Why do nurses eat their young? - page 2
I graduated with my BSN in August and immediately took a job in a critical care step-down unit. I passed my boards 2 weeks after beginning work and thought I was on my way! WRONG! What is with this... Read More
Dec 19, '06Occupation: Day Surgery/Infusion/ED Specialty: Day Surgery/Infusion/ED ; Joined: Feb '06; Posts: 1,405; Likes: 47Quote from kukukajooSeriously. I for one am sick to death of new nurses demonizing experienced nurses.Why do nurses say that nurses eat their young? I am so sick of hearing that statemtent! Kinda funny if you ask me when it is coming from a nurse- do you eat your young, too? You seem to group every nurse in there so you must, right?
Dec 19, '06Occupation: FNP Specialty: 15 year(s) of experience ; From: US ; Joined: Jun '04; Posts: 1,834; Likes: 2631) Because they keep asking this question.
2) Because they convince themselves that this myth is reality and then the first time an experienced nurse looks at them funny, they think they have been "eaten".
Dec 19, '06Occupation: orthopaedic nurse Specialty: 1 year(s) of experience in disability ; Joined: Jul '06; Posts: 90; Likes: 3One has to believe there is professional pride in the industry and nurses dont turn on each other but unfortantely nursing involves people and its people who mess up a careing environment. Animals are known to eat literaterly there young to survive in hard times. Today's nurses arent animals but people. Some people do act like animals but then, that is thier choice
Dec 20, '06Joined: Nov '06; Posts: 79; Likes: 8I've been the new nurse on the floor, as have we all, and I've oriented a few new nurses as well. I felt very welcomed as a new grad. Of course, there was some adjustment, and the nurses wanted to see if I knew my stuff - but I expected that.
What I have found when I've oriented new nurses, though, is that some simply cannot perform the job. They can't manage five patients, and although I try to be kind and helpful, I don't have time to take care of my five patients and their five too. On a stressful day, it is easy to get annoyed with someone who needs help for everything. Of course, that doesn't make it right, but nurses are human, and nursing is stressful in and of itself. So my advice would be to work hard, try to help the other nurses whenever you can, and give yourself six months (at least) to stick it out. Once they see you can pull your own weight, it should get better. If it doesn't, find a different hospital.
Dec 21, '06Occupation: RN - Progressive Coronary Unit Specialty: 4 year(s) of experience in Cardiac Step Down ; From: US ; Joined: Sep '04; Posts: 7Thanks Tweety,
No, not all are bad - some are awesome. Guess I just didn't expect ANY of them to be anything less than caring, compassionate nurses. I'm focusing on nurturing relationships with the nurses that make good mentors, and not just good preceptors!
Merry Christmas and thanks for the encouragement.
Dec 21, '06Occupation: RN - Progressive Coronary Unit Specialty: 4 year(s) of experience in Cardiac Step Down ; From: US ; Joined: Sep '04; Posts: 7I'm not a whiner, just an eternal optimist and wishing that individuals that choose nursing were all compassionate and kind!
Dec 21, '06Joined: Oct '02; Posts: 60,606; Likes: 17,436Quote from frizzleI'm not a whiner, just an eternal optimist and wishing that individuals that choose nursing were all compassionate and kind!
It would be nice if all nurses were that way. But as you're finding out there are a few out there that aren't. Just keep your rose colored glasses on and realize that we all are that bad.
Dec 21, '06Occupation: RN - Progressive Coronary Unit Specialty: 4 year(s) of experience in Cardiac Step Down ; From: US ; Joined: Sep '04; Posts: 7Check out other options and keep on moving 'till you find your home. Guess that's the beauty of the profession - jobs are plentiful and you need not stay if not happy.
Thanks for your words of encouragment. I am the proverbial "Polly Anna" and tend to expect all nurses to be kind and compassionate - why else did they choose the career?
I have found some wonderful mentors and will use their examples as I move forward in this rewarding career.
Dec 21, '06Occupation: Hospital Education Coordinator and adjunct nursing faculty From: US ; Joined: Jun '06; Posts: 7,376; Likes: 7,102You know, I have watched this situation for many years and conclude that part of it is due to the new nurse's perceptions of how things SHOULD be. Sure, some people are jerks. They will be jerks to everyone, not just new hires. And some are frustrated because you are not a dependable team player yet - that takes time. My suggestion is to do your best. Remember you will not be working with these same people the rest of your life.
O.K., my last comment and then I'm going to "let it go." You are correct, I'm not a dependable team player yet, however, they weren't either when they were first hired. Don't they remember what it was like? And wouldn't we all benefit if they were less hostile, and treated new hires as if they wanted us to be part of the team? Kindof reminds me of the age old Golden Rule: Treat people like you want to be treated;-)
Dec 27, '06Occupation: RN Specialty: * Cardiology * Oncology * Medsurge RN ; Joined: Dec '06; Posts: 1,220; Likes: 855[font=book antiqua]what i look at as these heartless, loveless, mean fools don't understand what they're missing: a chance to mentor someone and be remembered for that special little tip that you remember forever is so and so's.
[font=book antiqua]you be the great mentor/teacher nurse parent to your "kids" who enter this rocky field of endeavor.
[font=book antiqua]you can and will be motivated to forgive and forget these ugly warts that point to the bitter path...!
[font=book antiqua]you can show others how compassionate a nurse you can be not only to patients but to your fellow coworkers who sometimes more than often need it more than the patients!:smilecoffeecup: we need to nurture one another simply said.