Grades.. can cause more problems then you think

[alwayschanging]

Hi guys...

So I know we all deal with drama and issues in the classroom/ workplace. Its just how it is, however it has come to an all time explosive high in our program. Faculty has now gotten involved, and a lot of people are upset. Basically after having some mediation we have learned that I unfortunately talk about my grades to much and in turn have made some people feel inadequate. Although it was never my intention to make any one feel this way, I feel horrible that this is the cause of the alienation and now want to make things right. I take full responsibility for what I've done, however i feel like that's not how the class is really feeling about the situation.

There have been a lot of she said he said in the classroom, and a lot of issues with RESPECTING other people. My intial reason for speaking to my instructors was so i could find what the root of the issue was so i could correct it and hopefully move on. I realize I can only change my behaviors and cannot be responsible for how other people act. Our director has straight out told everyone in the class that from here on out there is to be no talking behind other peoples backs, that there is to be no disrespecting other people in the class room, and that we are all to work as a team, and if it continues you will be kicked from the program. Some feel that this was not deserving, some feel that I was seeking attention, some feel that I am jealous that "i do not have any friends". Im really not sure what to make of the situation, All i know is I want to be able to go to class, get the information, and do my best, without feeling like I get attitude from other girls. Im not saying they need to be my friend, but they need to respect me as a person, and know we all bring things to the table that we can all learn from each other.

Just to give you a few examples that I brought to the faculty's attention and were addressed ..Which they apparently were already aware of....

1. During class review time, anytime i raise my hand to answer a question and teacher calls on me, there is moans and groans from particular individuals.

2. I have specifically heard 3 students discussing how they dont like me because I am a know it all. I have also walked behind people who have been discussing something i needed help with in clincal to other students.

3. I look at people and immediately are given attitude, they don't respond to my questions, and turn to their neighbor and begin discussing myself, while i am well within ear shot.

I was initially under the impression it was only a few people, but the faculty has now come to learn that the list is over 11 people and our class is only 22. SO if talking about my grades is what i did to push people away, i am willing to accept that responsibility and make a formal apology because that was never my intention. But honestly i am afraid of walking in to class on Monday because i feel like im walking into a lions den. Some say i should just let it go, but i feel like i should at least make the apology.

[TheCommuter, BSN, RN]

I would keep my mouth shut if I were you. It is unlikely that the offended parties will accept any apology that you have to offer. In addition, your reputation in the class appears to have already been tarnished, so apologizing would do no good IMO.

I would be quiet and attempt to keep a low profile from this point forward. You're in school to become a nurse, not to make friends. So, why apologize?

[Boog'sCRRN246, RN]

You have got to be kidding...you want to apologize to what sounds like an incredibly immature group of people for your grades? Did I get that right? If they feel inadequate and want to complain to faculty about it, then that is their problem. Maybe if they raised their hands to ask questions instead of moaning and groaning each time you do, they would have grades to talk about also.

[alwayschanging]

Hi guys!

Thanks for the replies. I think i should just let it go, move on. Your right its immaturity, and after alot of reflecting its a case of jealousy at its worst, and it is what it is and apologizing isnt going to change anything. And what am i supposed to apologize for, putting the effort in and seeing the positive outcome. School isn't for everyone, and as much as I would love everyone to pass and move on to the next phases, and everyone graduate, truth is that is not always what happens. I care to much about other people and what they think of me, and thats not how to live life.

Thank you for the replies, and letting me vent. Sometimes thats all you need is an outside opinion, and reflection time. I cant feel guilty everytime someone gets in trouble for being an ass. Life is to short to sweat the small stuff. Monday will prob not be the easiest day of my life. But showing up is half the battle... :)

[notmanydaysoff]

"You're in school to become a nurse, not to make friends"

couldn't have said it better myself. I often said (and thought) to stay away from (and especially not be the cause of) school drama.

if your grades are better than most, if you have the answers more often than the rest of your classmates, great! you've done your work and are prepared.

reminds me of the bumper sticker that I used to see occassionally on sporty, or otherwise flashy/fast cars. perhaps you've seen it, it reads...

"get in, sit down, and shut up"!

not that I'm telling you to "shut up," but you get my drift.

do your work and get out of school ASAP. let this be a lesson learned and move forward.