nursing jobs for wife right out of nursing school

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Howdy all,My wife will graduate nursing school here in Colorado Springs, CO at PPCC next May. She has told me that she doesn't want to work in the Springs because they don't pay nurses right out of school very well. I have asked her if she has looked up in Denver and she hasn't. I am also in the USAF active duty and I don't retire until Dec 09. After that I have told her I would move anywhere she wants to work. So I am being proactive and trying to find out from anyone that can help me where is the best place to go to find out about nursing jobs in Denver for nurses right out of school? Also, what is the pay scale like there? She has been thinking about going to Phoenix, AZ area because she has family there to work right out of school. Is that a better area than Denver? The thing is we also have three kids, my USAF committment, so she would be living with family and I would be here with the kids. I am trying to get all the info I can together so that I can show her that she doesn't have to leave right after school to work and to just wait three years for me to retire....thanks,

Specializes in Ortho, Med surg and L&D.
Part of the reason is that we are having some marital difficulties (and I know that there are other forums for stuff like this but since most of y'all out there are women then I do appreciate your opinion), we are going to counseling as am I for myself, she has not started for herself yet. ....

Hello hubby,

Okay, now that you've explained a little more I do have a suggestion for you.

You need to take care of yourself and she needs to take care of her responsibilities and herself. She has clearly demonstrated a lack of desire to have you 'help' her. Besides, it almost sounds as if she is trying to run away and abandon you and your children, not to find a reasonable work life. Her issues right now are not YOUR problem, her issues right now are apparently going to cause consequences that you will have to deal with.

Let her figure it all out herself and stop burning your energy, it is an obvious waste. You have much more to consider, your children's happiness is far more important in my opinion than what you are expending for your grown up and supposedly mature partner.

Sounds like she has greater issues. She is sucking the life out of you like a vacuum. IMO.

You've been given great advice here regarding the fact that her degree and license are only part of her marketability, once she graduates she needs to complete it by building on it with her experience.

Good luck, keep your counselor, keep doing things for yourself, regardless of what is going to happen with your wife.

Gen

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Oh Boy! While I appreciate your concern and willingness to do this research for your wife, it sounds as if she really doesn't want this information. I can't imagine my ex-hubby looking for this info for me while we were still married, yet in counseling.

Her graduation and seeking a job does impact your life, yet it is still her responsibility to job hunt and information seek.

Good luck! and add me to the list of "thank-yous" for defending the USA.

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Specializes in LTC,Hospice/palliative care,acute care.

I think she is yanking your chain.Don't be a patsy.Do what you have to do to take care of your self.Let her do the same.By the time she graduates next May she will have a better idea of what she wants to do and it is not your responsibility to find her a job.Good Luck

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Yep. ditto x3. YOu can't find her a job. it's her responsibility to do so. In fact if I were a recruiter and a hubby called me on behalf of their spouse I wouldn't be impressed. She is a professional to be; and should act accordingly in finding her own job. It sounds like she has no desire to stick around. And, you are in denial.... so the thing is you have until May to work on your marriage and I suggest you do so.

Re moving to keep the kids near both parents....good idea. My kids have suffered b/c my ex will NOT move to be near them.

Seek your destiny, and remember only you control what YOu do not her; she is responsible for her own choices....do what is best for the kids and if that means following her around, do it so long as you don't loose who you are as a person in the meantime (and I doubt you would). Not saying "stalk" her ...lol...just saying....you all can have your own space while letting the kids be active in both lives. OR....have them fly like so many other kids....

But face reality you are being shut off by your wife...and just go on with what you need to do...and remember ....you only can change your OWN behavior and thinking....not hers.

Good luck!

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Wow, I must have missed something in these posts because it seems to me that everyone posting is jumping to some pretty big conclusions about Hubbyof's wife.

