and raising your children will be well worth it. You can NEVER go back and reraise your children when they are young. You can ALWAYS go back to school. Think about that.

The reason mothers of young children have guilt while they are in school is because they inherently know what they are doing is wrong. Young children physically NEED their mothers there for them. Children NEED their mothers. Please don't argue with me on this. Stop fighting it. BE THERE FOR YOUR CHILDREN, FOR THEM.

I cringed on the inside when one poster here said her baby played around her while she did school work. That is just so sad to me. Is being a nurse really worth this, people?

Geez, your answer is cruel and unnecessary! There's no need to argue with you, because your answer was nothing but judgmental opinion, not supportive or helpful in any way.

If the opposite of what you spew is "liberalist brainwashing," (sic) then sign me up....because I would never want to be as hurtful as your words just were.

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I really did not intend for it to be that. Please tell me how I could have said what I did, but in a nicer way. Thank you. It just seems like on this board that if you say something that goes against the popular view, then you are disciplined. So again, please tell me how I can express my opinion, as I did above, and do it in a way that's not "cruel and unesecessary"

If anything what I said was "cruel", then wow. Sorry you feel that way.

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Since you have just stated, yourself, that your 4 and 6 year old are being IGNORED, then maybe it would be best to put your schooling on hold so that you can be there in their most crucial years? They want their mommy so bad. People say well "you're just sacrificing a little for a lot later on". That's the view of a brainwashed liberalists mind. These people think that career is much more important than actually being there (bothing physically and mentally) for your OWN CHILDREN. Your children won't thank you later on in life for ignoring them so you could finish school and get a job and make more per hour than not. When children are little, they want their mother there for them. Trust me, putting off school and raising your children will be well worth it. You can NEVER go back and reraise your children when they are young. You can ALWAYS go back to school. Think about that.

The reason mothers of young children have guilt while they are in school is because they inherently know what they are doing is wrong. Young children physically NEED their mothers there for them. Children NEED their mothers. Please don't argue with me on this. Stop fighting it. BE THERE FOR YOUR CHILDREN, FOR THEM.

I cringed on the inside when one poster here said her baby played around her while she did school work. That is just so sad to me. Is being a nurse really worth this, people?

Is she supposed to play with her child every minute of the day? Give me a break. My daughter will often be playing with her babies and stuff when I am studying, I often play with her as well. We don't have to SMOTHER our children to be good mothers, children need space as well, they need to learn their independence, they don't need a mom hovering over their every move. It's all about balance.

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I really did not intend for it to be that. Please tell me how I could have said what I did, but in a nicer way. Thank you. It just seems like on this board that if you say something that goes against the popular view, then you are disciplined. So again, please tell me how I can express my opinion, as I did above, and do it in a way that's not "cruel and unesecessary"

If anything what I said was "cruel", then wow. Sorry you feel that way.

I have to take off to go and study, but I will say, your posts come out as very judgmental. I know what it's like to be raised by a terrible parent. I know I am a good parent to my children. But you seem to go extreme on some of your views when it comes to child rearing. I know very well what it takes to be a good parent. Perfect parents don't exist, we all fall at times. But you seem to read into what someone says IE: the person saying their child plays around them when they are studying.

It doesn't mean they are ignoring their child and shooing them away and the little baby is being neglected. Their child might have a great imagination and be independent and be perfectly find while playing in the same area as mom is studying.

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I really did not intend for it to be that. Please tell me how I could have said what I did, but in a nicer way. Thank you. It just seems like on this board that if you say something that goes against the popular view, then you are disciplined. So again, please tell me how I can express my opinion, as I did above, and do it in a way that's not "cruel and unesecessary"

If anything what I said was "cruel", then wow. Sorry you feel that way.

Your responses were cruel because they didn't answer the question she asked....you judged what kind of Mom she is. If you had given an opinion on her question....that would have been different.

You weren't answering the question she asked....you were answering the question of, "Should I be in school while my kids are 4 & 6 years old?"

She said, (paraphrasing) that it's tough to be a mom and a student at the same time and was looking for support. Your comments were not supportive and basically said she couldn't be a good Mom while she was a student. (again, not the question she asked).

So, basically...if she continues to go to school (and we don't know her reasons for doing so...and frankly, they're none of our business)...your post is basically saying that "her children won't thank her later," and that going back to school while she has kids is "inherently wrong." Basically your saying she's a bad Mom. Which is uncalled for and cruel.

And you should apologize to the OP, not to me.

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Oh, sorry! I didn't mean my post to be directed at any specific person. It was meant as a general statement. I understand a LOT of people will disagree with it, but trust me, you will agree with it as you age. School consumes a lot of one's time and it's impossible to be there for a young child as much as one should while in school. There's evidence galore on this topic online if someone reading this is doubting it.

And to curiousme... how you say that I 'am basically saying she's a bad mom"? What the heck? That's not what I said. Don't make things up.

Having been there, I know how much of your time nursing school takes away. First, there's the physical time it takes with having you show up to class and clinical, and second) all the time you put into reading/studying.

There's just no way to do both ADEQUATELY at the same time. Sure, people do both all of the time, but one suffers. Everyone reading this knows which one suffers.

To those of you reading this that have put school on hold in order to devote your energy towards raising your family, I commend you. I commend you for realizing how much it means to your children, and I commend you for putting YOUR desires and wishes on hold for those precious children you brought into the world. The lifelong memories that you will cherish will be worth more than any degree or paycheck. I just wish more people had the same opinion. Voiceless children suffer and endure the brunt of those who dont.

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Oh, sorry! I didn't mean my post to be directed at any specific person. It was meant as a general statement. I understand a LOT of people will disagree with it, but trust me, you will agree with it as you age. School consumes a lot of one's time and it's impossible to be there for a young child as much as one should while in school. There's evidence galore on this topic online if someone reading this is doubting it.

And to curiousme... how you say that I 'am basically saying she's a bad mom"? What the heck? That's not what I said. Don't make things up.

You're right, you didn't say the exact words, "she's a bad mom," I apologize if you feel I misrepresented you.

However, that is how your post read to me....if that wasn't your intention, please clarify.

Having been there, I know how much of your time nursing school takes away. First, there's the physical time it takes with having you show up to class and clinical, and second) all the time you put into reading/studying.

There's just no way to do both ADEQUATELY at the same time. Sure, people do both all of the time, but one suffers. Everyone reading this knows which one suffers.

To those of you reading this that have put school on hold in order to devote your energy towards raising your family, I commend you. I commend you for realizing how much it means to your children, and I commend you for putting YOUR desires and wishes on hold for those precious children you brought into the world.

Ok, so I think we all know what your intention was.

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