Life really sucks right now

[essarge]

OK...here goes.

I know everyone has heard this before, but it happened to me.

My hubby left me saying he wasn't happy. He left on the 4th of May and my finals for that semester were on the 6th and 7th (I did manage to pass but it wasn't easy).

We were married for almost 5 years and I took care of his kids (two boys now 16 and 18), doctors appointments, school, house, shopping and bills. I even got a job to help pay for things and then he does this.

In a way it was a relief, but in a way it wasn't. I thought that I had finally met and married someone who would stand by me, be proud of me, and grow old with me and the BAMMM!!! He was gone.

He's pissed because in this state he has to pay me alimony ($100.00 per week) until 6 months after I graduate.

So here is my dilemma. I'm single again, have no life, am in school full time, work full time and he made sure that all of the people that I knew when we met are no longer around.

I am determined to graduate in two years, but I need some kind of a life too. I'm asking for advice.

This is my schedule-I'm in school Monday thru Thursday and work 12s Thursday thru Saturday....That leaves Sunday afternoon to do things and meet people.....not much going on on Sunday's around here.

HELP!!! Tell me how to get a "life" at 46 years old!!!

[nursedawn67, LPN]

Just hang in there....you'll be surprised "your life" could just sneak up on you! Take care...Dawn

[Mary Dover]

I strongly encourage reading the following:

"With or without a Man: Taking Control of Your Life as a Single Woman" by Karen Gail Lewis

This is an awesome book for single women! Take care yourself. The world is now your oyster!

Mary

[GraceM]

I am so sorry this happened to you. I know it must be so hard.

You asked for advice so here's mine. Take all of the energy and effort you were putting into this man and his family, and transfer it to your career and education. Your schedule will not always been so insane. You will find a new "life" without even looking.

You have to just relax, and move confidently in the direction of your dreams, to quote Thoreau. Keep going, and things will fall into place.

[peaceful2100, BSN, RN]

(((((((((ESSARGE)))))))) as someone who have been through having someone you love dearly deciding to up and leave. I know what it feels like. Everyone here have offered some really good advice including the book Mary has suggested. I read that book and it was really good. I also have some other book suggestions as well. So see if your local library have them. Things will get better for you when you are ready to make them better. Sometimes when things like this happen it feels as though your life has just ended but it did not end. Your life has finished one chapter and created a new chapter.

Ok, if you are religious or believe in god then these books are wonderful books to read.

1) What becomes of the brokenhearted by Michelle McKinney Hammond

2) Who am I really? A woman's journey to god-significance by Dr. Lynda Hunter

3) Where are you god? Discovering his love when you feel alone by Michelle McKinney Hammond

4) Lady in Waiting by Debby Jones and Jackie Kendall

My top recommendation out of the four is #4 Lady in waiting.

It is hard but it will get better :)