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Specializes in LTC,Hospice/palliative care,acute care.
Wow, I must have missed something in these posts because it seems to me that everyone posting is jumping to some pretty big conclusions about Hubbyof's wife.
Really? Go back and read the posts-especially the 4th one where he finally admits to marital difficulties and states he is in counseling but she is not...I would not say anyone here is jumping to conclusions.I would say we are a really intuitive bunch...
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Or maybe she is a mother of three and in nursing school. She might not have a second to spare at the moment.

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Wow! She is willing to move to another state and LEAVE HER CHILDREN WITH YOU?:uhoh21: WARNING RED FLAG RED FLAG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I say that because I can't imagine why she needs to do that. Her family lives in AZ so she can get help with the kids if she works nights or weekends. Nope instead she would rather leave the kids with you. What are you going to do when you have duty on the weekends or evenings? God forbid you get deployed I bet she has to take the kids then.

To be honest we have no idea what your marital problems are. The fact that she has not gone to counseling yet does not mean anything to me. Who knows you might be physically and/or emotionally abusive and she is just done with you. However, if that was the case I don't see any mother leaving her kids with someone like that.

I am not trying to beat up on your wife it is just that I only have biased info to go off of. Take a look at the full picture and do what is best for your kids.

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First of all, congratulations on staying sober for one year. I am very proud of you and pray you will have 50+ years of sobriety.

You need to stay in counseling and continue doing what ever your counselor says, as long as it's legal and moral! (and doesn't transfer your addictive personality to another addiction)

Your wife needs counseling for herself! It's great that she goes with you to work on your couple isssues, but she has many issues that need to be addressed without you in the room!

Question: how are the kids? Do they know? Are they in counseling?

Prepare yourself for the possibility that your wife returned to school to give herself the option to leave you when she graduates. Again, I don't know you or your circumstances, but they hit pretty close to home, if you know what I mean.

I appreciate your candor and transparency, especially regarding the most difficult addiction there is. It also has the largest number of addicts. I am so glad you are an ex-addict now!

Know that many who read this forum are cheering you on from the side lines and praying your marriage survives.

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http://www.salary.com will give your wife idea if she is getting offer of pay

that is appropriate for the area.

Lots of hospitals offer nursing grads and students money to pay for

the debt they incurred during nursing school...........help the pay off

their education debt by working for them...........get pay plus the

bonuses. It is something to consider.........see if it is worth it

to take it. She could probably find something like that where you

all live now.

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Specializes in ED, ICU, MS/MT, PCU, CM, House Sup, Frontline mgr.

Hi, I have to agree with the other posters that your wife is finding an excuse not to be with you. Most places outside of CA do not pay new grads much more then 18-20/hr. Some might pay 21-22, but that is it.. including Arizona. Check www.salary.com.

My hubby is Active Duty as well. The place we are stationed only has a CC. I have two degrees and so I qualify to attend an Accelerated BSN program or a MSN program if I pick up the kids and move. Those are not options for me even if I could get a full ride scholarship. Moving would hurt him and me.

Every year since we have been married he has been deployed 6-8 months out of the year. However, the idea of me being in the home we bought together makes him feel better when he is away. The idea of coming back to an empty house because I took the kids and went to school away from him, saddens him and thus saddens me. :(

I hope you continue with counseling and receiving the help you need. But it sounds like your wife is finished with your marriage. She probably cannot get over the 14 years of living with your addiction. She is also probably making excuses she thinks you will believe inorder to leave without hurting your feelings too much.

I would also like to add that many women go into nursing because the pay is enough to live on one income and leave bad marriages. Many people on here can probably tell you of at least 5 student nurses they knew or know that chose a nursing career to leave a bad relationship. So, you might want to take that into consideration. This may not be the case for her, but it would not surprise me if that was her intention from the beginning. Good luck.

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Specializes in NA - 100 years ago.

Luke AFB in AZ is a pretty nice place and you would be able to use your retirement benefits there. (We do.) If I were your wife, I'd apply where-ever I thought I might want to work and see which opportunities present themselves.

I hope things work out between you two. Good luck.

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