Trouble Makers

[NurseyPoo]

Why is it that there is always that one person who feels it is necessary to spread rumors and talk about everyone? I cannot stand it when people gossip. It drives me absolutely crazy when I hear something about someone or myself that is absolutely not true, especially when the one starting all of the rumors also talks about herself like she is the "Cats Meow".

Sorry, I just need to vent. Someone at work has been spreading silly stories about a few of us and it has really bored a hole under my skin. She puffs her chest out like she is the top banana when she is no better than anyone else, and tries to make people feel below her. You know the type...makes a mistake and it is never "Her" fault. Drives me nuts.

Everyone knows who and what she is but it still bothers me. I bite my lip and pretend to not notice or should I say...I pretend that it does not bother me...Management is aware and they just let it happen. I am afraid that some unsuspecting person is going to blow up one day. Which means they will look like the bad one and not her....GRRRRRRR!

Thanks for letting me rant:imbar

[Diahni]

Why is it that there is always that one person who feels it is necessary to spread rumors and talk about everyone? I cannot stand it when people gossip. It drives me absolutely crazy when I hear something about someone or myself that is absolutely not true, especially when the one starting all of the rumors also talks about herself like she is the "Cats Meow".

Sorry, I just need to vent. Someone at work has been spreading silly stories about a few of us and it has really bored a hole under my skin. She puffs her chest out like she is the top banana when she is no better than anyone else, and tries to make people feel below her. You know the type...makes a mistake and it is never "Her" fault. Drives me nuts.

Everyone knows who and what she is but it still bothers me. I bite my lip and pretend to not notice or should I say...I pretend that it does not bother me...Management is aware and they just let it happen. I am afraid that some unsuspecting person is going to blow up one day. Which means they will look like the bad one and not her....GRRRRRRR!

Thanks for letting me rant:imbar

So sorry, my dear. Yes, they're out there. What are some people like this? Are they unhappy, or just plain mean? Maybe both. In any case, "stuck people stick people." I am still in nursing school and see how there's one in every bunch, nurse or student. Management/teachers are just a big zero about this stuff. I have some real jerks as fellow students, spreading rumors about how so and so messed up, etc. Some of my personal faves, an older male student steps back from a door and says to me, "Age before beauty." He's gotta be five years younger than me, but imagines the younger students see him as a stud, I suppose. Pot belly and all. Then there's the student who suggested I thought a room was hot because I was having a hot flash. Hey, mean people stink, and be glad you're not one of them! Do some creative imagining, that the person is actually an annoying insect, and blow 'em off. They're not worth the time of day, and certainly not worth your time. Easy to say, harder to do, but the LAST thing you want to do is engage with them. Don't get into "urination" contests with a skunk! That they're mean does more damage to them than you. Be above it all and remember that what they say says more about them than your, or any one else!

Diahni

[muffie, RN]

Boldly change the subject when this person starts her thing. When you hear her talking about someone behind their back, tell her to take it to the person she is running down. If she runs you down address her infront of others, and let her know how you feel about her statments about you.

Peolpe who practice this are very insecure, and are only trying to put themselves in a better light, but it never works. She will not have any friends, and will never face her true problems. Once everyone bring her problems into light, well she will change. Once she starts to change, make her feel good about her new behavior. Love the sinner, not the sin.

well said

only the hurting hurt others

[Diahni]

Interesting, it was best to leave. I believe you were dealing with a sociopath, a very dangerous person.

Kinda scary to think this person is a nurse! Maybe your marriage is a source of envy for this person. And to think he "lets" you travel by yourself! I say she's seething with envy, and who knows, likes your husband too. Thank God you switched jobs!

Diahni

[Weeping Willow]

sometimes these things can go too far. i was working at a facility with a group of staff that were notorious for gossiping and causing problem for those that were outside their clan.

i once went to a convention and while i was gone someone decided to call my husband and tell him that the reason i went was to cover up the fact that i was having an affair. (i absolutely was not) he then started getting emails graphically detailing my supposed infidelity.

there was one employee that had my husbands email address (because i gave it to her so she could forward on a joke to him) but she was the only one. this actually went on for a few weeks and worsened in intensity.

the joke was on them as my husband and i have a very strong relationship and this incident only made it stronger. my point is though, this type of behavior can escalate into much bigger problems than "just gossiping" if left unnoticed.

i ended up getting a great job offer and left this job abruptly as i just could not take any more. i really don't think that was the best solution for the actual problems, but it kept me sane. i am quite sure after i left they targeted someone else and the problem continued.

good luck with your co-workers and just remember things can get out of hand if allowed to.

i hope you sued her for slander. or is it libel? either way, do it.

[Diahni]

I hope you sued her for slander. Or is it libel? Either way, do it.

WeepingWillow: What a tale! It reminds me of the mischief that idle and evil minds can get into with the internet. A small population of people have always done this kind of thing - but the internet makes it oh so much easier - did you hear of the young girl who committed suicide after being stalked by the parent of a girl she was feuding with? I can understand wanting to pursue a legal battle with somebody who did this to you, but just as easily understand why you'd want to just high tail it out of there as soon as you could. Did you have an incident that prompted her to do this, or is she just pure evil? I worked with a girl that loved to say insulting things to me - in a clinical lab I said I thought it was hot, so she said maybe you're just having a hot flash. Not that bad, just ugly and gratuitous. Why are some people like this? My only answer is, "Because they are." Thank God you have a good marriage. Can you imagine what would have happened to a woman whose husband was extremely jealous? Would this nutjob be responsible if something happened to a jealous guy's wife?

Diahni

[lil' girl, LPN]

Just smile sweetly and when she gets to a stopping point ask her if she is finished then walk away. She will get the message and you don't have to put yourself at risk. True this may not stop her, but YOU will get YOUR point across to her.:wink2: