Getting your need from someone else.

[Pocahontas98_21]

Hello I was just curious on how everyone feels. I work with alot of patients in their home (private duty nurse) and they are on vents., unable to move anything but their eyes, and are married. I wanted to know (I sure this is the last thing their spouse thinks about. Maybe not the last. ) if your were in their shoes, if your spouse wanted u too, would u have sex someone else. Just to help feed that need. I sure these pts. among other things feels guilty not able to perform this much needed desire. I don't know how I feel about this. On either side, if i was the pt. (letting my spouse do this) or being the caregiver (having sex with someone else other then my husband).

[BlueRidgeHomeRN]

no one ever died of lackanookie, despite what every 16 year old boy in the world will tell you.

and frankly, i couldn't care less about what the freaks in hollywood are doing with their genitals.....99% couldn't even spell "faithfull" or "fidelity" with a 90 foot teleprompter in front of them.

that "for better or worse" thing----we meant it.:redbeathe:heartbeat:redbeathe

[Texas Tornado]

If I could only move my eyes and this were a permanent condition then yep I'd tell him to go for it... right after I ask him to drop ice down my trach tube.

:wink2:

[PMHNP10]

Hello I was just curious on how everyone feels. I work with alot of patients in their home (private duty nurse) and they are on vents., unable to move anything but their eyes, and are married. I wanted to know (I sure this is the last thing their spouse thinks about. Maybe not the last. ) if your were in their shoes, if your spouse wanted u too, would u have sex someone else. Just to help feed that need. I sure these pts. among other things feels guilty not able to perform this much needed desire. I don't know how I feel about this. On either side, if i was the pt. (letting my spouse do this) or being the caregiver (having sex with someone else other then my husband).

I honestly don't know. My initial response would be to say I'd just stick with masterbation to "feed that need". On the other hand, there is no replacement for that 1 on 1 sexual contact; but then again, would it even be enjoyable with someone else? It's one of those questions I can't answer with absolute certainty until I've experienced it.

[DanFNP]

I think that the words "for better or worse" is what this is referring to. If your sexual appetite is so insatiable that you have to sleep around rather than taking care of business yourself, you shouldn't be in the marriage. Life isn't always easy, isn't always perfect...and sometimes you have to be an adult and not give into the "its all about my needs" mentality. This may seem overly simplistic or idealized to some, but if I have a spouse, I will NOT be sleeping with anyone else. Sometimes you have to draw a line in the sand about things, and this is a line I wouldn't cross.