Guilt tripped. Need advice

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by Elektra6 Elektra6, ASN, BSN, RN Platinum

Specializes in Home Health, PDN, LTC, subacute. Has 17 years experience.

Patient gets 8 hrs a day skilled care. Primary care giver is old and sickly, she needs surgery plus whatever else is going on with her. She gets 24 hrs paid to be a home health aide for the patient or he can hire someone. Family doesn’t really want to help out but they won’t hire any one so they can keep the money. They guilt trip me into staying 10-11 hours a day to care for the patient. Final straw was the mom asking me to come in on my day off to care for the patient after the other nurse leaves. I refused. I really care for this patient’s well being but they are taking advantage of me. My agency could care less. They LOVE this. They give awards for this kind of crap. As long as the clients are happy. They don’t care if I work 100 hours for free. Any advice?  I am leaning towards putting my foot down and if they fire me that will be fine. Nothing will change if I keep doing for them. Anyone else in a situation like this?  My own fault I know. 

soontoretire2020

soontoretire2020, BSN

Has 51 years experience. 26 Posts

They want you to volunteer your time? Your answer is NO. What if something happens? I don't think your insurance or your employer's insurance would cover that. No is a perfectly adequate answer. So what if they fire you, there are plenty of other jobs out there.

Kitiger, RN

Specializes in Private Duty Pediatrics. Has 43 years experience. 1,705 Posts

1 hour ago, soontoretire2020 said:

They want you to volunteer your time? Your answer is NO. What if something happens? I don't think your insurance or your employer's insurance would cover that. No is a perfectly adequate answer. So what if they fire you, there are plenty of other jobs out there.

Is that even legal?

Mt two agencies specifically forbid this sort of thing.

If anything happens while you are volunteering your time, the agency will throw you under the bus, and your own insurance will not cover you. 

Tell your supervisor that you will not work outside of your regular (8) hours/day. (It's not every day, I hope!) If the family needs more help, then they have to hire someone to do it.