Love in the OR

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I recently entered into an intense relationship at work with an anesthetist I have worked with for 3 years. We have always been close, and have worked together as partners, so we thought no one would notice the change in our relationship. Wrong! Although we make it a point not to touch inappropriately or disappear together at work, people can tell when a man and a woman are in love. Within 2 weeks, our small hospital was abuzz with the gossip about our affair, and many people have the nerve to approach me about it.

I know that our jobs are not in jeopardy as long as we conduct ourselves professsionally, but the gossip is stressing me out. How should I handle this situation?

Originally posted by nursnancy

OK, I'm obviously going to be in the minority with this opinion, but, if you are certain that neither of your jobs will be in jeopardy if you conduct yourselves professionally, why not just tell your co-workers that you are dating? It seems to me that the truth might help to put a halt to speculative rumors. If there is no mystery, they may lose interest in the subject.

If you two are in love then he should have no problems admitting to your relationship and making public the fact that he has been separated for two years. After that the rumours should settle down.

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Originally posted by nursnancy

OK, I'm obviously going to be in the minority with this opinion, but, if you are certain that neither of your jobs will be in jeopardy if you conduct yourselves professionally, why not just tell your co-workers that you are dating? It seems to me that the truth might help to put a halt to speculative rumors. If there is no mystery, they may lose interest in the subject.

If you two are in love then he should have no problems admitting to your relationship and making public the fact that he has been separated for two years. After that the rumours should settle down.

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LOVE IN THE OR?????:confused: Or maybe just lust? iether way he needs to fess up..... I haven't known many to be ashamed of LOVE... on the other hand lust =shame... maybe.;)

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LOVE IN THE OR?????:confused: Or maybe just lust? iether way he needs to fess up..... I haven't known many to be ashamed of LOVE... on the other hand lust =shame... maybe.;)

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hey it's your life...ruin it however you choose! i have a co-worker in a similar situation. her affair does carry over onto the job and it's very unprofessional and distracting. look at yourself in the mirror. are you the other woman who always comes second or worthy of being first in someone's life? if he thinks you are so wonderful, then he'd surely make his separation and your relationship public! he's a letch who can't make a choice or has made one and it isn't you! i know you love this guy, but he's an a$$. face it. i feel bad for you. i was in love w/ a married guy once too and it's a real dead end 99% of the time.

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hey it's your life...ruin it however you choose! i have a co-worker in a similar situation. her affair does carry over onto the job and it's very unprofessional and distracting. look at yourself in the mirror. are you the other woman who always comes second or worthy of being first in someone's life? if he thinks you are so wonderful, then he'd surely make his separation and your relationship public! he's a letch who can't make a choice or has made one and it isn't you! i know you love this guy, but he's an a$$. face it. i feel bad for you. i was in love w/ a married guy once too and it's a real dead end 99% of the time.

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Ha .. :D I was in love with a MArried guy once too :nono:... had 4 children with him :eek: :rolleyes: He was married...2 ME!!! but not if you asked around where he worked or played golf ...or partied and danced every weekend... Lets just say what goes around , goes around again....and vengence was no part of my valor..I have just watched WHAT go and come... I am blessed and HE? well he gets mercy... SHE (the other) has had a horrible and shallow existance.... Beware.. it is a no WIN situation for the "other" woman. Be your own woman.. be smart...be rid of him.

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Ha .. :D I was in love with a MArried guy once too :nono:... had 4 children with him :eek: :rolleyes: He was married...2 ME!!! but not if you asked around where he worked or played golf ...or partied and danced every weekend... Lets just say what goes around , goes around again....and vengence was no part of my valor..I have just watched WHAT go and come... I am blessed and HE? well he gets mercy... SHE (the other) has had a horrible and shallow existance.... Beware.. it is a no WIN situation for the "other" woman. Be your own woman.. be smart...be rid of him.

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