What to do as I am getting fed up

  1. Hi

    I am not sure if anyone can help me at all. Well its coming to the breaking point whether or not I should continue this final year of nursing or defer for another year. Apart from having 3 essays due a week apart, enuff pressure as it is. Well I did my first placement in surgical ward. I didnt do much today just TRIED to be buddied with an RN.

    I dont know what is with me or about me that I seem to get nurses who dont want to be with me. I dont think I look like an Ogre as I am quite pleasant to look at. I dont have a wart on my nose I get nurses who just rather run away from me. Today being first day, hectic and all that sure. But it dont do good for my self esteem where I am trying to build up confidence.

    I am hoping for a better day tomorrow, other than that if it keeps up, I have to reanalyse my desire to be RN. As I am getting fed up with having sour nurses who are making me to be sourgrapes.

    You see, I have to learn assertiveness and that comes with confidence, I dont want to say stuff to the nurse where it could come out wrong or sound b****y.

    God I pray to get by the next 9 days as I am starting to think that this aint for me .

    Has anyone been in a similar situation?

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  3. by   Imafloat
    Only you know your situation. But, if you defer another year you will have the same issues, just a year later. You will consantly be kicking yourself that you could have been done already if you would have just stuck it out. Some nurses are fabulous to work with and others are stinkers. Some view students as a nuisance and other view us as their future colleagues. I can't tell you what to do but if it were me I would push through and finish this year and always remember how it felt to be a student for when you are the experienced RN and have a student to guide.
  4. by   simao pt
    Many nurses have forgotten what it was like when they were students. Even what it was like when they started working for real (Because I believe nurse students work, too). Give it time. After a while you'll be:
    a) More secure about your work
    b) More secure about what your tutor expects of you and how to please him
    c) Able to find that that scary nurse is actually quite pleasent, and just frightening in the beggining - just a barking dog (in some cases)
    d) Able to pass and start working, and find for yourself that nursing can bring you plenty of joy (most of the times)

    Remember that in all professions there are good and bad people. And that not always the friendly one's are the good one's.
    Don't give up because of others, but only if you don't like nursing.
    Best wishes for your future.
  5. by   ladyanna
    Quote from SN_2B_RN
    Hi

    I am not sure if anyone can help me at all. Well its coming to the breaking point whether or not I should continue this final year of nursing or defer for another year. Apart from having 3 essays due a week apart, enuff pressure as it is. Well I did my first placement in surgical ward. I didnt do much today just TRIED to be buddied with an RN.

    I dont know what is with me or about me that I seem to get nurses who dont want to be with me. I dont think I look like an Ogre as I am quite pleasant to look at. I dont have a wart on my nose I get nurses who just rather run away from me. Today being first day, hectic and all that sure. But it dont do good for my self esteem where I am trying to build up confidence.

    I am hoping for a better day tomorrow, other than that if it keeps up, I have to reanalyse my desire to be RN. As I am getting fed up with having sour nurses who are making me to be sourgrapes.

    You see, I have to learn assertiveness and that comes with confidence, I dont want to say stuff to the nurse where it could come out wrong or sound b****y.

    God I pray to get by the next 9 days as I am starting to think that this aint for me .

    Has anyone been in a similar situation?

    Hi,
    I'm sorry you are having such a hard time. You might want to take into consideration the work load of many nurses. Our country is in a major crisis due to the shortage of nurses. Therefore job burnout is of the essence. I wouldn't take this so personally. These people are being subjected to many stressors. If I were you, I would just go to your clinicals with your head held high and get out of it what you can. Before you know it you will be through with nursing school and then you can move on to be a great nurse!
    Good luck!
    Anna
  6. by   Tweety
    It's a very tough program, but running away and sitting out probably isn't going to make it bettter next year. You're still going to have that week where three essays are due, and the schoolwork is going to be overwhelming.

    We all from time to time in school and beyond face insecurities and doubts and question whether we can make it. You've made it this far. Put one foot in front of the other and keep going.
    Last edit by Tweety on Apr 5, '05
  7. by   jenrninmi
    Keep goin' hon. Don't let the sourgrapes get you down. I can't imagine that situation as I haven't had it. I've always worked under great nurses. Have you mentioned the problem to your instructors?
  8. by   AussieKylie
    Big Hugs to you all

    You all have enlightened my spirit. I guess that is all I need is some positive encouragement. Plus I must declare that my 2nd day on placement was so much pleasant. I am in Cardiac Surgical and I learnt to set up Pre Ops for Angiograms and AAA. So very interesting and something that I have interest for. I was with much pleasant nurses and from here on in it has to be better. However, I did tell my facilitator about yesterday and now she is aware of how I am and my goals.

    You are right if I stop now I will regret not finishing sooner. However my concern is that where I am in Australia is that we get limited number of pracs. Each uni differs some get more or like my uni we get less. Until final term which is 2 x 3week placement in two different hospitals. So my concern is trying to maintain the knowledge and skills learnt whilst on clinical placement. As in between we are at uni and got lectures and you know that kind of jazz ful of info to comprehend for exam periods. So yah its hard. I just cant wait to conquer and be that competent nurse.

    Thank you all for being so kind and nice. I guess I need to step back a little and take it easy. Thank you again

  9. by   Tweety
    SN 2B RN, you are very self aware, and that is an advantage. Good luck to you! Glad to hear that your spirits are up a bit.

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