Group Mentality or Shining Star? (Vent)

[hbncns35]

Good afternoon -

On my way out the door to get a much needed massage.

Just had to vent for what its worth-

I certainly remember what it was like to be in high school but I thought people would have found themselves at the end of a four year degree.

Not such the case. Fortunately many of my friends are outside of school and are worthwhile. It bothers me slightly that I can sit at a table during a 45min break and see 10 of my fellow classmates come and sit at the table in front of me and beside me but none of them are brave enough to sit with me. I don't miss much because I hear their conversations and they are talking about questions on the test we just took. Did you put that? or what did you get for question 5? I really hate the group mentality. It does nothing for interpersonal skills especially when you agree with the members of your group and not develop a mind of your own. Granted I am 15 yrs older than they are but a simple hello would be fine. I get lots of smiles but no attempts at conversation. It's quite frustrating. Even the people I work with as a pct can talk intelligently. I get alot of rude remarks from the students at school and when I do try to communicate with them, I ,ignored or my questions aren't answered. I realize they are overgrown adolescents but PLeeeeease....Is that what I have to look forward to when my kids get older??? Anyone have any thoughts on group mentality and following the buffalo off the cliff? One says one thing and they all follow-

Geeeesh!!!!HB:madface: :madface:

[nurse4theplanet, RN]

All my life I have been painfully shy. "Fight or flight?" I always took the flight. I remember in my 3rd try at nursing school I was between 10-15 years older than some or rather most of my classmates.

One day a fellow student named E. said "You know I aways thought you were Stuck-Up because you never talked. Wow my impression of me and her's were on opposite poles. I'm still shy, but now I know that a smile and a "how are you?" might just get a friendship started.

If you're studying, perhaps a "y'all excuse me for not chatting, but I really have to re-read this chapter." After all it was in a public place and while they obviously were inter-acting with each other, did you try to acknowledge them?

I know what you mean here. I have been horribly shy my whole life and it takes a long time for me to 'break the ice' with new people. Once I feel comfortable around somebody I come out of my shell drastically, and they tell me, "I always thought you were such a stuck up b****! But now that I know you I can't believe I ever thought that!" I can't get too upset, seeing as how I probably contributed to the icy appearance. They never believe me when I say I am shy.

[smk1, LPN]

they may simply think that you aren't interested in talking to them. they also may have picked up on the fact taht you don't like to discuss the material as a group, and so don't feel comfortable with you when they are doing this. I agree a simple acknowledgement though is common courtesy. Try smiling or approaching them first. May help. I start in the spring, and while i have a coupld of friends with whom i am sure i will form a loose study group with, i am not big on the group thing either. With the right people it can be a great learning enhancement tool, and as i know of a couple of friends from A&P who will be starting with me, i already know that we study and work well together, and our kids are similar ages and will play, so that we can study.

[smk1, LPN]

All my life I have been painfully shy. "Fight or flight?" I always took the flight. I remember in my 3rd try at nursing school I was between 10-15 years older than some or rather most of my classmates.

One day a fellow student named E. said "You know I aways thought you were Stuck-Up because you never talked. Wow my impression of me and her's were on opposite poles. I'm still shy, but now I know that a smile and a "how are you?" might just get a friendship started.

If you're studying, perhaps a "y'all excuse me for not chatting, but I really have to re-read this chapter." After all it was in a public place and while they obviously were inter-acting with each other, did you try to acknowledge them?

my sister is this way as well, and most people think she is extremely stuck up and have no idea how badly she would like to be part of the group, or have the self confidence to speak first. She has been rejected before and therefore finds it less painful to just not put herself "out there", than to risk trying to make a new friend and being laughed at. She is 32 years old going on 33. :uhoh21: the lessons of childhood don't leave you...